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Not here to talk Covid for now, but to discuss my breakup. Sorry for going off topic but I know I mentioned it on here before.
I have made an extremely lucky escape. If I hadn’t have had the argument with his Mum that led to him dumping me, I never would have found out that he had been lying to me about something for the entirety of our relationship. He had sexually assaulted someone in his friendship group (gropey, constant hands and not taking no for an answer) a few weeks before we got together and then lied about it when we tried to go to the bar where it happened and he was denied entry. He told me that she must have made it up because he wanted to start seeing me and was jealous. One of his friends stopped talking to him shortly after we got together and he said it was down to unpaid money that was owed rather than what it actually was, which was because his friend had found out what he had done.
The irony that he told people I was “harassing” him for calling him five times to try and have a closure conversation when he is out here actually physically harassing people is not lost on me. I’ve also had to shut my social media down to be extremely private because he had his and his sisters’ friends that I have not met stalking my pages and feeding information back to him. If that isn’t harassment then I don’t know what is.
I am feeling a lot calmer today and accepting of the relationship having ended. I know I deserve better than the way I have been treated and now know I would never go back there if he tried to come grovelling later.
I have made an extremely lucky escape. If I hadn’t have had the argument with his Mum that led to him dumping me, I never would have found out that he had been lying to me about something for the entirety of our relationship. He had sexually assaulted someone in his friendship group (gropey, constant hands and not taking no for an answer) a few weeks before we got together and then lied about it when we tried to go to the bar where it happened and he was denied entry. He told me that she must have made it up because he wanted to start seeing me and was jealous. One of his friends stopped talking to him shortly after we got together and he said it was down to unpaid money that was owed rather than what it actually was, which was because his friend had found out what he had done.
The irony that he told people I was “harassing” him for calling him five times to try and have a closure conversation when he is out here actually physically harassing people is not lost on me. I’ve also had to shut my social media down to be extremely private because he had his and his sisters’ friends that I have not met stalking my pages and feeding information back to him. If that isn’t harassment then I don’t know what is.
I am feeling a lot calmer today and accepting of the relationship having ended. I know I deserve better than the way I have been treated and now know I would never go back there if he tried to come grovelling later.
