I was 100% convinced this baby was a boy and was so shocked to be having a girl still wont believe it til she is born 
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I'm signed up to a pregnancy portal with my midwives that sends week by week info. From this week (6) I can donate my wee to make fertility drugs for other women. Has anyone done this? As it takes an average of 5 years to get pregnant, I'm no stranger to infertility, (though I've had no actual treatment myself) I think I'd like to be able to help someone with that kind of pain. Is it a bit weird???? I think you store it in bottles which I assume are picked up each week. We only have a small bathroom with no storage, so I don't want to freak out my son. I don't know what to do!
Had my baby shower today and my mum organised it and she honestly gave 100% to it, decorated beautifully, just fabulous and couldn’t be more grateful for her and the effort she made!
But many people I thought would come didn’t (some family and friends), and the guests that did come didn’t talk to me much including my own nan or come to just to see me, just an excuse for a drink. Made me question whether people even like me, it felt like lonely in a room full of people situation.
I’m trying not to be upset or think of the day negatively as my mum and others put so much effort in to make it amazing for me.
Just needed to rant really without feeling bad about it
But many people I thought would come didn’t (some family and friends), and the guests that did come didn’t talk to me much including my own nan or come to just to see me, just an excuse for a drink. Made me question whether people even like me, it felt like lonely in a room full of people situation.
I’m trying not to be upset or think of the day negatively as my mum and others put so much effort in to make it amazing for me.
Just needed to rant really without feeling bad about it
That's really weird! I'm sorry that happened to you. Did everyone know you are pregnant? Or was the whole thing a big shock? I have a cousin who has ignored me since my kid was born as they can't cope. Maybe your guests were uncomfortable about "talking baby stuff" with you? So didn't know what to say? Maybe you should ask someone you trust if you were being ignored, or is it just your expectations and hormones? Was everyone quieter than normal?
Thank you. Yeah everyone knew I was pregnant for ages and happy for me. They haven’t got a problem talking about baby stuff as most of them are parents or are older.
Just felt like people didn’t really talk to me, I’m trying not to dwell on it and just want to move on from it now rather than bring it up to people as can’t change it now.
I'm really sorry to hear this. I know it's easier said that done, but try not to focus on it too much. It's such a lovely thing your mum did and you can't control how other people were.
I'm not doing a baby shower myself and instead opting for a dinner with my parents. To be honest, I could even pass on that. I lost my sister last year and celebrating without her feels really sad for me but my parents have been insisting on doing something and that was the easiest thing to do.
Thank you! Yeah I’m trying to focus on the positives like my mum etc.
I did the shower as I wanted to have the experience and celebrate my daughter and not regret not having one but if I ever have another baby I will deffo be keeping it low-key like a meal with family or something.
Awh I’m so sorry for your loss 🤍 sending you lots of love!
Bought myself a can of coke this morning as a little treat from home bargains…dropped it in the floor leaving the shop and it burst open, stained my white jumper and just generally embarrassed me 
Does anyone know if I happen to go overdue with my baby, can I request a c-section instead of being induced?
I plan to ask my midwife at my next appointment as my preference would be to have a c-section date booked in if I’ve not gone into spontaneous labour. But I just want to know if anyone knows if that’s possible and when I’d be able to request it?
I hope that makes sense!
I plan to ask my midwife at my next appointment as my preference would be to have a c-section date booked in if I’ve not gone into spontaneous labour. But I just want to know if anyone knows if that’s possible and when I’d be able to request it?
I hope that makes sense!
Mine is a bit different, but I have been told for medical reasons they want to induce at 39 weeks. I’ve said book me in for a section - if I go naturally then I’ll go with it, but I don’t want an induction and that’s all in my notes. They’ve booked me for a pre op at 38 weeks, so just see what happens!
Yes you absolutely can. I always told my midwife if they ever felt the need to induce me then I’d be requesting a c section instead and she was happy with this. I’d probably let them know sooner rather than later. so some people hope for spontaneous and book in an induction for say 31 weeks just in case, so the same idea for you, however you may have a few hoops to jump through first eg be lectured on the risk of c section etc
It may vary trust to trust, so the sooner you make them aware of this the better I think X
Thank you so much ladies - I’m a bit worried I’ve maybe left it too late to ask now and fingers crossed we go spontaneously but the more I’ve thought about it I really don’t want to be induced but I’m also not comfortable with going too far over!
Can I check with previous new mamas - I’ve been warned to get a) tons and tons of maternity pads as you can expect to bleed so much in the days following (obviously I expect this but how much do you actually get)? I was also warned off buying the Tena incontinence knickers as they can create a more damp environment for healing wounds and
b) told to get dark coloured sheets and some kind of mattress protector or puppy training pads for the days after birth. How many people actually needed those things?
b) told to get dark coloured sheets and some kind of mattress protector or puppy training pads for the days after birth. How many people actually needed those things?
Yes, so i got the Asda maternity pads which are really cushioned (so good for stitches) and then I got the Tesco ones after a few days because these are slimmer and overall I preferred them. I think I used at least 3 packs of maternity pads. Tbh it felt like I bled forever, it was at least two weeks (but when I had my c-section it didn’t feel as long - I may be miss-remembering though).
never heard of using tena incontinence pads - I’m a bit of one for using the right product for the issue though.
and yes, I got the disposable bed mats, we still use them for no nappy time, sickness bugs etc and use them during night time potty training so they are handy to have around. I would just buy a pack of them (I got mine from Amazon) and see how you go. I used to use them as disposable changing mats as well. When my waters broke I just used one for sitting on at home and also in the car to the hospital. When you’re at hospital they give you some from there.
Invest in a waterproof mattress protector - get at least two for now and ever more with small children about - better safe than sorry.
This is probably a stupid question but are the pads that are labelled as "for postnatal incontinence" also suitable for bleeding? Or do I need thicker ones for dealing with the blood? For some reason postnatal pads is what my mind is choosing to overthink today
I’ve bought disposable knickers and 2 boxes of super thick cushioned maternity pads and then 3 packs of 0-3 weeks post birth pads to start off and then I’ll order/get more of which ever I find I prefer! So still the same sort of thing as incontinence pants I guess but the disposable knickers seem quite breathable!
I’ve also bought incontinence pads off amazon to use to protect the mattress/to sit on if my waters go at home/to use as disposable changing mats!
I am a first time mum so perhaps others can offer a first hand experience of this BUT I am a nurse and did deal with assessing and organising continence pads for the elderly. We had a younger patient who had issues with vaginal bleeding who wanted the tena continence pads provided by the NHS for this but tena explained they aren’t made for menstruation/bleeding and would not absorb to the same level or as quickly as a sanitary pad.This is probably a stupid question but are the pads that are labelled as "for postnatal incontinence" also suitable for bleeding? Or do I need thicker ones for dealing with the blood? For some reason postnatal pads is what my mind is choosing to overthink today
This could make you more uncomfortable and lead to infection etc etc.
bur perhaps any of the ladies who have actually tried it could advise better!
Thank you so much!
Yeah this is what I’ve heard too, that the actual pads are better. Maybe after a few weeks the disposable pants could be handy. I hope so as i accidentally bought 24 pairs in a Boots offer
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