NZ Influencers #71

[Blardeblarblar]

I don't get it, I thought only child free people can drink alcohol?

 

[Hootyhoot]

Bahaha christian looking for teeth straightening recommendations and I'm thinking, dude I'd more focused on asking for eye straightening recommendations

 

[stanleycupgal]

You are giving it way too much thought. It's fine if you love Dani/are Dani. We don't need to know (or care)

This!

Danni is a self centred, mean girl. I couldn’t care less if she’s child free, but defending your choice by constantly putting down people who made a different choice is bullshit. She makes so many incorrect assumptions about parenting and having children which is exactly what she protests about people doing to her and her child free community

 

[ihateliars]

Oh wow this is Edna before the Botox, filler, and veneers.

 

[Okelydokely]

What the actual fuck is this?

 

[trentstillworksfromhome]

It's funny, because I never see anyone saying that DD shouldn't post stuff about being childfree. The distinction that people draw is that they are sick of her childfree content being oppositional to some invented horrifying existence of what mum life "MUST" be like.

I'm trying to find a parallel...I think it's like if someone was brought up in a moderate muslim country and decided to be an atheist. And then she started making a whole bunch of content solely comparing her lifestyle to the most insanely strict Iranian type conservative Islamic existence for women as the example of why she's SO GLAD that she's not a Muslim, and why she's chosen not to follow that faith. Constantly posting photos of her wearing normal clothes and being like "OMG love wearing clothes and not being in a niquab, today I'm not sweating under an abaya, how free do I feel?" totally ignoring that there are literally millions of women with a strong Islamic faith who practice more moderate versions that don't require such strict dress/life restrictions.

Or if a Mum on Insta was constantly like "OMG today I woke up and had snuggles with my kids and thought 'I'm SO grateful that I'm not childless, imagine if I didn't have children and didn't know the love and meaning that only a child's presence in your life can bring? These snuggles make me KNOW that all is right in the world and confirm that I was right in my choice to prioritise having kids. Am I right my mum girlies?"

Now, the first part of that is something that gets put out there a lot "I love having snuggles with my kids" but I have never seen any influencer actually say the second part. If they did they'd be rightly shat on for being obnoxious. However I feel like a lot of women who are child-free (for any reason) actually subconsciously narrate the second part of that statement whenever they see that kind of content, because of insecurities that they have for external societal and internal biological reasons. SO DD's content is stating the first part AND the second part of the comparative statement for being childfree because "we want representation" and "pushing back" against the obnoxious "my life is better than yours" mum statements that aren't actually made explicitly.

All this to say, I genuinely don't care if DD has kids or doesn't have kids. I also think that the original TikTok content that she posted today of her dancing was a great way of doing child-free content, celebratory and funny without being obnoxious and comparative. That kind of content has life, creativity and humour. But all too often it's just her posting a photo of her standing in front of a shelving unit being like "so glad I get to style my house the way that I want to because I don't have kids".

That is content that assumes a version of parenting that is unrecognisable to most of us who manage to have a stylish home that we love even as we raise children...offering up a binary of "either/or" that doesn't exist in reality for many. That's the reason I find her content so pathetic and worthy of derision, because she's not just celebrating the life she's living, she's leveraging a vision of parenting that seems shit in order to prop up her own choices and make them seem more worthy of admiration. To return to my previous example it's like someone posting a photo of them having a drink on a night out with the caption "so glad I get to drink alcohol whenever I want to because I'm not controlled by Islam" rather than just posting the photo and letting the image communicate the joy of their life.

 

[Allthebestnamesweretaken]

Replying to this and the other responses clarifying the bitter taste of Dani vs being childfree. Totally understand people being really put off by the extent she pushes the topic, and more just ‘her’ as a person. Also don’t follow her for the same reasons. There are some much more palatable overseas accounts.

My post was in response to the general build up of comments over MANY threads and not just #71 or the last couple. As I’ve said on previous posts I don’t often have time to comment on here as I’m usually pages behind. Love that the majority of people commenting about DD don’t at all comment on the childfree topic, there just seem to be some loud bitter parents that can’t handle anyone not wanting kids.




I agree it’s taken a bit to far, and more understandable for it to rile people up when you know the backstory (many threads back) where people discussed her history of trialing other niche topics and seeming to settle on this. I get hating the extent of DDs posting about it, but do you think she shouldn’t be making content about it AT ALL? Eg. Jade Marie only occasionally mentions being childfree as passing comments, but when that’s discussed about her on tattle it’s like she should never disclose it, when it’s CLEARLY still a unique thing and worth being open about.

You are giving it way too much thought. It's fine if you love Dani/are Dani. We don't need to know (or care)

 

[welcomewelcome]

I don’t usually bother defending DD because it’s clear the majority of people who discuss her have or want kids. But there were an enormous amount of question box responses, and furniture or spontaneous travel were not the only valid answers. People had one line to respond with - which meant all of the actual deep personal reasons couldn’t be submitted which means most people clearly gave short comical answers. Regardless, cool, you may thrive off little sleep, but there are plenty of adults who don’t. If you read the responses, I saw quite a few from CURRENT parents saying they miss sleep the most. If I don’t get enough sleep, my mental health suddenly and severely deteriorates to the point of not wanting to be on this earth. Others may not be so extreme, but may feel like utter shit without a lot of sleep. It’s one of MANY reasons (I could write a whole book) why I have zero interest in kids.

I completely understand that people may not like DD as a person, that’s your choice. But the thing I don’t understand about how much anger there is towards her childfree content, is WHY would you try and push your rhetoric of why people should have kids, on someone who doesn’t? Clearly they are not someone who should be pushed in to having kids for everyone’s sake?! Childfree adults - DD included - aren’t trying to convince you to give up your kids or not have them in the first place? They’re not trying to unpick the reasons why you want/enjoy having kids, so why would you unpick their reasons for not having them? They are not sponsoring billboards and dropping leaflets trying to convince the world to join them - I would understand some outrage if that was the case - but instead it’s just content shared within a childfree audience?

Not going to argue it further, but just think it’s sometimes necessary to consider if there’s an echo chamber effect on your stance towards something. Continue bitching about whoever you like as a person. If it was clear those who post about DD were doing so because of who she is as a person I wouldn’t be saying anything. But half the time it’s just shitting on peoples childfree choices, and the recent negative comment about Jade Marie just highlighted those engrained negative stereotypes and attitudes towards childfree people. It’s a societal issue, not a tattle issue, but I’m sure you all have the capacity to consider alternative life choices.

Yeah there’s too much there to properly reply too and I couldn’t actually give two shits whether or not she has kids, she’s a punish as a person. But also, why make not having kids such a big deal? Enjoy your decision not to have them and move the fuck on!

 

[littlekiwi]

for free shit as per

Like just google it you grifter
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They will block me after this I’m sure

 

[Blah_already]

Carried on from previous thread !! The sleepstore reply

Where's the eye roll reaction when I need it? They may be confident swimmers (debatable) but guidelines are that children under 5 should have an adult within arms reach and children under 8 should have an adult who can provide immediate assistance which Christian does not model!!!
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Off to unfollow the Sleep Store and leave their group

 

[littlekiwi]

Hopefully they will distance themselves from her !!

And this is how a good company deals with issues !! Unlike sleepstore and Christian who only cares about views and shares !

 

[shh77]

What can I say….. 🫣🫣🫣

Golden Arches!

 

[Simone15]

zak couldn’t get more ick

 

[Influenza6545]

I don’t usually bother defending DD because it’s clear the majority of people who discuss her have or want kids. But there were an enormous amount of question box responses, and furniture or spontaneous travel were not the only valid answers. People had one line to respond with - which meant all of the actual deep personal reasons couldn’t be submitted which means most people clearly gave short comical answers. Regardless, cool, you may thrive off little sleep, but there are plenty of adults who don’t. If you read the responses, I saw quite a few from CURRENT parents saying they miss sleep the most. If I don’t get enough sleep, my mental health suddenly and severely deteriorates to the point of not wanting to be on this earth. Others may not be so extreme, but may feel like utter shit without a lot of sleep. It’s one of MANY reasons (I could write a whole book) why I have zero interest in kids.

I completely understand that people may not like DD as a person, that’s your choice. But the thing I don’t understand about how much anger there is towards her childfree content, is WHY would you try and push your rhetoric of why people should have kids, on someone who doesn’t? Clearly they are not someone who should be pushed in to having kids for everyone’s sake?! Childfree adults - DD included - aren’t trying to convince you to give up your kids or not have them in the first place? They’re not trying to unpick the reasons why you want/enjoy having kids, so why would you unpick their reasons for not having them? They are not sponsoring billboards and dropping leaflets trying to convince the world to join them - I would understand some outrage if that was the case - but instead it’s just content shared within a childfree audience?

Not going to argue it further, but just think it’s sometimes necessary to consider if there’s an echo chamber effect on your stance towards something. Continue bitching about whoever you like as a person. If it was clear those who post about DD were doing so because of who she is as a person I wouldn’t be saying anything. But half the time it’s just shitting on peoples childfree choices, and the recent negative comment about Jade Marie just highlighted those engrained negative stereotypes and attitudes towards childfree people. It’s a societal issue, not a tattle issue, but I’m sure you all have the capacity to consider alternative life choices.

From what I've seen here it's mostly people actually not liking DD as a person and the putting others decisions down to bring herself up. I've also seen people be really understanding about others not wanting kids in here so I'm surprised you have seen it differently but also this isn't the spot to debate whether you should have kids or not it's to complain about A hole influenzers like DD.

 

[vintagevinyl]

The reply from Louise from the Sleep Store is exactly why these influenzas keep getting companies send free stuff to them and keep posting ridiculous things about their kids. Nobody seems to care about anything but the numbers. It's toxic and I will not buy anything from her ever again. She pretends to care about parents for her business only.

 

[happysmellybelly]

I have found a great new weight loss product. This: look at this three times a day and you won't want to eat any meals.

 

[hashtagadintinywhitefont]

#addssleepstoretomyblacklistcompanies they know better and should do better. Justifying his terrible swimming practices with children because they got lots of views on a video ?!?! Shameful.

interestingly it does sound like he reached out to them. Desperate to stay in the influencer game Christian ?!?! I can’t even hate watch his stories anymore. He needs to be cancelled.

 

[Scab-on Scamderson.]

zak couldn’t get more ick

The feet and legs WTAF

 

[Pentothal]

Well, our $99 Tits up Tape/Practigal mystery box arrived. We were so excited to open it.

We had been promised $4-500 worth of product. Items we could easily on gift for.Christmas presents.

The stainless steel necklace should have been a hint. If it had been the $29 box it might have been worth it. It was basically unused samples, or they might have been, who knows. We feel so ripped off.

For $99 we got a plastic tote bag. A tweezer set, which was $6 on Temu, sample of setting powder, suntan lotion applicator, maybe also a sample. SS necklace and pseudo pearl earrings, a set of glass straws, a.takeaway cold drink cup with straw, a tits up pink bag, under eye gel pads and what we thought was a mascara, a fold up hair brush, or is it a pet brush.

If anyone was thinking of buying, don't. It just seemed like it was a dumping site to get rid of old samples. And trashy jewellery. Maybe she should concentrate more on customer service, and less on partying and drinking. Lesson learnt

 

[Okelydokely]

Maria you've put plenty online that your kids would be embarrassed about.

PLENTY!

A few honuorable mentions:
Hand dangling
Talking about Chloe and her period
Talking about Ronan's learning difficulties
Telling us Ronan cried for having to go out at 5pm to pick up Chloe because she dared to go to a friend's after school (double whammy embarrassment there)
The clothes you allow them to wear

The list goes on...