Peri menopause moans

[petitspois]

Just saw this on Facebook and kind of like the reframing of things.

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As I often say to my friends, I’m wise as fuck these days but still feel like shit.

 

[AlwaysSummer]

Its great that peri-and menopause are discussed more these days but so many companies are simply jumping in the bandwagon to make some cash out of exhausted women at the end of their tether it’s untrue.

 

[sistersofpercy]

Oh yay. Another period. I think I’m running at every ten days now. Pissed off and grumpy.
Speaking of memory, called my aunt this week (she’s in her 70s) and she told me she’d been referred to the hospital for some tests. What for says I. What then followed was about thirty seconds of her uhhming and aching down to phone as she wracked her brains and finally said ‘my memory!’ My sides hurt we laughed that much.

 

[petitspois]

I know this is disgusting, especially at this time of the day but does anyone struggle with smells and sights to the extent that they make them physically retch since hitting perimenopause? strangely, I'm always fine first thing then worse as the day goes on. Prepping the christmas turkey had me heaving as does feeding the dog most nights. It's grim.

 

[DellaC]

**Moan warning**

Last Monday I recieved a text from my GPs surgery asking me to make an appointment to get my scan results.

When I phoned the receptionist told me that I had to have a telephone consultation rather than a face to face, she made that for today.

She then proceeded to play Doctor and give me some results that I'd already had but they didn't have the results from the transvaginal scan which is the biggy, the one I'm worried about. I also wanted my blood test results.

A lovely Doctor has just phoned me. He cannot give me the results because the systems they work on will not allow him to open letters. He's only able to read my medical notes. He will get onto my surgery on my behalf and get them to resolve ot urgently on Monday.

They've put me on the cancer pathway to have the 3 scans, I've built myself up and prepared myself for what was coming my way today and its all a big balls up

 

[paintbynumbers]

So happy to have found this thread. I'm 42, my mom went through meno at 40 she tells me. I have very regular periods but the last 12 months the pre menstrual stuff is insane. The pains in my legs and my full right side really from 7 days out is crazy. And then when my period hits . It's really affecting my work.

Maybe this is just me but I've noticed my body odour changes now when I'm pre menstrual. It's so changed i worry it's noticeable to other people.

 

[veronica71]

Can I highly recommend this book - it’s a very easy read and quite reassuring. She is very pro HRT but backs it up with compelling reasoning. One thing I hadn’t taken on board was the benefit of it on our bodies and not just stopping peri symptoms.

But it goes into what’s happening and symptoms we may have and how it affects all areas of our body and life

 

[Suzesnooze]

It's just so hard accepting you are changing. I just don't even look like myself anymore. I feel like iv lost a part of myself. I don't know how to explain. I just look tired, old and saggy. That's how i feel. And my emotions are everywhere too at the moment, I'm finding peri very hard I can't lie. I feel like I'm saying goodbye to myself xx

I feel the same but I’m in my 50’s, so it’s a a bit easier to handle but I can see how it would affect you been in your early 40’s but yes it’s hard to accept the changes

 

[50sGirl]

You’re at a similar stage to me. It’s annoying after a bleed you have to start again to go a year without a period

I can tell when I’m getting a period now as I have a few weeks of mucus and lots of bloating and my night sweats stop. My last period was more of a show.

One of my friends had a period on day 364. To say she was pissed off is an understatement!
I think they finally stopped for her at 58.

 

[Kittylover2019]

Only because I don't want you disappointed but I have been like this four years now. I was a regular every 28 days to being every 17 days, then 44 days, then 19 days etc.
I started HRT two months ago and have just had a two week bleed that was honestly exhausting.

If I don't come back as a man next time God fecking hates me.

I know it’s wishful thinking if I go erratic like that I’ll have to give in and get the coil or something. I wouldn’t be able to deal with the hormonal side of it I don’t think.

I’ve been on HRT for about 3ish years now and it has definitely improved my symptoms to a bit more manageable but I’d say I’m unhinged most of the time.

 

[Suzesnooze]

Be aware that peri can last 10 years so when you think you’re going through it earlier than relatives you might not be actually through menopause for another 10 years.

I remember a GP telling me about 9 years ago my symptoms were peri yet I’m still having more or less monthly periods and I’m 55 now!

 

[Shoegal17]

Irritated.

Anxious and exhausted

 

[Purrrrrrr]

My strangest symptom was suddenly becoming scared of the dark. I'm someone who never turns lights on if I get up in the night. I go walking at 3/ 4 am or late at night. I love the dark but suddenly had to sleep with the lights on. I remember posting about it on Digital spy, I started a thread asking if anyone had suddenly become scared of the dark. I got asked my age etc and a few people said they also got it during peri-menopause and menopause

 

[DellaC]

Well I went for my 1st scan of the week this morning, I got myself all worked up for no reason. I had a very young male sonographer and he was absolutely lovely, he looked at the top half of my stomach and all looks good except I have a few stones in my gallbladder. Well they're causing me no bother so I will worry about them another time.

I went to my GP after 4 months of continuous bleeding....god knows why I had my liver, lungs and gallbladder scanned but I will trust the process

My transvaginal scan is on Friday and I'm dreading it completely, not so much the process but I'm really very worried about what they might find

Anyway we shall cross that bridge when we come to it!

 

[Vickster2110]

It’s late peri if you have no period for 60 days. I know I‘Ve been in peri for years but my GP didn’t agree that it was possible to be peri in your late 30s they won’t be able to argue

Hi!! I found this thread a couple of weeks ago and my god it was like a light bulb moment!!....I've not had any real signs that I'm "peri" until my period didn't arrive a couple months ago.....for the past couple of years they have varied in length and consistency!! Although normally bang on time, give or take a couple days either side....I am normally very heavy for one full day then light and after day 3, nothing! So when I was reading this thread I discovered I have quite a few symptoms that I have just put down to just being me....really sore hips....horrendous mood swings are just a couple....but the missed period really threw me.....so anyway...I finally started bleeding a wee bit on Monday....I was so relieved because although I've had no bleeding my body has been crying out for a period ....but I only bled for a few hours then nothing!! Then yesterday omg I started flooding!! I'm still so heavy and I feel awful the reason I'm commenting is I came on on day 64...so would you say this could be "peri"? I have just turned 45 so probs about right?? It's awful like and wouldn't wish it on anyone.....soz for the essay, haha!!

 

[Baby Giraffe]

I'm always surprised people assume a female GP is a better option for gynae stuff. I've found no difference, some GPs are great, some are shit regardless of what sex they are

I agree, the most understanding GP I spoke to was a roughly 30 year old male one, really knew his stuff and listened well. In contrast, there’s a middle aged female one who’s a judgemental cow who talks over you and downplays experiences.

 

[Delia Smith]

Been to the Dr today with hormone/peri symptoms after waiting almost 4 weeks for my apt.
I told her I had a list of symptoms and she said she only wanted to hear my main 1-2 issues. I persevered and I said I think they are all related so wanted to mention them.
Anyway she doesn't think I'm peri at 39 (typical response from a GP i'm guessing) but I don't know how she came to that conclusion cos I tick nearly every box.
Anyway she is sending me for a blood test to check a few key things - thyroid, hormones inc testosterone, blood sugar etc.
She's also sending me for a pelvic ultrasound.
So it's a start.
Trying to book the blood test was an issue as receptionist said they have nothing for a month, yet GP is calling me in 1 month to discuss my results...ok here we go again.
Anyway I persevered AGAIN and reception booked me in for 10 days time.
Dr said blood pressure is a bit high and book in for a second reading for next week but low and behold - no appointments available. So thats booked in for a month's time.
Dr also prescribed cream for down below but when I got to the pharmacy....no stock. So waiting for a text about that.
I am glad things are starting to get moving but it's such a struggle to be A. Listened to in the first place and B. Be actually seen

 

[KeepingUpWithThe....]

Has anyone noticed a change/issue with their muscles? My leg and arm muscles seem so much weaker. Pegging the washing out causes them to ache so quickly I have to keep stopping. Same with my legs - a walk round the block has them feeling really achy and weak.

 

[zetta buttons]

Spoiler: tmi bladder leakage

Apologies for a TMI post and it’s taken me 4 or so days to get the courage to post this.

When running, I’ve always needed the loo on return but never urgently. This week, on my return, I needed it quite badly but thought i could say hello to the dog before going upstairs. Big mistake. I properly weed all over the kitchen floor. Like out of nowhere. I was mortified. I’ve not had kids, I’ve done Pilates so have done pelvic floor stuff. I’m normally fine with holding it in (done it at work for 5 hours etc). Is this our life now?

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Period began yesterday too. So we are now up to number three in a month. Fuck this shit.

 

[Bettyboo2475]

I’m finding anxiety has hit me hard. I barely leave the house these days and avoid social events. Have booked a call with GP although I really don’t want anymore tablets.