Mother's Day Support Thread

[Boredofthegram]

Mother’s Day has usually been just another day in my house as a single parent and I try and avoid social media as I get jealous of my friends with partners lavishing them with gifts, help and attention (not their fault of course and much deserved but it’s hard not to feel envy) but today my boy (5) surprised me with breakfast in bed he made all himself (a iced bun and a glass of smoothie) which was so lovely. I’m back to doing chores and normal Sunday tasks now but for half an hour this morning it was lush.

So much love to everyone else finding it hard today

 

[Bubblesdahling]

What I would give to pick up the phone and hear my mums voice one more time. Not just on mothers day, but any day. But unfortunately she died 6 years ago. I never forgot mothers day and always got her a card and something just for her.

Shame that only one of my sons wished me a happy mothers day today, no card and my other 2 sons haven't said a word. Just a card would be nice. Not like I can reciprocate that with my mum. I'll never forget my 1st mothers day, my eldest son was just over a week old and I received nothing, no card etc I remember family and friends calling to wish me.happy 1st mothers day and when I asked my husband why I didn't get a card or a happy mothers day greeting, he said, why, you're not my mum!

 

[Facehugger]

Lots of love and hugs to all of you managing to get through the day today I've had a peaceful day, just chilled out & done nothing. Normally I'd have been to my mum (disabled) doing chores & caring stuff, it's a double edged sword, I'm so sad she's not here but it's the first Mother's Day in the nearly 30 years I've been able to do nothing at all.

 

[Rockin' Robin]

I wish I had found this thread at the weekend, I only spotted it a few minutes ago. I lost my Mum in 2010, we didn't always have a good relationship, but we became close in the last five years of her life. It was absolutely devastating when she suffered a major stroke in 2008. She ended up in a Nursing home, it was one of the worst days of my life.
It may sound a little creepy, but I still have many of her possesions - I can't bear to part with them. But the greif has eased over time, I hope she knows that I have been thinking about her this weekend. Thanks for starting the thread.

 

[Boredofthegram]

I wish I had found this thread at the weekend, I only spotted it a few minutes ago. I lost my Mum in 2010, we didn't always have a good relationship, but we became close in the last five years of her life. It was absolutely devastating when she suffered a major stroke in 2008. She ended up in a Nursing home, it was one of the worst days of my life.
It may sound a little creepy, but I still have many of her possesions - I can't bear to part with them. But the greif has eased over time, I hope she knows that I have been thinking about her this weekend. Thanks for starting the thread.

That’s not creepy at all. My dad died 9 years ago and I still have a lot of his things in my home as a comfort. Sending love.

 

[Moongirl69]

Sunday was ok but I avoided any social media. I'm a mum but I told my kids I didn't want a fuss so we just treated it like any other day. Hope you all managed to get through

 

[Dwightschrute]

I wish I had found this thread at the weekend, I only spotted it a few minutes ago. I lost my Mum in 2010, we didn't always have a good relationship, but we became close in the last five years of her life. It was absolutely devastating when she suffered a major stroke in 2008. She ended up in a Nursing home, it was one of the worst days of my life.
It may sound a little creepy, but I still have many of her possesions - I can't bear to part with them. But the greif has eased over time, I hope she knows that I have been thinking about her this weekend. Thanks for starting the thread.

Not creepy at all. I’ve kept a lot of my mums things, it’s comforting looking around my house and seeing her trinkets and belongings. Like a familiar sight.

 

[Facehugger]

Just thought I'd bump this thread for anyone wanting a safe space to chat or rant tomorrow. Love to all xxx

 

[Lendawg]

Hi,

Not sure what to say, saw this thread and felt relieved as I feel I'm the only one struggling

I lost my mum 6 weeks ago, and the last week has been the hardest yet. I never noticed before but mothers days is all around, tv, shops, emails social media and I wish it would go away

 

[If i told you …]

Just a little thought for those of us who have lost our mums

 

[Scragbags]

Hi,

Not sure what to say, saw this thread and felt relieved as I feel I'm the only one struggling

I lost my mum 6 weeks ago, and the last week has been the hardest yet. I never noticed before but mothers days is all around, tv, shops, emails social media and I wish it would go away

I'm so sorry for your loss
Just do whatever you need to do to get through the day. Whether that's just having a cry all day if you need it or watching/listening/reading something comforting to you and keeping yourself occupied.

 

[Lendawg]

I'm so sorry for your loss
Just do whatever you need to do to get through the day. Whether that's just having a cry all day if you need it or watching/listening/reading something comforting to you and keeping yourself occupied.

Thank you, it was just 6 months from diagnosis to losing her. Someone described the last 6 months to me as anticipatory grief which I had never heard before but it makes so much sense, i grieved parts of her before she passed away. Even though I knew what the outcome would be, it was still such a shock.

I'm finding tomorrow a difficult one also as I am a mother myself to 2 young children so my kids still want to celebrate with me but it's the last thing I feel like doing.

Life can be so tough

 

[Kate1970]

This'll be my 2nd Mother's Day without my lovely Mum!
To be honest, the first year wasn't good, and I just take some time in the day to think about her, as I do every day
Thinking of you all who may find tomorrow difficult

 

[lozzapaloozza]

My fourth Mother’s Day without my mum and my first without my nan. They’re spending the day together 🤍 Lots of love to you all xxx

 

[ElChanguito]

I lost my mum ten years ago this year. It feels like forever… I don’t think I was ever a good daughter to her, all I did was let her down. As much as I miss her, I wouldn’t wish her back into this world, too much evil in this world. And she would have to get sick and die again. I will play my music and think about her tomorrow, imagine the flowers I could have given her

 

[FourSeasonSoupObsessive]

I needed this thread today, thank you.

This is my first Mothers Day without my Mum, who died very suddenly last spring, and to make it worse, my sister is critically ill in hospital. I have no idea what to do with myself. We would have gone to her grave together today, I think, but I’ll have to go myself now, as well as visit sister in hospital. And try to make the day bearable for her children, whose Mum is so ill. Just to complete the soap opera vibe, I’m also in the middle of a horrible flare up of a chronic condition, so I feel like tit and I’m so exhausted after some of the worst months of my life I can hardly even be bothered to breathe right now. what I really want to do is lie in bed and howl with rage and grief. What I actually have to do is get up, put my game face on and try to get through while everybody dumps their tit on me.

ducks sake. duck off Mothers Day. When’s my day?

ETA- sending hugs through the ether to those as need them x

 

[unidentified]

Lots of love to those without their mums. I find it such a difficult day and I think that’s because there’s no escape. I lost my mum nearly 9 years ago (I was only 26) and I’ve been broken ever since. My mum was my everything. I’ve got better than I used to be. I used to take off and no one would know where I was. I couldn’t cope with it at all. My daughter got so used to me not being there that now she doesn’t really bother. I’ve had a card off her that she made this morning but that’s only came to me in the last 30mins and she’s off again. I’ve had a tough week emotionally and everything that’s happened has highlighted my mum isn’t here. Typical crappy timing. I absolutely hate today but it’s one day. That’s what I keep trying to tell myself. For anyone who finds these words comforting I will share.

 

[Facehugger]

I made this thread 2 years ago when I'd lost my mum in the December. Some things do get easier, some don't, but all you lovely people sharing your thoughts remember you are important to someone, and give yourselves a bit of love and kindness today. It is indeed just one day, keep strong today, love & hugs to you all xx

 

[CrystalWench]

Thank you for this thread. My mother and I have an awful relationship, to the point that she’s been arrested by the police for her behaviour towards me and I can no longer have her in my life.

Wow 2 years ago, my mother was put on a restraining order and suspended prison sentence for her behaviour towards me and my son. My son developed OCD as a consequence of all the trauma she put us through.

I wish I could give my mothers life for all of you to have your lovely mums back, my mother doesn’t deserve anything any day let alone today. My heart truly hurts for you all today that are missing your wonderful mums. Lots of love to you

 

[Facehugger]

Wow 2 years ago, my mother was put on a restraining order and suspended prison sentence for her behaviour towards me and my son. My son developed OCD as a consequence of all the trauma she put us through.

I wish I could give my mothers life for all of you to have your lovely mums back, my mother doesn’t deserve anything any day let alone today. My heart truly hurts for you all today that are missing your wonderful mums. Lots of love to you

So sorry for what she's put you both through, that's awful. Hug your son tight today, much love to you too. My sons Dad was a complete a & we'd spend mum's day just us two being together when he was little, doing silly stuff. He's emigrating soon so this is our last mum's day together today, we are just chilling & keeping smiling.