One more
It’s sickening. It’s not often I’m lost for words so I apologise that I might be a bit rambley. As some of you may know, probably not, I’m not particularly memorable, I’m a palliative nurse. I work in end of life care, currently with older patients, but I have worked with various ages over the years. I saw some arguments on Facebook discussing grief tourism and others defending it, saying that the public were invited into their final moments so it’s valid. One thing that I’ve learnt over the years is that no two peoples grief is the same. I’ve seen families laughing and joking when the time came and afterwards, and at the opposite end of the scale I’ve seen family members collapse, so overcome with emotion they can barely breathe. I’ve had celebrations, a seance, rituals from many different cultures but grief is immeasurable. It’s also often very different when you’re expecting a life to come to an end than when it happens suddenly. My heart goes out to anyone that’s lost a person in their life, it really does.
I’m really uncomfortable when a death becomes a fashion, a trend, a competition almost. Yes, it’s heartbreaking, no child should pass away, and I can’t even imagine how those parents are feeling right now, any parents in a similar situation actually. And when I saw that Azaylia had passed I welled up, as I’m sure a lot of you did. And that we would if we’d read of any child. But the tagging and the “crying so hard” and “I feel like I’ve lost one of my own” posts are sick. It’s like a pissing contest. And that’s before I start on the RIP posts immediately followed by pics of influencers with their kids then a swipe up. I mean it’s like knocking on someone’s door with your own family saying “sorry for your loss, look at my healthy family, here’s my Avon book. Buy my tat” I doubt the family are looking at other peoples stories right now but why can no one have a basic grasp on what’s acceptable? Anyway. That’s my 4am ramble.
just to add, I don’t know why but Sophas shortening of their names in posts recently really pissed me off I don’t know why. For all I know they called her up and told her to. It just wound me up.