My husband had an affair..

[Nwest]

A year and a half later… hello everyone!

This might seem a bit strange but I wanted to come back and say thank you and update you.

when I posted this nearly 2 years ago (wow) I didn’t think aski my strangers online would help and I remember how desperate sad I was writing that. Reading it again now just made me cry and all your lovely comments.

I wanted to come back and to anyone who’s going through heartbreak to know that there is light and things do get better!


I’m divorced, I found a new career and I am happier truly then ever ever before. I’ve dated loads and loved every minute of it and best of all I’ve met a lovely new man and we’re going away together this week.

Divorce is hard, breakups are hard, relationships are hard work but seriously you got to pick yourself up you can totally get him through it! If I can you can too..I tried therapy it wasn’t for me but I’m glad I tired. I leaned on my amazingggggg friends and family and were closer than ever.

Thank you again to this small corner of the Internet for your lovely words back then, I’ve been back here a fair few times to re read and give my head a wobble.

Ans because some of you might be curious… yes my ex husband and ex best friend are still together and still friendless after everyone else walking away. Don’t get me wrong I sometimes sit and wish they weren’t and it will always hurt that they are because let’s be honest who wants them to be happy?

Gals thank you again

So so pleased for you, enjoy everything life has to offer.

 

[Michellellehcim]

A year and a half later… hello everyone!

This might seem a bit strange but I wanted to come back and say thank you and update you.

when I posted this nearly 2 years ago (wow) I didn’t think aski my strangers online would help and I remember how desperate sad I was writing that. Reading it again now just made me cry and all your lovely comments.

I wanted to come back and to anyone who’s going through heartbreak to know that there is light and things do get better!


I’m divorced, I found a new career and I am happier truly then ever ever before. I’ve dated loads and loved every minute of it and best of all I’ve met a lovely new man and we’re going away together this week.

Divorce is hard, breakups are hard, relationships are hard work but seriously you got to pick yourself up you can totally get him through it! If I can you can too..I tried therapy it wasn’t for me but I’m glad I tired. I leaned on my amazingggggg friends and family and were closer than ever.

Thank you again to this small corner of the Internet for your lovely words back then, I’ve been back here a fair few times to re read and give my head a wobble.

Ans because some of you might be curious… yes my ex husband and ex best friend are still together and still friendless after everyone else walking away. Don’t get me wrong I sometimes sit and wish they weren’t and it will always hurt that they are because let’s be honest who wants them to be happy?

Gals thank you again

Go Little Rock star

 

[Jojoo]

Hey, I’ve just found out my husband slept with his colleague while I was 9 months pregnant. It happened twice, then tried to sleep with her again 2 weeks ago, I saw phone calls before to her but he denied everything, so when I saw calls 2 weeks ago again I messaged her and she was honest with me. It was at a Christmas do we were both at. That night she was rubbing my pregnant belly happy for us and then when I went home early he went back to hers and in his words “one thing lead to another”. It happened again a few weeks later when he was drunk and she was sober? I won’t even sleep with him when he’s drunk?
I’m just not sure how I feel? He’s now seeing a councillor as a few months ago I found he was on those only fans websites and paying for pictures of women. I don’t believe it’s the first time he’s cheated on me but he is saying it is?

Has anyone on here stayed with their cheating husband? Have they done it again? I’ve been reading up and I find once they do it once they will tend to do it again?

How are you doing? @Daffodil12 Just wanted to check you were okay

 

[CrazyGiraffeLady]

I’ve watched and read this thread but not commented until now, it’s utterly soul destroying when the one person you’ve trusted the most in the world, betrays you so brutally, but I’m here a year after finding out he had a fling (can’t really call it an affair it was over and done with in three weeks) anyway it is possible to move on from it and stay with your spouse. It’s not easy though, hope everyone’s okay on the thread and I hope it’s a bit calmer than the heartbreak one x

 

[Jennynotfromtheblock]

I’ve watched and read this thread but not commented until now, it’s utterly soul destroying when the one person you’ve trusted the most in the world, betrays you so brutally, but I’m here a year after finding out he had a fling (can’t really call it an affair it was over and done with in three weeks) anyway it is possible to move on from it and stay with your spouse. It’s not easy though, hope everyone’s okay on the thread and I hope it’s a bit calmer than the heartbreak one x

how did ye get through it? My husband cheated, drunken one night stands, I honestly think he is a bit of a sex addict, I don't think I want a relationship with him anymore but I want to keep our family together for our daughters sake. I don't want her to have to go between different parent's houses and we were planning on doing IVF for a second, is it weird that I still want to do that?
Honestly I have no interest in meeting someone else or even looking for someone else, going on dates etc, I's rather read a good book at home in bed

 

[rainbowlemon]

how did ye get through it? My husband cheated, drunken one night stands, I honestly think he is a bit of a sex addict, I don't think I want a relationship with him anymore but I want to keep our family together for our daughters sake. I don't want her to have to go between different parent's houses and we were planning on doing IVF for a second, is it weird that I still want to do that?
Honestly I have no interest in meeting someone else or even looking for someone else, going on dates etc, I's rather read a good book at home in bed

Honestly my mother tells me she never left my father because of us kids. There were times I wished they would just get a divorce because they just made each other completely miserable.

If you do choose to stay for your daughter she will still be effected, but might also learn bad habits for what to accept in her own relationships because that's what she saw growing up.

 

[CrazyGiraffeLady]

how did ye get through it? My husband cheated, drunken one night stands, I honestly think he is a bit of a sex addict, I don't think I want a relationship with him anymore but I want to keep our family together for our daughters sake. I don't want her to have to go between different parent's houses and we were planning on doing IVF for a second, is it weird that I still want to do that?
Honestly I have no interest in meeting someone else or even looking for someone else, going on dates etc, I's rather read a good book at home in bed

At the time we had an 18 month old together and we just talked and talked and tried to sort it. However 20 months on from d-day we have had another baby together (not planned). We have moved homes, and areas, got rid of the car he gave her a lift in, new phones and it’s taken hard work like proper hard graft: some days are easy and lovely and some days I think what the duck I would never have done that to you how dare you! It’s not all plain sailing. But I hope you’re okay x

 

[Gossgirl12]

how did ye get through it? My husband cheated, drunken one night stands, I honestly think he is a bit of a sex addict, I don't think I want a relationship with him anymore but I want to keep our family together for our daughters sake. I don't want her to have to go between different parent's houses and we were planning on doing IVF for a second, is it weird that I still want to do that?
Honestly I have no interest in meeting someone else or even looking for someone else, going on dates etc, I's rather read a good book at home in bed

I've always seen it as 2 happy homes are better than 1 miserable home and I'm sorry but this must be miserable for you. I don't think anyone can truly get through such betrayal. I also don't think bringing another child is a good idea, this marriage just seems to be convenient for you. There's a much better life out there for you. I'd also wonder what you're teaching your daughter in regards to how you let this man treat you in terms of infidelity.