Pregnancy #46

[WotsitG1]

Had appointment with consultant this morning. We have now decided on a C section around 38 weeks.
Due to babies predicted size with GD. Feels a relief to have made a decision but I’m still so so nervous.

 

[shhh1712]

my last day of work today so ready to be finished now, I’ll be 38 weeks on Sunday and proud of myself for getting this far reallly hoping he doesn’t come for a week at least to have a bit of downtime!

 

[Cjh78]

Sorry to change the topic of conversation, but has anyone had a water birth? I was adamant I was having one last time and couldn’t due to having to be induced and other complications along the way, but I did initially labour in the bath on the ward and felt a million times better being submerged in warm water - both pain and relaxation wise. Anyway, I am intending on having one this time round however every time I mention it to someone, they pull their face / list the problems with it / tell me horror stories / are just generally very negative (it always seems to be ‘my friend of a friend had one and … ‘ and not themselves typically ) . Does anyone have any first hand experience please?

I had a water birth with my daughter 6 years ago. It wasn’t planned and I hadn’t even considered it. When I was in labour I couldn’t find any position that was comfortable and I just paced up and down. My midwife suggested a water birth as the pool was free and I was reluctant at first as I like baths really warm and thought I’d get cold! She told me to try it and if I didn’t like it then I could get out. As soon as I got in the water, the weight was lifted from my body, it felt amazing. I was in there for an hour before I started pushing.
It was so relaxing and calm, I would recommend it to anyone.
My baby entered the world in such a calm way and in turn, she was a very calm baby.
I’m pregnant with my second now and would love for my experience to be just like my previous (but I know it may not be possible!)
Sorry this turned into an essay!

 

[WeepingCassandra]

1000% what would have made a difference for us was having easy meals. I had planned to do some cooking ahead for the freezer the weekend my waters broke we have tried to make things easier where we can (ready meals/easy cook things/pre prepared veg/take aways ) but my FIL has sent round a few meals where we only need to do rice or pasta and it's made such a difference to our evenings.

My MIL keeps taking laundry away to do for us as well!

Can you tell my husband this please? I keep prepping and freezing stuff and he keeps taking it to work for his lunch

 

[WeepingCassandra]

So things have escalated slightly. I’ve still got bleeding from my cervix and whilst they can’t be sure my waters have broken they have high confidence based on my last cervical exam that my hind waters have indeed gone. On the last exam my cervix was open enough for her to feel baby’s head as well. Along with that I’ve been having intermittent tightening which is irregular - however my mum told me today that both her and my sister had irregular contractions with both their babies so that might just be a me thing. Definitely showing contractions on the metre.

So now we’re on the list for induction. Not ideal, not what I wanted particularly but after talking to several people and doing some research it seems sensible. I think the bleeding is the most worrying part tbh. Could be from the placenta, could be from the cervix but it’s been going on since yesterday evening now so not worth the risk

 

[Wild_she]

Nee to this thread and just want to rant!
Im pregnant with my third and having the worst pregnancy. I’ve had hyperemesis since we found out that’s never given up, im 24 weeks and a bit now and been on every anti sickness med under the sun, I still throw up on them and have constant nausea… I’ve been put on crutches for pelvic pain and last week I had sepsis from a kidney infection (I’ve had none stop UTI’s) and it was discovered my kidney isn’t draining and I need a drain fitting into my kidney that will drain into a bag. I’ve had two hospital admissions from the kidney issues and I’m likely to get more. They’ve told me I’m now likely to go into premature labour and the drain that needs fitting could also trigger it aswell as the infections. I’m beyond fed up and don’t know how I’ll cope much longer in this pregnancy, I have 2 girls from a different partner I have to look after and it’s been hard on all of us as I’ve just been continually unwell from day dot!

 

[I’mThankyou_]

We’ve been doing it a few times a week for a couple of weeks now. I really struggle with having anything “down there” for a few reasons and if nothing else it’s really helping me learn to relax and understand the power of tension in relation to labour and the pelvic floor etc. The last time we did it went really badly and we had to stop early but it’s definitely helping. I’ve no idea if it’ll make a difference if I have a natural labour but I’m willing to try it in case it does!

OH was surprisingly up for it, it’s a bit cringey but I figured he’s not going to run away now he’s a bit more reluctant after the events of this week I think but I’m reassured him that no matter how big he thinks his fingers are they cannot reach the cervix when he’s only going to the first knuckle 🫠

 

[Very traditional]

Please tell me I’m not over reacting and that my family are over stepping the mark a bit?

I’m 40 weeks on Friday and was booked for an induction yesterday (initially based on my age, 39, and then I had some fetal
Medicine investigations which came to nothing luckily) When I got to the hospital they decided not to go ahead and that actually they didn’t think I needed an induction at all as my BMI is fine, growth all fine on the growth scans, fetal medicine investigations all normal etc which I’m happy about as I didn’t particularly want one but was persuaded at my last consultant appointment that it was for the best to have one. My problem now is that my mum and mother in law have obviously told everyone they’ve ever met that I was being induced yesterday and I’m being bombarded with calls and texts asking for news, even from people I don’t really know who they know. My mother in law is passing on comments to us of every phone call she has with all her friends with their thoughts on my situation and I’ve even had my sister in law asking whether I’ve had antibiotics for my water infection - I certainly didn’t tell her I had one so why anyone else thought it was appropriate to do so I don’t know. I feel under so much pressure now and a quite upset, I know their hearts are in the right place but I’m annoyed too! I’m booked for a sweep Friday but definitely won’t be telling anyone

 

[DoctorWho]

Basically he is just being an arse. Won’t lift a finger around the house, even when he’s days off and I’m in work all day. Stays up drinking all night then waking me up at all hours.
Icing on the cake this evening is giving me the silent treatment because we’ve only had sex once this week 🫠

 

[Tifastrife]

Happy Mothers Day to all us mummy’s to be

 

[WeHadFunRight]

How are you doing @WeHadFunRight? Did you get rebooked in for your induction or did a quick shag on all fours do the trick?

So on the shag front… no shag because he CONVENIENTLY FELL ASLEEP


Been in hospital since Monday, they were going to fit me with a balloon and now they say they won’t do that, they want to break my waters instead and think I’ll go quite quickly from there.

Thing is, I need a labour room for the procedure and I’m quite low on the priority list, so everyone keeps leapfrogging me which is quite frustrating. I totally get why I’m being leapfrogged as they are triaging and baby
fun is very happy by all accounts - it’s just hard being stuck in hospital waiting as I miss my little girl (had a blub about it this morning). Since I was told they wouldn’t let me go past 41 weeks I naively though it would be quite straightforward being induced and getting things going. I kind of wish they’d have just sent me home on Monday and reevaluated a few days later.

So…. No shag, no baby….feeling a bit trapped - nice enough view out the window to the courtyard but I just want a cuddle with my 4 yr old

 

[Nosysamsie]

It's such a welcome sight reading about people exclusively formula feeding. I've been judged so harshly because myself and my husband have both decided that we want to formula feed. My husband is so adamant about it because he wants to feed baby too and do some of the night feeds (I know he could with expressed breast milk but he knows baby might not take a bottle if I breast feed).
Starting my day today feeling like we've made a choice that's actually OK which is a huge weight off my shoulders, so thanks!!

 

[Wild_she]

I don’t know how to do a spoiler but this post includes sexual assault so please stop reading if it’ll trigger you

has anyone opted for an elective section for mental health? I think I’ll need one anyway with all my kidney problems, but I was raped a few years back and the thought of people I don’t know giving me internals and having no control over who does it is giving me horrific anxiety. I know their midwife’s and drs but I just seize up at the thought of it, I’ll need to be induced early so I know it’s more internals and more people down there What really is freaking me out and I feel close to tears every time I think about someone with their hands down there even if it is for a good reason I just can’t shift that feeling…. I know I could get counselling but I’ve tried it and it made me dreadfully worse with PTSD, so we had to stop as I just wasn’t coping.

 

[justonemorepage]

Thank you everyone for your kind words and support. I'm booked in for a scan on Tuesday so hopefully we'll find out more then. Fingers crossed everything will be okay.

 

[Ro98]

Just a rant about an individuals input on birth, scaremongering saying I might not make it to hospital / if he’s big it’ll be harder / will be lucky to get an ambulance. Do they not realise people take themselves to hospital now??
Why are elderly relatives like this?
Honestly she’s said some nasty stuff a few weeks ago so now I’m not going to pick up her calls anymore.
So Fucking disrespectful when people have severe birth anxiety. I laughed it off on the phone & now I’m thinking about it crying
I need to take it with a pinch of salt but I’m so bloody emotional even the way the cat looks at me sets me off

 

[WordsFromReuben]

Anyone else got a mother in law who’s excitedly buying baby stuff.. for herself?! She was going on tonight about buying a Moses basket and bedside crib I was like erm no you prob won’t need one because he won’t be staying over when he’s a new born baby?? Then she said she has a friend who’s giving her a load of baby clothes and I can have a look through it after she has to see if I want anything?!
I don’t want to dampened her enthusiasm as it’s the first grandchild but it’s a bit much

 

[WotsitG1]

After feeling quite down in the dumps all week…started trying to colustrum harvest this morning… managed to get some!!! Dunno why but it’s cheered me right up…. (This is in no way meant to be boastful)

 

[WotsitG1]

Thankyou so much to those who replied regarding c section nerves. The consultant rang me today and went over option. She’s suggested induction starting at 37 weeks or C section 38/39 weeks. We went over the risks of both and I think I’m now actually swaying towards elective c section. I feel it’s taking back some control, and I like the idea it’s planned and more calm hopefully. Got a appointment with her next week to discuss further and set dates if we decide on one of them two options. But I’m feeling abit more postive today.

 

[Wild_she]

Started anti depressants again this week, I’d not been taking them for a while. Didn’t really notice but my moods been so low, OH asked the other day are you depressed because I’ve been doing fuck all and the house has gone to shit, I just can’t find any energy or want to do anything. I am having a horrific pregnancy with tons of health issues and I think it’s all got on top of me and I’ve not noticed I just feel emotionally blunted, like I don’t even think I really realise in reality in 15 weeks there’s gonna be a baby it’s just dread at the min what I feel like it feels like life’s over a bit for me, I know it’s just the depression though, I can’t wait to be a mum again deep down, but just having a shitty pregnancy makes me hate every moment and feels like carrying on was a massive mistake when I think I could be well now…

 

[elderflowerrose]

Hello, can I join you?

19 weeks 3 days, due date of 19th July. But I will be having an elective section so probably welcoming baby the week before.