Parenting Hell Podcast #5

[ItsmeImtheproblemitsme]

I get it, he’s got the working class chip on his shoulder and wants to give his kids everything he never had, but it’s the defensiveness that comes with it from Lou. I was a spoilt little brat, always getting what I wanted- guess what, didn’t make me any happier in the long run. I’m full of self esteem issues and impatience!

 

[ByTheWay]

My husband and I both work full time with commutes/childcare issues the same as everyone else, and I am the default parent. However I do think there's a lot of martyring that goes on now.

As default parent you're the one remembering "life admin" stuff but people put undue pressure on themselves with social media stuff, which is always worse at Christmas. If the non default parent doesn't do elf on the shelf, doesn't plan elaborate birthdays or forgets to pack sunglasses for a holiday, the world really is not going to come crashing down.

 

[TravellingPants]

For the first time ever, I listened to a podcast on 1.5x speed because of his sloowwwww speaking. I have to say that I did laugh at the Eubank impression and I was pleasantly surprised overall.

 

[gossipmcgossip]

James Acaster on Romesh's podcast made a very good joke about is it hell if there's nannies involved? Joking that both Rob and Josh have nannies, Romesh found it funny.

 

[amber.gl19]

James Acaster on Romesh's podcast made a very good joke about is it hell if there's nannies involved? Joking that both Rob and Josh have nannies, Romesh found it funny.

I listened to that episode today and thought the exact same thing So true!

 

[mindlessness]

Would definitely recommend Josh's new podcast. It's good fun.

 

[ItsmeImtheproblemitsme]

Would definitely recommend Josh's new podcast. It's good fun.

He’s a good ‘un isn’t he, I do like the Rob and Ramesh show, and other bits that Rob does, but I will watch or listen to Josh doing anything.

 

[CaptainHolt]

I listened to the Prince Naseem episode and really enjoyed it! He seems like a nice bloke now he's settled down, bravado aside. Always thought he was a bit of a wick in his fighting days, not that I paid any attention to his actual boxing but he was very much tabloid fodder for a while. (As an aside I can't believe he's only 5'3",absolutely tiny!)

 

[Loevly]

James Acaster on Romesh's podcast made a very good joke about is it hell if there's nannies involved? Joking that both Rob and Josh have nannies, Romesh found it funny.

Came here to say this

 

[Tatvam]

They've both let slip mentions of "someone that helps out with the school run" in the past

 

[DrMeredithGrey]

Oooops, Lou having to call in the big guns at her ‘an evening with’ book promo evenings

 

[DontQuoteMe]

On the last podcast, Josh was talking about having skiing lessons with his children, and Rob kept going on at him that the kids should have their lessons separate, and I just kept thinking that it’s actually a really nice activity to all do together, plus they’ll be on holiday and Josh might quite enjoy being with his children!!!

Rob needs to realise that people parent differently and his way isn’t always the ‘right’ way.

 

[ItsmeImtheproblemitsme]

On the last podcast, Josh was talking about having skiing lessons with his children, and Rob kept going on at him that the kids should have their lessons separate, and I just kept thinking that it’s actually a really nice activity to all do together, plus they’ll be on holiday and Josh might quite enjoy being with his children!!!

Rob needs to realise that people parent differently and his way isn’t always the ‘right’ way.

Why wouldn’t you do activities together, if what you’re learning is the same thing, at the same time!?

 

[Katienana]

Nah I'm with Rob on that one, I've never been skiing myself but if I was learning I'd not want to also be watching my kids at the same time. My friends who go usually send their kids to ski school in the morning then family time in the afternoon.

 

[CaptainHolt]

On the last podcast, Josh was talking about having skiing lessons with his children, and Rob kept going on at him that the kids should have their lessons separate, and I just kept thinking that it’s actually a really nice activity to all do together, plus they’ll be on holiday and Josh might quite enjoy being with his children!!!

Rob needs to realise that people parent differently and his way isn’t always the ‘right’ way.

I thought the exact same thing, Josh clearly wants to spend time on holiday with his kids.

I actually think that Rob was more focused on Josh needing to learn to ski and that the kids being there would hold him back as he'd be more focused on them being safe / tending to their needs, than listening to the instructor. He worded it badly and then doubled down because in his mind he knew what he was saying but to everyone else it sounded like he was advocating dumping the kids

 

[ItsmeImtheproblemitsme]

I thought the exact same thing, Josh clearly wants to spend time on holiday with his kids.

I actually think that Rob was more focused on Josh needing to learn to ski and that the kids being there would hold him back as he'd be more focused on them being safe / tending to their needs, than listening to the instructor. He worded it badly and then doubled down because in his mind he knew what he was saying but to everyone else it sounded like he was advocating dumping the kids

I knew what he meant, but like someone said, it’s a nice thing to do as a family. Rose knows how to ski so I was just imagining Josh in the kids class

 

[TravellingPants]

I reeeaaaally hate it when they go all diet culture and start talking about weigh ins and work outs and cottage cheese.

 

[Tatvam]

Josh's daughter and the Squishmallow app

 

[RageDelete]

Was really surprised at the Ballet Shoes story. On the one hand, I know that kids become super unregulated when tired and ill. On the other, I'm just surprised that kids still react this strongly to a parent not joining them with something at that age. Mine are a bit younger, so I'm not quite there yet. I assume they also don't see Rob as much/regularly as might be the case for parents with a more predictable schedule? Idk. Just one of those things where I too would have patented differently (byyeeee, enjoy London, see you tomorrow, your problem now Nana).

 

[PoorPatrol]

^^ this, for me as a parent I was shocked at how anxious Rob’s kids are. I hope they’re considering/getting some MH support. I say that as someone with ND kids who have varying levels of CAMHS input, I know kids and what’s ‘usual’ and what’s a concern. It’s either pathological or they’re just very spoilt and are demanding because they know they get what they want if they make a fuss?

There is a line between these things, no idea which side Rob’s kids fall on. I say also as someone who’s traveled a lot with kids, they go on too many long haul holidays to stay regulated. We go long haul probably only once a year and we have to factor in lots of recovery either side. They’ve been long haul every half term recently, plus they seem to have food and other sensory issues too.

The waking up all through the night at 8 and 10 is not normal either, I swear he’s mentioned this loads of times before too. His girls have a lot of nightmares and sleepless nights.

I say all that to say, when doing something like a parenting podcast, it would be good for the hosts to have a wide frame of reference, so they’re not normalising behaviours that IMO flag some additional needs or concerns that might need addressing. They could do with getting on some experts, I can’t stand half the slebs they get on.