Porn on 12 year olds phone.

[Beans.means..]

Not sure if this has been asked before. My 12 year old got a phone in August just after his birthday. I noticed today there was a lot of searches for naked teen, teens putting underware etc.
If it was my husbands phone I wouldn't care ( well obviously not the teen part, that would be disgusting). I'm just not sure do I just leave my son to it, obviously we have had the talk, he knows about consent etc.

 

[rainbowlemon]

I personally think 12 is too young. Over 16 would get a different response.

Iphones have a feature you can use to block adult website.

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[Kofi Annan]

I think viewing of any kind of porn as a young person would flag some concerns for myself, due the material that they would be subjected to.

What is your relationship like with your son?
Do you feel that you could have an open and honest conversation about this with him?

 

[candyland_]

I would put a stop to it at 12. They could stumble on something they really shouldn’t be looking at.

My daughter is 13 and there’s been nudes floating around amongst her classmates already.. it’s unbelievable. I’ve made sure she knows not to take pics like that. I’ve heard some of the lads on FaceTime joking about porn too.

 

[Beans.means..]

I had another chat with him again. He said it popped up one day while he was playing a game and then he got curious. I've changed all the settings on his phone. We talked about consent, sharing photos and how some of the search terms could bring up awful stuff he doesn't need to see. I told him he's too young for porn but it's natural to be curious and to have urges but for him to be private and not talk to his friends about it.
We are fairly open about everything so I told him if he has questions to ask me and not be googling stuff.

 

[Kim Mild]

I think he's been searching for it himself. He is probably curious and mortified you know he is doing it .
Making nudity forbidden will probably just teach him to be sneaky , rather than stop .

 

[Megansnarkle]

We talked about .... sharing photos...

This is absolutely key. There are criminal offences relating to the sharing or showing of indecent photos of children (which are those under 18) and he's old enough to be capable of being criminally responsible and tried for an offence.

In addition, you mention talking about consent, it's not clear if you mean consent generally, but also talk to him about how those images might have come about and put on the internet.

 

[Beans.means..]

He knows how bad sharing photos are, one of our neighbours his older friend went through it already and saw how upset she was. My guess is he's curious, totally normal at his age but he needs to understand how dangerous it can all be. It will take him a day or two to process it all and he might come to me then.

 

[Whatevesmate]

I think he's been searching for it himself. He is probably curious and mortified you know he is doing it .
Making nudity forbidden will probably just teach him to be sneaky , rather than stop .

It's not making nudity forbidden. It's protecting a 12 year old from viewing pornographic material that is for adults. There's a big difference IMO. Children would never have been able to easily access such images in the past. It's too easily accessible and their minds and bodies are not mature enough to deal with it.

 

[Veilside]

We found my son had been viewing porn on his iPod when he was 12 (now 23) he said his friends at school had told him what to search for, my husband sat him down and had a good talk with him. We also put an age restriction on our Wi-Fi so no searches of adult content would come up.