Probably at risk of losing my place in this group but feel like I should talk about this as we’re on the topic. I fall into the category of ‘non binary’ or ‘gender fluid’. I’ve always felt wrong in myself, always felt like a boy and a girl. I’m sorry if that’s not something you agree with but if you haven’t felt it yourself then I guess you wouldn’t get it. I understand people feeling confused about how it’s possible because I was confused for like 26 years before I realised what was ‘wrong with me’. Only my husband and my best friend know and I go by she/her because I don’t feel safe having to explain myself in the real world. It doesn’t really change anything about who I am, I’m still me. I just have days where I struggle with certain aspects about myself.
Pregnancy is mentally very tough for me as my body becomes even more of an issue to me on some days than I already find it. But I want children so I’ve done it. I’m saving up for surgery to significantly reduce my breasts as they make me feel truly disgusting about myself.
I think if children are confused about gender you can just talk to them openly about it as you would any other topic. ‘Why does that girl have short hair?’ ‘Why is that man wearing a dress?’ ‘Because it’s their body and they’re in control of what they do with it.’ Simply teaching about body consent like anything else without making a big issue of gender when they’re perhaps too young to understand. I won’t be ‘forcing gender issues’ on my children but I will be creating a safe home where they know they are safe to be whoever they want to be. I think that’s all any of us want for our children. Gender is the new hot topic that causes a lot of aggro, it’s easy to be confused and angry towards something you don’t understand. But when talking about it with your children just trying to not be derisive as that sends a message.
Not trying to shit stir or be woke or anything, just sharing a different perspective.
Pregnancy is mentally very tough for me as my body becomes even more of an issue to me on some days than I already find it. But I want children so I’ve done it. I’m saving up for surgery to significantly reduce my breasts as they make me feel truly disgusting about myself.
I think if children are confused about gender you can just talk to them openly about it as you would any other topic. ‘Why does that girl have short hair?’ ‘Why is that man wearing a dress?’ ‘Because it’s their body and they’re in control of what they do with it.’ Simply teaching about body consent like anything else without making a big issue of gender when they’re perhaps too young to understand. I won’t be ‘forcing gender issues’ on my children but I will be creating a safe home where they know they are safe to be whoever they want to be. I think that’s all any of us want for our children. Gender is the new hot topic that causes a lot of aggro, it’s easy to be confused and angry towards something you don’t understand. But when talking about it with your children just trying to not be derisive as that sends a message.
Not trying to shit stir or be woke or anything, just sharing a different perspective.
We’re still bobbing about. It’s been quite the week 
