What does your partner say and do in relation to this?Hi all!
I’ve been with my partner 3 years now and I have a son from a previous relationship. My in laws have made it very clear they don’t approve of me having a child with someone else. It really bugs me that after 3 years we are still not included in being a “package deal” and my partner is invited over and included in everything but never me and my son. His mum told me to my face I wasn’t good enough for her son so I’m at a loss with what to do?!
Do I just accept that I’m never going to please them?
Yeah fuck her. Remember her attitude if and when you have a child with her son. How nasty of herHi all!
I’ve been with my partner 3 years now and I have a son from a previous relationship. My in laws have made it very clear they don’t approve of me having a child with someone else. It really bugs me that after 3 years we are still not included in being a “package deal” and my partner is invited over and included in everything but never me and my son. His mum told me to my face I wasn’t good enough for her son so I’m at a loss with what to do?!
Do I just accept that I’m never going to please them?
Yeah your partner needs to be leading the charge on this. It's for him to set the tone that you and your child are important to him and need to be included. I hope he's supporting you as she sounds like a nightmare.What does your partner say and do in relation to this?
It's an issue for your partner and his mum.Hi all!
I’ve been with my partner 3 years now and I have a son from a previous relationship. My in laws have made it very clear they don’t approve of me having a child with someone else. It really bugs me that after 3 years we are still not included in being a “package deal” and my partner is invited over and included in everything but never me and my son. His mum told me to my face I wasn’t good enough for her son so I’m at a loss with what to do?!
Do I just accept that I’m never going to please them?
No he’s not an only child he has a brother and his girlfriend is treated completely differently to me and they are very close.Is your partner an only child? I have a family member whose an only child and his mother is besotted with him. He met a lovely girl and they had 3 children but his mother doesn’t like his partner and told me she wasn’t good enough for him! I do think mums of boys seem more clingy as what’s the saying ‘a son is a son til he gets a wife but a daughter is a daughter all of her life’. This phrase was particularly true with my brother. We lost him to his wife’s side of the family. I also think a lot of men find it hard to tell their mother she’s been out of order. My husband never wants to upset his mother but is ok with her sly digs towards me!
I think though that your partner should start refusing to attend any family gatherings on his own unless you and your child are also invited.
Maybe you should write her a letter explaining your own childhood and your admiration for them as good parents and how you hoped they would welcome you into their loving family seeing as you didn’t get to experience one yourself? Basically, make her feel guilty at her treatment towards you and your child.
No not religious at all. In an ideal world I think everyone would be with their child’s parent so I completely agree in that respect but we are better parents separately.It's an issue for your partner and his mum.
Is she Catholic? My mam would be the same at the start cause of religion but no way would she stay like this after the initial shock!!
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