I have found my people. I can’t stand two sources of noise at the same time.
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Totally. I take half a teaspoon of Magnesium Citrate powder a day in a pint of squash. It has an instantly calming effect on me.
The thing with PTSD I have found is that your brain has been overloaded and all the stress is trapped in your body. The magnesium has so many benefits as it relaxes muscles, helps the brain by protecting it from stress signals, helps the body to function properly.
Apparently Magnesium L-theronate is better for mental health because it crosses the blood brain barrier easier but I've got a massive tub of the citrate from Holland and Barrett which I'm using up.
It has 100% helped my hypervigilance because I was a strung out mess. The only way I can describe it is as though I have a glimpse of what it's like to have a "normal" brain, which I thought I'd never have.
The other thing that has dramatically helped me is intense cardio exercise. I believe half the problem with stress is the adrenaline your body releases and the only effective way I've found to deal with that is cardio. Your body wants to fight or flight so I pound it out until I'm so tired I'm calm again. Cardio genuinely works wonders for me.
Another thing that helps me is L-theanine, it stopped me having nightmares which I'd had pretty much all my life. This meant I could actually sleep without being petrified, which then meant my brain got a rest and really helped my general state of mind.
I did therapy for 2 years but it has been since I put my efforts into addressing the trauma stuck in the cells of my body that I've started to see dramatic change. The body is key, I think, to managing stress and PTSD not necessarily the mind.
Hope that helps x
Thank you so much for taking the time out to write all that, I’ve print screened it and will research what to buy tomorrow AM! But really interesting, thank you lovely
You guys need to try Calmer ear things! Google it . I have also found my people and these things have been a bloody miracle. They take the edge off. Macks ear plugs for sleeping. Good luck!
Interesting thread, a lot of it resonates with me.
I've also had terrible neighbours in the past and moved because of them. However now I am super worried about us making noise in our new house, incase it upsets the neighbours!
My partner will stomp around, slam the front door, put the TV on loud and I am constantly having a moan at him trying to describe how uncomfortable it makes me feel.
I'd actually not mind if my neighbours made a bit of noise now (they are silent) as I might not be as paranoid as I am now.
I've also had terrible neighbours in the past and moved because of them. However now I am super worried about us making noise in our new house, incase it upsets the neighbours!
My partner will stomp around, slam the front door, put the TV on loud and I am constantly having a moan at him trying to describe how uncomfortable it makes me feel.
I'd actually not mind if my neighbours made a bit of noise now (they are silent) as I might not be as paranoid as I am now.
I have CPTSD among other things and I struggle with this.
SAME!
Wow, I resonate with you all so much. I'm starting to think there's a prob with my hearing? .. I saw post about PTSD so it may have to so with that.
I can also hear/feel vibration (noise vibration acutely). I left an flat in London as I could tell my neighbour has one of those massive speakers (although there was no noise), everyone thought I was mad, it later turned out he did and was a massive gamer/wanker.
Then moved to Dubai and it's a special kind of hell here, I have moved so many times. The buildings aren't made very well and I literally lose my mind.
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I sympathise, I think you've got the same sort of hyperacusis that I and many more have, usually undiagnosed. I don't mind the banging of a kango hammer but get stressed out by the hum of a dimmer switch, can't stand the noise of a fridge but sleep with the radio on all night, can't bear the sound of someone eating but love a cat purring. It often accompanies tinnitus and is equally untreatable.
I find the best trick if I can't get away from the noise is to mask it was a sound I prefer, i.e. my choice of music slightly louder than the offensive music, talking, barking etc. Or wax earplugs! I've found it helpful in the past to sit very close to the washing machine while it was on the go for half an hour because I found the changing rhythms of the programme very soothing and it drowned out all the disturbing noises which gave me a chance to calm down.
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I've had misophonia since I was a child. I remember noises annoying me but not knowing why. My husband is a really noisy person but unintentionally and it drives me mad. When he's concentrating he breathes loud through his nose 
. When he sleeps he snore and his mouth makes a horrible noise. He has a habit of clearing his throat a lot. He cracks his knuckles. All drive me mad.
We have a French bulldog and his grumbling can drive me insane too. It will sound mad, but sometimes I feel like I am going to snap. My husband and I have actually got into arguments because of his "loud" breathing and throat clearing. When I sit doing nothing, I am just silent but he isn't and he's not even overweight!
The ticking of clocks also really irritates me, more if I am trying to sleep. I got custom ear plugs which are brilliant for night time.
. When he sleeps he snore and his mouth makes a horrible noise. He has a habit of clearing his throat a lot. He cracks his knuckles. All drive me mad.We have a French bulldog and his grumbling can drive me insane too. It will sound mad, but sometimes I feel like I am going to snap. My husband and I have actually got into arguments because of his "loud" breathing and throat clearing. When I sit doing nothing, I am just silent but he isn't and he's not even overweight!
The ticking of clocks also really irritates me, more if I am trying to sleep. I got custom ear plugs which are brilliant for night time.
wow you sound exactly like me! All these things drive me crazy minus the dog as we don’t have one. So unsettled tonight as partner has the tv too loud and it’s making me feel ill. I must be an absolute nightmare to live withI've had misophonia since I was a child. I remember noises annoying me but not knowing why. My husband is a really noisy person but unintentionally and it drives me mad. When he's concentrating he breathes loud through his nose
We have a French bulldog and his grumbling can drive me insane too. It will sound mad, but sometimes I feel like I am going to snap. My husband and I have actually got into arguments because of his "loud" breathing and throat clearing. When I sit doing nothing, I am just silent but he isn't and he's not even overweight!
The ticking of clocks also really irritates me, more if I am trying to sleep. I got custom ear plugs which are brilliant for night time.
Interesting.
I have misophonia - noisy eaters, running water, typing on keyboard. But neighbour noise really raisesthe anxiety levels. It is the lack of control over it. Half of you is enraged about the lack of consideration.
My tolerance to noise has worsened as I got older. Probably yet another menopause symptom.
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I really understand the neighbour noise aspect. I live in a flat and can constantly hear people. There is endless drilling and hammering. It absolutely enrages me that I can hear it and people are so insensitive to others.
I felt so powerless about it until I decided to respond not react to it. So if something is irritating me I block out the noise if I can with headphones, if that doesn't work I go out. I tell myself that it will stop, even though at the time it feels endless. Making a choice to do something to help myself rather than getting caught up in a spiral of irritation really helped me.
With my PTSD you are encouraged to have an assortment of relaxation/coping/grounding techniques that you can deploy when it's bad. So I adapted that and have some so I could cope with noise.
Plus people are just inconsiderate cretins at times and it will always be that way unfortunately.
Yeppppp!! I get irrationally angry with loud noises. It just feels like massive sensory overload!
You have literally just described the exact way I feel over noise.
Have you ever tried a fan, or a white noise box. It drowns out the noise and because its constant and relaxing you eventually switch off to it.
I can't not use a white noise app when I sleep now, even if the offender has moved away lol. Which isn't ideal, I don't want to be dependent on an app to be able to switch off my thoughts but if I am left to sleep without anything to listen to, my mind goes on a ride in my head and I can spend hours just thinking and not sleeping. I am trying to apply some exposure therapy on myself so I can atleast sleep without an app or ASMR when there isn't a noise to bother me. I've found out that the more I've protected myself, the less tolerance I have for lesser noise.
Yes this makes perfect sense, and exposure therapy is by far the most effective. I am a therapist/psychologist by profession and sometimes need to practice what I preach. Good Luck.
I honestly thought this was just me! I can't stand eating, gulping, noisy breathing but worst of all is industrial noise from a unit near where I live which literally drives me insane. I am ok with the French bulldog noise tho 
I have this too. Started about 6 years ago when new neighbours moved in, their constant music, shouting, loud parties and tv, arguing and friends turning up at all hours, almost sent me mad. I never suffered from anxiety before but I do now and although my neighbours have now calmed down I still feel jumpy if I hear loud noises. I’m always telling my kids to be quiet and keep the tv down, makes me feel guilty but I can’t help the way it makes me feel.
It gets worse in the menopause years. I am sure I can hear a canary fart a mile away.
I have misophonia too and it has genuinely wrecked my life. I have about 40 triggers atleast and a lot of them cause a severe response in me. I rarely leave the house cause of it