ChloChlo
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I do often feel bad for how I've treated other people. In particular my in laws from my ex husband. They wasn't horrible to me at all, intact quite the opposite, they welcomed me into their home. But I found reason to think they were finding error in me. I gave them reasons to dislike me - I was outwardly horrible to them. I was very young and had come from a broken home, he was my first serious, long term relationship and it is difficult to admit but I was jealous of this close knit family full of love for not only themselves but their wider community and others that looking back no matter what I did that really should have pushed them away, they seemed to take extreme pity on me and be even more forgiving. I ghosted them when I broke up with my first ex husband, convinced they hated me as I was so horrible to them.
Fast forward 8 years of being totally removed from their lives. I never spoke to them again, when my life deteriorated beyond anyones imagination to the point where I was severely mentally unwell and unfit to care for my own children and they were the only people who could take my children even though they lived nearly 250 miles away (ALL of my children - including their grandchildrens sibling who was not theirs and was from my abusive 2nd husband of whom I escaped from and they had never met before). They did not have to do this and could have only taken their own grandchildren, especially with how I treated them when I was in their life. They recieved no financial help for 2 years and took care of them all. Things have been up for a while and they are nearly home full time to be with their youngest sibling. We have the greatest relationship now even though the one between their son and I is not and I find myself breaking down in tears just talking to them. I'm so full of regret for how I was to them in my youth. They are beautiful people and were then. I get eaten up with guilt that it will consume me often but I do try to pray for forgiveness and send lots of warmth and love their way.
If they did not do this. My children would have been trapped in the care system.
Fast forward 8 years of being totally removed from their lives. I never spoke to them again, when my life deteriorated beyond anyones imagination to the point where I was severely mentally unwell and unfit to care for my own children and they were the only people who could take my children even though they lived nearly 250 miles away (ALL of my children - including their grandchildrens sibling who was not theirs and was from my abusive 2nd husband of whom I escaped from and they had never met before). They did not have to do this and could have only taken their own grandchildren, especially with how I treated them when I was in their life. They recieved no financial help for 2 years and took care of them all. Things have been up for a while and they are nearly home full time to be with their youngest sibling. We have the greatest relationship now even though the one between their son and I is not and I find myself breaking down in tears just talking to them. I'm so full of regret for how I was to them in my youth. They are beautiful people and were then. I get eaten up with guilt that it will consume me often but I do try to pray for forgiveness and send lots of warmth and love their way.
If they did not do this. My children would have been trapped in the care system.