I agree. Who needs unsolicited parenting advice from another parent. It's condescending and patronising. Rob & Lou need to be mindful to not come across as superior and smug as its very off-putting! Lou does try to appear like a super efficient mum who's got it all sorted sometimes. I definitely don't want anything like parenting advice to be made into a pod feature. No ta, much prefer hearing about real, messy lives that I can relate to.
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I agree. Who needs unsolicited parenting advice from another parent. It's condescending and patronising. Rob & Lou need to be mindful to not come across as superior and smug as its very off-putting! Lou does try to appear like a super efficient mum who's got it all sorted sometimes. I definitely don't want anything like parenting advice to be made into a pod feature. No ta, much prefer hearing about real, messy lives that I can relate to.
Agree on the no advice. Rob can come across as thinking he knows it all based on his own experience (and I do really like Rob!). I ignore it as part of the whole vibe of the podcast usually but the joy of it is meant to be people sharing their mistakes, not telling us what we need to do better.
Rob’s homework rant on today’s episode…is that the private school experience?
I’ve got children similar ages to his, and that’s not been my experience at all. The amount of homework they have has never caused an issue with our work/life balance - it’s very basic stuff and takes a few minutes at a time.
I’ve got children similar ages to his, and that’s not been my experience at all. The amount of homework they have has never caused an issue with our work/life balance - it’s very basic stuff and takes a few minutes at a time.
I agree their lockdown episodes were good but I don’t listen as often now and never the guests ones. I didn’t know they were thinking of doing more serious episodes. I think that would be bloody awful. Most parenting podcasts are nauseating and pathetically up the guests arses….can think of two in particular that adding to that would be a bad move. It’s meant to be a laugh stick with what you know guys. I did follow them which took me to Lou’s insta. I mean she is annoying as hell. Tbh I think both partners are a bit moan moan moan. I don’t think either have an actual job where they bring in proper money and they benefit from their husbands striking lucky and earning big so I don’t think either are in touch with reality much although Lou seems to think she is which is even more annoying. I do think a grown woman who is that obsessed with Disney is a bit weird too
Yes I wondered this too. There's no homework until Year 3 here and even then it's just one tiny sheet of spellings and maths a week, plus one reading book with no time limit.
And Rob’s moaning about the homework seems ironic to me
How have we got a Theme Park ep before Playground Shaggers 
I don’t get that from her in general. The blog sounded like it was written at a low moment, and she has chronic health issues, but she has lots of cheery stuff on her Insta. They’ve got a nice family and friends and that comes out.
Oh wow. I just read the blog post. I do feel bad for her that she has a chronic health condition and that she failed that teaching interview. But it is hard to relate to how much she struggles with parenting when her children go to school every day and they have enough money to spend on nannies and cleaners etc etc if they want to. If she’s so bored could she not do online tutoring or a course or something? They have assets of 6 million pounds and Rob is constantly earning loads, why does she struggle so much to get childcare?
I think since she wrote that blog she’s done a course and got some sort of job. I almost wonder if it was actually a way for her to explain to Rob how she was feeling.
It seems a bit ill-advised to put a blog post up complaining about your millionaire’s lifestyle just to communicate with your husband when you’ve got such a big following. It’s still there linked to her Instagram.
I hated the blog - it was just so self indulgent. Lou has everything so many people could only dream about. A beautiful home, a happy marriage, 2 healthy children, no financial worries, multiple holidays a year, quality time to spend with your children, supportive grandparents.
~So many people I know have none of those things - and also struggle with their own health.
Check your privilege Lou - and if you can't do that just keep your moans to yourself.
~So many people I know have none of those things - and also struggle with their own health.
Check your privilege Lou - and if you can't do that just keep your moans to yourself.
Whilst I get all points raised - Regardless how much money someone has, doesn’t mean they will be happy and fulfilled in life and doesn’t mean that she wants to palm her children off to strangers.
She gave up working to look after the girls as Rob earned enough money. But she is also more than just a mum.
Maybe as I can sympathise in that I have found it so hard to find myself again since having a baby. (Sadly not a millionaire though)
She gave up working to look after the girls as Rob earned enough money. But she is also more than just a mum.
Maybe as I can sympathise in that I have found it so hard to find myself again since having a baby. (Sadly not a millionaire though)
Lou is allowed to struggle despite their wealth. I just think that she should remember her very privileged lifestyle and get appropriate support from a therapist rather than moaning about it and writing a blog for public consumption. If you put stuff into the public domain then the public will have an opinion, not all positive.
‘Palming her children off to strangers’ is a bit strong for getting a babysitter to look after school age children so you can have a night out!
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I can definitely sympathise with the aspect of losing yourself when you become a mother, but I think it’s tone deaf to moan so strongly about all aspects of motherhood when you’re in such a privileged position and so many people are struggling. Especially when the children are at school, I know it’s bloody hard when they’re really little.
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I can definitely sympathise with the aspect of losing yourself when you become a mother, but I think it’s tone deaf to moan so strongly about all aspects of motherhood when you’re in such a privileged position and so many people are struggling. Especially when the children are at school, I know it’s bloody hard when they’re really little.
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I think Lou's blog actually just connects to a wider point about 'mumfluencers' and celebrities. They're all very aware that they need to be relatable, and on some level want to be, but just can't be due to there circumstances. There are (fairly) universal experiences to being a mum - loss of identity, guilt, pressure etc - but no matter what they do and however they phrase things, it's all viewed through the lens of what they have.
I do think at times some of Lou's content can see a bit 'not like other girls'/'what am i like' - everything is about how she tripped at pilates, or sneezed at a sound bath or something. And both her and Rob can do a joke to death.
I do think at times some of Lou's content can see a bit 'not like other girls'/'what am i like' - everything is about how she tripped at pilates, or sneezed at a sound bath or something. And both her and Rob can do a joke to death.
I think her blog post taps into quite a universal experience of being a mum in a capitalist society, that generally in a two person relationship the parent who gave birth is the one who makes more changes to accommodate the kids, because they physically have to and in a hetero couple because often the dad will be the breadwinner (to the power of 20 with Rob’s earning power). But, it’s a bit like… ok, so what are you doing to change how you feel? She’s clearly got a network around her to look after the kids so that she and Rob get time together or they seem to be fairly good at trading off giving each other space to go away without the kids. If she’s unfulfilled, I don’t know what her public blog post achieves.
Apologies, I didn’t mean to come across like that. I just mean, if family or friends aren’t available, she may not feel she has any other option re childcare.
I get the feeling Robs parents aren’t too close, not sure about the rest of his or her family.
There are very few people I would be comfortable leaving my little one with but that’s on me. I don’t moan when I am out of options, as it is my choice to be selective to who I leave him with.
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