Pregnancy #62

[LockdownLurker2020]

I was 100% convinced this baby was a boy and was so shocked to be having a girl still wont believe it til she is born

 

[Shinythings]

All good at 12 week scan, just one baby! I wanted to wait for a surprise but now I’ve seen the skull shape I have a really strong feeling and want to see if I’m right. What do we think?

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I think it's hard to tell. I wouldn't say it's definitely one way or the other.

 

[Angrysue_]

Speaking of scans! When would everyone say is the best time for a 4D scan?

I wonder this too, and are they worth it ?

 

[themuffinwoman]

That makes me feel so much better thank you!! I’ve been so careful all year but been to hospital a couple of times recently and women brought their disgusting partners that coughed everywhere, wandered into our cubicle coughing, and used the patient only toilet etc so I’m assuming I picked up their illness from that I think it triggered me a bit as I was really poorly with sinusitis when I had a loss before even though I know and have been told it wasn’t connected I feel like death warmed up but I feel better that the baby is up and moving now, she’s probably just had a lazy day

If you’re worried deffo ring- but also (and appreciate you may not feel like this with a chest infection!) does anything like a fizzy drink or hot drink wake baby up? My daughter would go crazy after a 7up lol. Hope you feel better soon!

 

[Shinythings]

Unfortunately the statistics have caught up with me. I had a 10 week scan this morning and the baby died at 8 weeks. I always knew that she had a miserable chance of survival, but I honestly thought I'd be one of the lucky ones. It wasn't to be.

I am so very sorry. I hope you get through this as peacefully as you can

 

[anything at all]

We never told anyone our firsts name until he was born, I think a few people were like huh that’s unusual but thankfully no suggestion’s or real judgement.

Plan on keeping our chosen name quiet again until this one is born as well, though my number 1 choice we can’t use now because my partner already told people - I’m sure he did it on purpose cause he didn’t like it. I was hoping it would grow on him lol

I’m so stuck for boy names that work with our LOs name plus our last name!

 

[LockdownLurker2020]

You can ring the community midwives office number and they will either post one out to you or you can pick it up from the clinic usually it’s given between 20-24 weeks but most areas don’t offer a 24 week appointment unless it’s first baby

Ah fab okay thank you for this info its really useful.

 

[Scorpihoe]

@Amylaauren @Poppykisses87 thank you so much ladies 🥹 so happy to be here with such a supportive bunch

im only 4 weeks, 2 days so ill float the idea around of the sneak peak test with my husband and see how he feels!

 

[101d]

Our gender scan was done privately at 19 weeks

 

[User767676]

Bit late to the party but thought I’d share some
Thoughts as a ftm who had a c section

I used disposable pants for a couple of days with Tesco maternity pads then moved on to big black pants with Tesco maternity pads. They were really soft and would recommend. After your c section they just shove a pad and a puppy pad under you whilst your catheter is in. I bled for about a week and then it tailed off and stopped but it did randomly start in the night and I was covered in blood so just beware.

I would have had an induction over c section
If I had the choice but now I’ve had a c section I can understand why people choose it , however it is major surgery and not being able to drive for so long was a real pain, if I had another I would go for induction again unless medically advised

 

[Hinchhater1442]

Controversial, but with our first we actually had both sets of parents visit almost as soon as we got home from hospital. That way it bought us a little bit of time before they visited again, which was especially helpful when day 5 hit, the baby blues were strong and my milk was just coming in. And my parents brought a takeaway for us and made sure we could eat it hot.

we initially planned to wait a week for visitors and had told parents we weren’t ready for visitors straight away, but that’s just what worked for us.

Sorry yes to clarify my comment about saying no and putting your foot down early.. for us it was after those first initial meetings.
So all parents had met baby by day 5. But beyond that was when we said no to establish the boundary. MIL met the baby and then 4 days later asked to come again, which I felt was too much. Particularly because we never saw her very often before having baby.. maybe once every 2 months. I know it’s nice that she was interested, but I knew the novelty would wear off (and it has) and all she really wanted was some newborn snuggles. She was never helpful, never bought food or offered to bring anything. Was the type of visitor to expect one of us to make her a drink too rather than help herself/offer to make one for us!
My advice to anyone would be do what your comfortable with, I knew I didn’t want to deprive anyone of meeting my baby, but beyond that it wasn’t necessary to be at my house all the time!

 

[Angrysue_]

Hi ladies

I found out I was pregnant this week and its absolute shock as we have been trying for over 3 years! Dr has assumed I'm 7 weeks today based on my last period, but I tend to have longer irregular cycles and I think their prediction might have me ahead by at least a week. I took a Clearblue a couple of days ago came back with 2-3 weeks.

The day after I found out I was very nauseous and many symptoms but for the past 24 hours I've just had cramping/food aversions!! I know it's pretty normal but I'm trying to not freak out lol. I'm really impatient and just want to be at 12 weeks !

Amazing news! It's the best feeling after trying for so long isn't it. Very scary though and desperate to know everything is going to be ok.

You can pay for private early scans, I did it to put my mind at rest, always an option for you..

Massive congratulations 🩷🩵🩷🩵

 

[Jaybob]

Can I ask - how did you decide you wanted to find out the sex? I feel like I do as I’m a planner / more logical (eg only have to think of one set of names) but my boyfriend wants to wait. Others have also said they wanted to wait until birth.

I'm a knitter, I'm having a NIPT on Tuesday and will then be excited to buy some coloured wool. I'm going to keep it a secret from the family and let my son do a gender reveal cannon (though he'll have serious gender disappointment if it's a girl)

 

[Super_Berry]

So after two hospital visits, two scans to make sure I could fly, £30 for the fit to fly letter, not one Ryanair staff member even remotely looked at my bump nevermind asked to see the letter.

 

[scouseconstantine]

After hysterically crying to my boyfriend last week because I couldn’t feel movement, this baby won’t stop moving! I don’t know if it’s because I’m off work at the minute and not as busy but she just doesn’t stop and I swear I just felt either her foot or her head about to come through the side of my stomach

 

[Greencatfysh]

You can ask for a hospital gown if you want
What I will say is lots of women start off with a nighty on and end up giving birth in those soft bras you can get, some even prefer nothing on their skin at all. It’s all personal preference.

Just to add, if you want an epidural, the hospital gowns allow good access for it so sometimes you may be asked to change in to one

I bought the FridaMom nightgown as it has poppers, back access etc. In the past hospital gowns have been fiddly and don’t always close properly at the back which I thought might bug me. However I do think you’re not really gonna care/notice

 

[anything at all]

I’m not sure if it’s just me freaking out or if it’s common.. I’m booked in for induction tomorrow. I wanted a nice relaxing maternity leave but my partner didn’t really help with the prep and left a lot to do until the very last minute and now I’m feeling the pressure of trying to get everything done this weekend as well as being heavily pregnant and all the pains and discomforts of that. I’m a fucking mess. I want to reschedule the induction for a few dsys time just so I have enough time to mentally prepare myself

With my first my waters broke unexpectedly at 36+5, they kept me in hospital and I didn’t have baby until bang on 37 weeks (induction because labour never properly started). I got home the day after baby came and came back to a mess of a house.
I thought I had 2-3 weeks before baby. Longer to prepare, tidy and clean but I didn’t. And honestly none of it mattered really.

I’d say as long as you’ve got everything ready for you and baby at home then it really doesn’t matter too much about anything else, though it does feel like it. Hope all goes well x

 

[Super_Berry]

I can't sleep either I was up at 4.30am on the sofa last night and managed to fall back asleep around 6 for an hour. I don't feel as uncomfortable in bed as I did feel around 25 weeks (I'm 32 now) but I just can't sleep.

 

[scouseconstantine]

Currently 31 weeks pregnant with a head down baby, or at least it was at 29 weeks.

I seem to be having lots of movement low in my belly but not kicks, more like rolling/movement from side to side - could this be the head? I also randomly get a small hard round lump that stretches out to my right side - could this be a foot?

I keep thinking she might have flipped positions so just wondered if anyone else has the same, as I keep reading head down babies make the most movement under the ribs.

I also seem to have 2 bulges either side of my belly button so I can't work out where her back is. Basically.. I'm confused!!

I’m 34 weeks and keep getting random feet or hands or something at my sides can’t for the life of me figure out which ones they are could be the head for all I know. I have no idea how the midwives can tell what body part is which because they all just feel the same to me

 

[anything at all]

I had CVS done at around 15 weeks (as I didn’t want to wait until 16 weeks for the amniocentesis) but I think they are almost identical procedures, just CVS is taking a sample of the placenta rather than the amniotic fluid. I was so nervous ahead of the appointment because of the risks involved and the potential of finding out bad news but the consultant, doctor and midwife who carried it out were so lovely and made me feel really at ease. They said I could watch/listen to something on my phone as a distraction but I wanted to feel present so just watched the sonograph screen instead. Pain wise it felt like a punch to the stomach (I don’t know how to word that without making it sound scary, because it really didn't *hurt*, just took my breath away for a second) and then the next 24-48 hours I just felt very tender like bad period pains. The procedure itself took less than 10 minutes and really wasn’t too bad, although I made the mistake of looking at the needle near the end which made me feel a bit light headed I feel like the CVS would be more painful as it is taking a sample of the placenta rather than the fluid, so I hope it may not be as uncomfortable for you. They told us the gender of the baby which was so lovely and we got our results back about 3 days later I believe, which thankfully were all clear. I am 37 weeks now and have a little scar on my tummy.

Sorry for the essay but I hope this reassures you, make sure to take it easy after the appointment too. I took the next day off work and made sure not to lift anything heavy or do too much. Good luck

thank you so much xx