Perimenopause Moans #3

[humansreallysuck]

I'm really struggling. I'm 44 so definitely in perimenopause. I feel so down on myself, and just angry all the time. I suffer from depression anyway and other mental health issues but they are getting worse with the peri. Partner isn't very supportive. Just tells me to control my emotions and deal with it

I honestly have no idea how those of you with husbands / partners are coping while going through this.
I am almost 2 years single and even 2 years ago I was definitely feeling like I didn’t want to be around my partner as much and couldn’t tollerate his breathing or eating or mannerisms and sometimes just the smell of him annoyed me and we lived separately and only stayed together 2 nights a week

I have zero interest or intentions of ever dating anyone ever again at this point!
if I was full time married I’d end up in jail

 

[CallaLily]

I honestly have no idea how those of you with husbands / partners are coping while going through this.
I am almost 2 years single and even 2 years ago I was definitely feeling like I didn’t want to be around my partner as much and couldn’t tollerate his breathing or eating or mannerisms and sometimes just the smell of him annoyed me and we lived separately and only stayed together 2 nights a week

I have zero interest or intentions of ever dating anyone ever again at this point!
if I was full time married I’d end up in jail

There are days this feels a very real possibility
I've taken to just leaving the room if there are breathing/eating or general annoyances which I know aren't his fault. As MrL is retired and with me pretty much 24/7, this can be challenging. At least through the summer he been out in the garden a lot. I am more concerned now the weather is turning.

 

[Kim Mild]

I've started on magnesium Glycinate. The capsules are so huge , I could hardly swallow them .

 

[JAR21]

I've started on magnesium Glycinate. The capsules are so huge , I could hardly swallow them .

Maybe they're supposed to go up your bum!

 

[Kim Mild]

Maybe they're supposed to go up your bum!

No , the instructions definitely said swallow with food. I wonder if every brand of them is so big .

 

[Hold my beans]

I've started on magnesium Glycinate. The capsules are so huge , I could hardly swallow them .

I've recently started the ones recommended on here that come in a bag from amazon (white and easy enough to swallow). I think they're helping with my sleep, although I'm having a little break as I've broke out in a few spots and wondering if they've caused them

 

[katz2022]

I use a magnesium spray and think it does make a difference

 

[CallaLily]

I ordered the nutrition geeks ones, they aren't overly big or difficult to swallow and have definitely improved my sleep. Several nights I've actually slept all through the night.

 

[IndominusRex]

My sleep is definitely better for the magnesium but I still have the problem if my husband waking me up when he goes for a pee in the early hours.

 

[Randy77]

I'm not sure if there was a poster on here or elsewhere but wanted support on how to ask for HRT from their GP.

Dr Nighat Arif sharesthe most effective sentences to say during an appointment to help you feel you're being taken seriously. It's on her Instagram page.

 

[humansreallysuck]

Anyone dealing with facial flushing ?
I honestly am so sick of looking I like a tomato

It does come up when you Google is it related to peri but I don’t know anyone else in real life who’s had/having
this.
litrally anything triggers it including walking showering and even a sip of booze
Thankfully I’m not a big drinker but it’s really frustrating and can be very painfull and people keep asking me if I’ve been on a sunbed/have sun burn

I’ve seen the dr about it and they just say it’s normal /hormonal

age 46 not yet on HRT but going to drs again soon

 

[LanyardedHeretic]

I get it occasionally when I drink white wine. My tolerance for alcohol has reduced massively in general too.

 

[Beggars belief]

Anyone dealing with facial flushing ?
I honestly am so sick of looking I like a tomato

It does come up when you Google is it related to peri but I don’t know anyone else in real life who’s had/having
this.
litrally anything triggers it including walking showering and even a sip of booze
Thankfully I’m not a big drinker but it’s really frustrating and can be very painfull and people keep asking me if I’ve been on a sunbed/have sun burn

I’ve seen the dr about it and they just say it’s normal /hormonal

age 46 not yet on HRT but going to drs again soon

I experience it at night, when I’m starting to get tired. Cheeks feel like they are on fire and look like they are!

 

[Onepotatotwopotato]

Has anyone here ever tried estriol for dryness, what do you think?

 

[Trauma Frotters]

Anyone dealing with facial flushing ?
I honestly am so sick of looking I like a tomato

It does come up when you Google is it related to peri but I don’t know anyone else in real life who’s had/having
this.
litrally anything triggers it including walking showering and even a sip of booze
Thankfully I’m not a big drinker but it’s really frustrating and can be very painfull and people keep asking me if I’ve been on a sunbed/have sun burn

I’ve seen the dr about it and they just say it’s normal /hormonal

age 46 not yet on HRT but going to drs again soon

BIB - I have rosacea so expect facial flushing but your comment above has made me realise I do now look like I have been on a sunbed! I have a really obvious "line" where the flushing red is and then white above it exactly as if I was on a sunbed with (bigger than standard) eye goggles on. Oh man

 

[SingSong]

Anyone dealing with facial flushing ?
I honestly am so sick of looking I like a tomato

It does come up when you Google is it related to peri but I don’t know anyone else in real life who’s had/having
this.
litrally anything triggers it including walking showering and even a sip of booze
Thankfully I’m not a big drinker but it’s really frustrating and can be very painfull and people keep asking me if I’ve been on a sunbed/have sun burn

I’ve seen the dr about it and they just say it’s normal /hormonal

age 46 not yet on HRT but going to drs again soon

Yes I had it. Especially when blow drying my hair, I'd look like a tomato.

HRT has mostly got rid of that now. I had so many perimenopause symptoms and they're all greatly reduced or gone now.

 

[taffygirl77]

I had my appt with gynecologist today, ended up with a biopsy as its standard practice apparently for those over 45. She recommended the coil too. Lab results will be back by the weekend. Letter next week in time for GP appt and Coil consultation a few weeks later. Said everything seems standard with what she's seen so far.
Glad I went this route, as the thought of waiting till mid 2026 to see consultant then a further wait for a biopsy, before anything being done, I just can't do it. Currently on day 44 of period

 

[taffygirl77]

My biopsy has made the bleeding worse. Had to make sure I was covered up when I had finished work, I felt awful and terrible cramps too today. Went to chemist to pick something up and asked did they have anything to help. They said go to GP next week. Popped to the GP they said they couldn't help with an appt or phone call, this afternoon, burst into tears. Bless them, the receptionist took me into a side room, I told her what was going on. The GP decided I could either wait to see them, or they would send me to A&E. GP has prescribed me meds to stop the period, and to keep going with the coil plan.
Chemist was impressed I was seen!
GP's receptionists are absolutely my heroes at the moment. Moral of the story, don't give up, we don't have to go through this and don't be afraid to cry in public. I also told them my partner had a hysterectomy so I couldn't possibly be pregnant

 

[Swordshead]

I also told them my partner had a hysterectomy so I couldn't possibly be pregnant

Sorry but this made me actually LOL

Ladies, the aches and pains are off the charts lately. I was grand up until about a year ago but duck me, I feel like a granny and wondering how on earth am I going to continue if this is just the start. I would NEVER ever go to a GP unless I physically had something to show for it (how sad) but wow, the heaviness and aches are awful. I'm also getting random breast pains but thankfully breast cancer doesn't cause pain and it's gone now this week post period. It's actually an absolute minefield trying to understand the body changes

Also, the constant mixed messages whether we should be on HRT as a preventative. Mind duck

 

[Lico]

Same here. I feel like an auld one. Aches and pains in my legs, hips and back. Got my hair done today, and clumps of it came out. Hairdressers has big long mirrors, and all I could see was a big belly hanging out of me. So unflattering.