Perimenopause Moans #3

[veronica71]

The hormones are strong this week - I can’t stop crying and omg the anger also really just want the world to duck off and leave me alone but also feel really lonely - so that’s fun!!

 

[Louby@21]

yeah mine are the same but i’m due on, my dads not well and it’s the anniversary of my mums passing this month so mehhhhhhh. Everything always seems so much more angsty and a bigger deal than when i was younger. My sleep is also tit atm. ( doing allll the right things)

 

[zetta buttons]

The hormones are strong this week - I can’t stop crying and omg the anger also really just want the world to duck off and leave me alone but also feel really lonely - so that’s fun!!

I just can’t even trust my normal cycle anymore. My period finished last week but since then I’ve been like a bear who has been woken during hibernation (angry AF, anxious about having no food and wanting to be in bed all day).

Yesterday it took every ounce of my motivation to get where I needed to be. I almost threw up on the dog walk, I just wanted to be in bed hiding so much. I’ve no idea where these feelings have come from. I was asked yesterday (by someone who barely knows me) whether I needed to go home because o looked like I wasn’t coping. Ffs this needs to stop.

 

[veronica71]

I’m on the mini pill so don’t have periods but have this week started logging my moods to see if there is some rhyme or reason to it but I doubt it! Last week shppping I scraped someone’s car parking cos I felt so out of it and today I had to go back cos I’d left my card in the till machine. I just wish I could get a grip!!!

It’s tit we’re all feeling like this but kinda reassuring we’re not alone

 

[griftalo]

Has anyone had intense period style pain around ovulation? I know what ovulation feels like ( a sharp ping) but this was nothing like that. It felt like my uterus was trying to turn inside out, my pelvic bone hurt, and was a bit like when you have a really bad upset stomach - but not. I took three ibuprofen, couldn’t do anything but sit on the bed with an heating pad on my stomach, convinced I probably had cancer, and then nearly fell asleep when it worked because it had been so bad. I then had a really tender lower abdomen for two days. That surely isn’t going to be normal now ? I can’t cope if it is.

 

[Hold my beans]

I've had similar sounding period pains, along with horrendous lower back pain, 3 random times in the last couple of years. One lasted nearly 24 hours and pain relief hardly touched it! Like you, I felt like I had been punched repeatedly in that area after the intense pain subsided. Nothing like that for about six months now and I have had irregular lighter periods so hoping that was just the start of everything coming to an end

I have realised how lucky I've been to have regular, pretty much pain free periods 30+ years of my life, I don't think I could've coped with that level of pain every month

 

[BerlinILoveYou]

It’s tit we’re all feeling like this but kinda reassuring we’re not alone

I agree.

All my bloods came back normal and i have a follow up with the doctor on weds and I imagine she's going to tell me to go away.

I will say I've been taking a bunch of supplements and don't feel quite as awful as I have been. I mean, I'm two days out from my period and not feeling like the caged beast I was a few months ago, more like an angry hamster.

I take vitamin d, maca and ginseng in the morning and then magnesium, ashwagandha, shatavari and viridian menopause complex in the evening.

The shatavari and ginseng are relatively new, but I've been consistently taking the others for about 2 months now

Edit to add: I'm still carrying 10 extra lbs that just won't duck off, and my libido is none existent but I'm no longer lurching from rage to weeping, and I feel like the brain fog is slightly better

 

[really_whythough]

I don’t know if we do thread titles for these but I think ‘more like an angry hamster’ deserves one.

 

[veronica71]

Sorting out my summer clothes and my body shape seems to have changed. I’m overweight but haven’t really put any weight on lately but I look bloody pregnant!! The top of my belly has grown - although some of this is probably due to Pringles I’m guessing a lot more is peri

Anyone been able to lose it?

 

[maytoseptember]

Glad I’ve found this thread. I’ve been having peri symptoms for years now - my cycle started getting very unpredictable once I turned 40 and I’m 45 later this year - and am currently on day 51 with no sign of my period starting which is a new record for me.

Also suffering from night sweats, disturbed sleep (wide awake around 4am without fail), very dry skin, weight gain, exhaustion… basically every classic peri symptom.

I’m just not sure what to do. I mentioned peri to a GP when I had a second UTI within six months and she said “oh no you’re too young” which is obviously nonsense.

At what point do people usually decide they need to see a doctor? My mum is no use, she didn’t take any HRT and just put up with whatever symptoms she had.

 

[BerlinILoveYou]

Just jumping on to have a quick moan.

Why the duck should just have to put up with this as "it's part of womanhood"?

duck off.

Yep, caged beast is back.

As you were x

 

[dillychopgirl]

Sorting out my summer clothes and my body shape seems to have changed. I’m overweight but haven’t really put any weight on lately but I look bloody pregnant!! The top of my belly has grown - although some of this is probably due to Pringles I’m guessing a lot more is peri

Anyone been able to lose it?

I feel the same about my belly, and no matter what I do it doesn’t seem to move

 

[SingSong]

Glad I’ve found this thread. I’ve been having peri symptoms for years now - my cycle started getting very unpredictable once I turned 40 and I’m 45 later this year - and am currently on day 51 with no sign of my period starting which is a new record for me.

Also suffering from night sweats, disturbed sleep (wide awake around 4am without fail), very dry skin, weight gain, exhaustion… basically every classic peri symptom.

I’m just not sure what to do. I mentioned peri to a GP when I had a second UTI within six months and she said “oh no you’re too young” which is obviously nonsense.

At what point do people usually decide they need to see a doctor? My mum is no use, she didn’t take any HRT and just put up with whatever symptoms she had.

I ended up having to go private as my GP kept saying I was too young too. I've been on patches and progesterone tablets, which have reduced most of my systems and I feel so much better.

I am treated through the NHS now after insisting my GP treat me with the same medication I was prescribed privately. I did feel like i was being demanding, but the GP signed off the meds quickly, fortunately.

It might be worth you trying with a different doctor at your surgery, if you can, it sounds like you'd definitely benefit from hrt.

I've read that vaginal estrogen cream is very good for recurring UTIs, it could be worth you trying that too.

Dr Mary Claire Haver and Louise Newson, provide lots of information on their Instagram and websites.

I wish you luck in getting the help you need, I find the fact that we have to fight to get medication, is just appalling.

 

[BerlinILoveYou]

I ended up having to go private as my GP kept saying I was too young too. I've been on patches and progesterone tablets, which have reduced most of my systems and I feel so much better.

I am treated through the NHS now after insisting my GP treat me with the same medication I was prescribed privately. I did feel like i was being demanding, but the GP signed off the meds quickly, fortunately.

It might be worth you trying with a different doctor at your surgery, if you can, it sounds like you definitely benefit from hrt.

I've read that vaginal estrogen cream is very good for recurring UTIs, it could be worth you trying that too.

Dr Mary Claire Haver and Louise Newson, provide lots of information on their Instagram and websites.

I wish you luck in getting the help you need, I find the fact that we have to fight to get medication, is just appalling.

Babes your story sounds exactly the same as my bffs. She says she's like a brand new woman.

 

[HumphreyB]

there seems to be a huge lack of education when it comes to GP’s. i’m hearing more and more from women i know who said they were just dismissed by their GP’s. male and female GP’s , too young, not enough symptoms. all had to go and pay privately to see gynecologist and it was only then they managed to get access to hrt

 

[Fanny Muchmore]

45 is definitely not 'too young', I was put on HRT at the start of this year at 45 (am now 46) and it helped my symptoms tremendously. Unfortunately the side effects include gaining a stone in weight out of nowhere but I guess I'll have to take that.

I'm so grateful my GP took me seriously from the beginning and I didn't have to beg for help.

 

[Bettyboo2475]

Has anyone else just gone completely off sex, I just don't want it ever again, I'm 49, married with 2 kids. My husband suggested it the other day and I couldn't think of anything worse. Tbh he's always been pretty selfish and one day I just decided I'm not giving anymore if I'm not getting anything back. This probably isn't anything to do with perimenopause, I just don't give a anymore

 

[melisnusty]

Has anyone else just gone completely off sex, I just don't want it ever again, I'm 49, married with 2 kids. My husband suggested it the other day and I couldn't think of anything worse. Tbh he's always been pretty selfish and one day I just decided I'm not giving anymore if I'm not getting anything back. This probably isn't anything to do with perimenopause, I just don't give a anymore

Oestrogen is the tolerance hormone which explain why as we start to lose our oestrogen or the levels fluctuate, we just don’t tolerate tit anymore.
HRT/ testosterone would probably help if you wanted to get your libido back x

 

[really_whythough]

Missed changing my evorel patch this weekend and nearly broke up with my partner of 10 years. Coincidence?!

 

[Suzesnooze]

Has anyone else just gone completely off sex, I just don't want it ever again, I'm 49, married with 2 kids. My husband suggested it the other day and I couldn't think of anything worse. Tbh he's always been pretty selfish and one day I just decided I'm not giving anymore if I'm not getting anything back. This probably isn't anything to do with perimenopause, I just don't give a anymore

Yeah. No sex drive whatsoever and even a few years back when I still had a sex drive my ability to orgasm changed and it just didn’t feel the same