Mother's Day Support Thread

[Facehugger]

I am making this thread for anyone who may for whatever reason, be wanting to avoid all the Mother's Day celebrations tomorrow.

You may have lost your Mum this year.
You may not be able to see your Mum this year due to restrictions.
You may not have any relationship/or a negative relationship with your Mum and just want somewhere to chat/vent about it.
Or you might be struggling to become a Mum and need some support.

I hope whatever, you will all get through the day tomorrow

 

[Boredofthegram]

Mother’s Day has usually been just another day in my house as a single parent and I try and avoid social media as I get jealous of my friends with partners lavishing them with gifts, help and attention (not their fault of course and much deserved but it’s hard not to feel envy) but today my boy (5) surprised me with breakfast in bed he made all himself (a iced bun and a glass of smoothie) which was so lovely. I’m back to doing chores and normal Sunday tasks now but for half an hour this morning it was lush.

So much love to everyone else finding it hard today

 

[Dwightschrute]

Lovely idea. Lost my mum in September and this is my first Mother’s Day without her.

 

[saturdaynighttakeaway1]

Why a lovely idea for a thread

just wanted to add for all the single mums who may not get any cards or gifts etc you’re amazing! Being a single mum is hard work and I’m sure your babies appreciate everything you do for them all year round! Lots of love to you all

 

[Lendawg]

Hi,

Not sure what to say, saw this thread and felt relieved as I feel I'm the only one struggling

I lost my mum 6 weeks ago, and the last week has been the hardest yet. I never noticed before but mothers days is all around, tv, shops, emails social media and I wish it would go away

 

[lozzapaloozza]

It’s my second Mother’s Day without my beautiful mama. All the talk surrounding this day breaks my heart and I still don’t know what to do on the day. Sending love to anyone who will find tomorrow difficult because they have lost their mum or find this day hard. Remember it’s just a day

 

[Bubblesdahling]

What I would give to pick up the phone and hear my mums voice one more time. Not just on mothers day, but any day. But unfortunately she died 6 years ago. I never forgot mothers day and always got her a card and something just for her.

Shame that only one of my sons wished me a happy mothers day today, no card and my other 2 sons haven't said a word. Just a card would be nice. Not like I can reciprocate that with my mum. I'll never forget my 1st mothers day, my eldest son was just over a week old and I received nothing, no card etc I remember family and friends calling to wish me.happy 1st mothers day and when I asked my husband why I didn't get a card or a happy mothers day greeting, he said, why, you're not my mum!

 

[CrystalWench]

Thank you for this thread. My mother and I have an awful relationship, to the point that she’s been arrested by the police for her behaviour towards me and I can no longer have her in my life.

 

[Merpedy]

Asda had a lovely idea about this too, they sent out emails asking if people wished to opt-out of mothers day deal emails. Something just nice about it, even if it's just a shop

Sending you all love

 

[FourSeasonSoupObsessive]

I needed this thread today, thank you.

This is my first Mothers Day without my Mum, who died very suddenly last spring, and to make it worse, my sister is critically ill in hospital. I have no idea what to do with myself. We would have gone to her grave together today, I think, but I’ll have to go myself now, as well as visit sister in hospital. And try to make the day bearable for her children, whose Mum is so ill. Just to complete the soap opera vibe, I’m also in the middle of a horrible flare up of a chronic condition, so I feel like shit and I’m so exhausted after some of the worst months of my life I can hardly even be bothered to breathe right now. what I really want to do is lie in bed and howl with rage and grief. What I actually have to do is get up, put my game face on and try to get through while everybody dumps their shit on me.

Fucks sake. Fuck off Mothers Day. When’s my day?

ETA- sending hugs through the ether to those as need them x

 

[watermelon sugar]

This is a lovely idea

I'm sad that I'm not gonna be seeing my Mum this year and she won't be able to see her Grandson I'm lucky she's still with us but God I miss her and I wish I could see her

Sending love to anyone who's hurting this mother's day

 

[Moongirl69]

Lovely idea. Lost my mum in September and this is my first Mother’s Day without her.

Me too. My mum died just after Christmas. Sending love to you

 

[Facehugger]

Just thought I'd bump this thread for anyone wanting a safe space to chat or rant tomorrow. Love to all xxx

 

[lozzapaloozza]

My fourth Mother’s Day without my mum and my first without my nan. They’re spending the day together 🤍 Lots of love to you all xxx

 

[DanaScully]

Lots of love

 

[StairsAlwaysLeadUp]

I hate mothers day. Bring back far too many unhappy memories from my ex-h. It was 13 years ago that was the worst one and it still affects me now.
Thank you for the thread

 

[under the ivy]

Lots of love to everyone

 

[Gembo]

I’m doing ok today. For years this was always a really upsetting day and I used to stay in bed crying. Fathers Day too. It was always hard picking a card as they were all full of things that just weren’t true for me. I had years of estrangement from them both but I’d still send a card and a present but my heart would be breaking all day thinking of them not getting to celebrate the day with their children, albeit a situation they created themselves.

This is my second Mother’s Day since my mum passed and it’s sad but it’s just easier and doesn’t hurt me as much as it used to. My brother and I met at mums grave yesterday and put some flowers and a card and I did feel really sad and still feel disbelief that she’s gone but her life was so much suffering and I’m glad that she’s not going through that now. She hurt me so much and I will never not feel sad that my mum wasn’t my best friend but I still love her and forgive her. It is sad that this day is easier now and honestly I feel relief and gratitude for that.

 

[Scragbags]

This is my second mother's day without my mam who died Feb 2020. Last year I took the day off work and just spent the day in my pjs and let me feel it.

I'm going to work this year and hoping it'll be a distraction.

Sending love to everyone. It's a hard day but just let yourself be sad if you need too

 

[unidentified]

Lots of love to those without their mums. I find it such a difficult day and I think that’s because there’s no escape. I lost my mum nearly 9 years ago (I was only 26) and I’ve been broken ever since. My mum was my everything. I’ve got better than I used to be. I used to take off and no one would know where I was. I couldn’t cope with it at all. My daughter got so used to me not being there that now she doesn’t really bother. I’ve had a card off her that she made this morning but that’s only came to me in the last 30mins and she’s off again. I’ve had a tough week emotionally and everything that’s happened has highlighted my mum isn’t here. Typical shitty timing. I absolutely hate today but it’s one day. That’s what I keep trying to tell myself. For anyone who finds these words comforting I will share.