New baby and post birth advice #7

[I’mThankyou_]

Well, I have been in tears all afternoon.

We has our post 3 month NICU check today & the consultant is so pleased with the girls, they are hitting all their milestones at their actual age rather than their corrected age. Twin 2 (you know problem twin) even gave her a giggle and a squeal which took her by surprise. We even got prescribed liquid omeprazole which is like gold dust on the NHS I believe.
We discussed twin 2s head and she reassured me it's just tight muscles after giving her the once over & referred us to physio.
That is the only present I need for Christmas.

Sorry ladies I just had to share, I don't have many other people in my life other than my family and strangers on the Internet

 

[DaisyDaisy87]

Joining this thread finallly!! baby boy arrived at 1am after a stressful labour resulting in theatre forceps/ventuse delivery so we’re just recovering in hospital now but I’m so in love with my little 9 pound chunk!

Just tucking into the infamous tea and toast! Luckily as I am numb from the waist down I don’t have to socialise and we’re in our own room

 

[elloelloello]

Hey ladies! I’ve finally graduated from the pregnancy thread and gave birth to my beautiful girl yesterday.

Happy to be here and keep the Xmas baby pics coming

I feel great and birth couldn’t of gone better, I hope she never grows I want her to stay this tiny forever!

 

[imaginedragon83]

Finally joining from the pregnancy thread after baby girl was born on 7th December

 

[Easilyannoyed]

So I know I’m not really much help on here sometimes but I feel very emotional today and this time last year I was waiting for my ivf appointment and today is potentially the day my baby was conceived and I had no idea I am so blessed she had her seconds lot of injections today and she cried after each for about 5 seconds then smiled. When people ask me oh will you have another one I think to myself you have no idea how lucky I am just to have her and if I only ever have her I will still be the luckiest woman in the world. I’ve just put her my first Christmas top on and it’s set me off I am full on crying my Christmas present every year will be my baby I don’t think I will ever get over it because she is perfect

 

[Babyyoda88]

We’ve had good news today my partner has been offered a permanent job which means my dreams of dropping a day when I go back to work may become a reality

 

[Ilando]

Don’t want to turn this nice thread political but I’m so angry about all this crap with gov and their Xmas parties and general breaking of the rules.

We’ve all had to face appointments, scans, possibly bad news alone this past year and they sit there basically mocking us.

 

[Hbirdette]

Just want to pop in and say hello; I feel like I’m not very present on this thread at the moment I swear there aren’t enough hours in the day now. Sending lots of love to anyone having a tough time too. I saw this pic this morning and it made me cry but in a nice way so I thought I would share it here too xxx

 

[I’mThankyou_]

Just here to revel in the fact that the twins slept from 11.30 too 6.30.
This is unheard of for a Thankyou child. Boy Thankyou didn't sleep through until he was 4, these twins can stay

 

[I’mThankyou_]

Thank you all, for being there yesterday.
I am currently in the middle of quite a large complaint as there were several failings during my prenatal care, and 3 never ever events just before the twins were delivered and one after, so that ontop of everything is added pressure I think.
My sole purpose of the complaint isn't even for me, I feel I need to highlight these instances to the trust I delivered in as they were supposed to be the "twin hospital" in our region and they failed us at every turn and I was treated like a singleton low risk pregnancy, and I don't want any other families to go through everything we went through.
I can't self refer to any professionals due to where I am in greater Manchester I fall under a completely different trust and CCG. Mr Thankyou has enquired with his regiment if there's any support we could access through the MOD.
I had a massive melt down last night, to the point I argued with my mum, but I think I needed it?! I needed my family to see I'm at breaking point.
Anyway, I just wanted you all to know each and every one of you are worth your weight in gold and I'm so happy that this thread exists.

 

[I’mThankyou_]

My children hate sleep.
They have now decided they also hate food. I have tried everything from going for a walk, to a drive, to wearing both of them in a sling. They won't sleep, they won't eat. Honestly i I like all I do is complain but it's just me 90% of the time and I'm completely running on empty and I'm about to crack up.
I've spoken to my GP & my HV about how I feel and my feelings were totally disregarded "you have twins of course your going to feel like this".
I know I have PND, but no one seems to want to help nor support me. Im dreading the school run because then there's three children to sort out. I hate complaining, I am so fucking lucky, but I am drowning and I'm totally out of my depth.

 

[Kitt]

Really fed up of being the person who has to think for everyone in this house. I’ve realised men sleep so well because not a single thought or worry crosses their minds at night. Or seemingly in the day.

I’ve become such a bad sleeper recently. I go to sleep around 12, wake up at 1:20, wake up at 3;30 and that’s me awake then. I tend to get sleepy at 5:30 but that’s when Finn stirs so then I’m pretty much not able to sleep from then. Exact same times every single night. I’ve just got up and done stuff round the house instead of just lying in bed awake.

Whereas my husband can’t even cancel Disney plus on his phone even though I must’ve reminded him 5 times in the last 2 days. So we’ve got charged today. I also asked him to go to Tesco yesterday as aldi nappies are leaking in the night. He said ‘I think they’re fine’ and didnt go. When I woke at 3:30 I found that Finn had totally leaked through again so I got him up and changed and back to sleep.

No point to this post except to rant. I’m fed up.

 

[Kitt]

Just gonna leave this here

 

[LilyRose1234]

Honestly had the shittiest night. Baby is going through a phase of not settling at bedtime and taking hours to calm down (although she’s then been sleeping well once asleep). Spent ages downstairs in the dark, seems to be the rare occasion my bath reset doesn’t work haha, and then looked on social media and saw a group of friends had been out for dinner etc in a restaurant down the road. None of them live locally so can’t help but feel like it was calculated. Then checked LinkedIn and saw that the last of the colleagues I qualified with has been promoted, so felt like maternity leave has held me back. The pay rise from the promotion would have allowed me to easily drop a day but I didn’t get it. Then felt guilty for blaming maternity leave because I wouldn’t change it for the world. Then cried at the Christmas tree for half an hour and then baby slept like shit and woke up approximately 6280 times and now I just feel exhausted and a bit sad. No real purpose to this other than to vent haha sorry

 

[Dipdab]

Twin 1 has cried most of the day and not sure why. Won’t settle on me, won’t settle in her cot or chair. But is now happy curled up next to me like a cat. I don’t get it

 

[bottombanana]

Can confirm the (grinch ) pyjamas are very cute on and the Christmas tree is more fascinating than me..

 

[I’mThankyou_]

Twin 2 is finding much enjoyment in the cat. Her little legs are going 10 to the dozen, she's smiling from ear to ear & there's little chuckles. The cat however is giving her the evil eye

 

[wakametango 2.0]

We've currently got my 3 year olds bike in the cupboard under the stairs. Right in plain sight. But it has a jacket over it she knows nothing despite going in there for her coat every day it is in a box though hah

You’re all laughing at your little ones while mr tangos Xbox controller has been sat in living room for two weeks… the trick? It’s with the baby stuff (where he never goes)

 

[bottombanana]

I was out today xmas shopping, we stopped at a cafe that was in the middle of a shopping centre (you know the ones that aren’t their own building but sort of in the middle of a shopping centre floor, like open plan type thing). Anyway, the baby needed a feed so I just lifted my jumper up (had a vest underneath - not that it matters) and started feeding. A woman walked out of a shop, pointed at me feeding and gave us a dirty look then her son (can’t have been older than 10) did the same and the whole family looked mouthed something and gave me a dirty look then started ranting at the people who worked there. Nobody came and said anything to me and my rational mind tells me I was doing nothing wrong and she was just an arsehole but now I’m feeling really self conscious, like I don’t want to feed out and would rather just leave it idk. I never really pay attention to what other people are doing so assumes other people wouldn’t pay any attention to me..

 

[moimoi]

Christian church group this morning, panettone returned as well as an array of posh biscuits from M&S, lotus biscoff biscuits and a tub of celebrations. I made my way round them all.