Mother's Day Support Thread

[Lendawg]

I'm so sorry for your loss
Just do whatever you need to do to get through the day. Whether that's just having a cry all day if you need it or watching/listening/reading something comforting to you and keeping yourself occupied.

Thank you, it was just 6 months from diagnosis to losing her. Someone described the last 6 months to me as anticipatory grief which I had never heard before but it makes so much sense, i grieved parts of her before she passed away. Even though I knew what the outcome would be, it was still such a shock.

I'm finding tomorrow a difficult one also as I am a mother myself to 2 young children so my kids still want to celebrate with me but it's the last thing I feel like doing.

Life can be so tough

 

[Facehugger]

I made this thread 2 years ago when I'd lost my mum in the December. Some things do get easier, some don't, but all you lovely people sharing your thoughts remember you are important to someone, and give yourselves a bit of love and kindness today. It is indeed just one day, keep strong today, love & hugs to you all xx

 

[CrystalWench]

Thank you for this thread. My mother and I have an awful relationship, to the point that she’s been arrested by the police for her behaviour towards me and I can no longer have her in my life.

Wow 2 years ago, my mother was put on a restraining order and suspended prison sentence for her behaviour towards me and my son. My son developed OCD as a consequence of all the trauma she put us through.

I wish I could give my mothers life for all of you to have your lovely mums back, my mother doesn’t deserve anything any day let alone today. My heart truly hurts for you all today that are missing your wonderful mums. Lots of love to you

 

[Dwightschrute]

I wish I had found this thread at the weekend, I only spotted it a few minutes ago. I lost my Mum in 2010, we didn't always have a good relationship, but we became close in the last five years of her life. It was absolutely devastating when she suffered a major stroke in 2008. She ended up in a Nursing home, it was one of the worst days of my life.
It may sound a little creepy, but I still have many of her possesions - I can't bear to part with them. But the greif has eased over time, I hope she knows that I have been thinking about her this weekend. Thanks for starting the thread.

Not creepy at all. I’ve kept a lot of my mums things, it’s comforting looking around my house and seeing her trinkets and belongings. Like a familiar sight.

 

[Kate1970]

This'll be my 2nd Mother's Day without my lovely Mum!
To be honest, the first year wasn't good, and I just take some time in the day to think about her, as I do every day
Thinking of you all who may find tomorrow difficult

 

[Rockin' Robin]

I wish I had found this thread at the weekend, I only spotted it a few minutes ago. I lost my Mum in 2010, we didn't always have a good relationship, but we became close in the last five years of her life. It was absolutely devastating when she suffered a major stroke in 2008. She ended up in a Nursing home, it was one of the worst days of my life.
It may sound a little creepy, but I still have many of her possesions - I can't bear to part with them. But the greif has eased over time, I hope she knows that I have been thinking about her this weekend. Thanks for starting the thread.

 

[Facehugger]

Thanks guys I just thought we needed a place to chat/share if we wanted to, without passing any negativity to those celebrating tomorrow.

 

[Frenchie]

Sending love to all x

 

[Scragbags]

Hi,

Not sure what to say, saw this thread and felt relieved as I feel I'm the only one struggling

I lost my mum 6 weeks ago, and the last week has been the hardest yet. I never noticed before but mothers days is all around, tv, shops, emails social media and I wish it would go away

I'm so sorry for your loss
Just do whatever you need to do to get through the day. Whether that's just having a cry all day if you need it or watching/listening/reading something comforting to you and keeping yourself occupied.

 

[ElChanguito]

I lost my mum ten years ago this year. It feels like forever… I don’t think I was ever a good daughter to her, all I did was let her down. As much as I miss her, I wouldn’t wish her back into this world, too much evil in this world. And she would have to get sick and die again. I will play my music and think about her tomorrow, imagine the flowers I could have given her

 

[Boredofthegram]

I wish I had found this thread at the weekend, I only spotted it a few minutes ago. I lost my Mum in 2010, we didn't always have a good relationship, but we became close in the last five years of her life. It was absolutely devastating when she suffered a major stroke in 2008. She ended up in a Nursing home, it was one of the worst days of my life.
It may sound a little creepy, but I still have many of her possesions - I can't bear to part with them. But the greif has eased over time, I hope she knows that I have been thinking about her this weekend. Thanks for starting the thread.

That’s not creepy at all. My dad died 9 years ago and I still have a lot of his things in my home as a comfort. Sending love.

 

[Facehugger]

Wow 2 years ago, my mother was put on a restraining order and suspended prison sentence for her behaviour towards me and my son. My son developed OCD as a consequence of all the trauma she put us through.

I wish I could give my mothers life for all of you to have your lovely mums back, my mother doesn’t deserve anything any day let alone today. My heart truly hurts for you all today that are missing your wonderful mums. Lots of love to you

So sorry for what she's put you both through, that's awful. Hug your son tight today, much love to you too. My sons Dad was a complete arse & we'd spend mum's day just us two being together when he was little, doing silly stuff. He's emigrating soon so this is our last mum's day together today, we are just chilling & keeping smiling.

 

[lozzapaloozza]

Sending my love to you all today. You are not alone. You got this

 

[Facehugger]

Thank you for this thread. My mother and I have an awful relationship, to the point that she’s been arrested by the police for her behaviour towards me and I can no longer have her in my life.

Bless you x I've seen many posters on other threads talk about toxic relationships and horrible treatment from their Mums during their life, that all must be awful. The saying you only get one Mum though is always bandied about by those who have no understanding at all. X

 

[Facehugger]

Lots of love and hugs to all of you managing to get through the day today I've had a peaceful day, just chilled out & done nothing. Normally I'd have been to my mum (disabled) doing chores & caring stuff, it's a double edged sword, I'm so sad she's not here but it's the first Mother's Day in the nearly 30 years I've been able to do nothing at all.

 

[Facehugger]

Love to you too 🤍 it really is the worst x

And you lost mine just before Xmas.

Me too. My mum died just after Christmas. Sending love to you

You too

This year will be difficult and sad, we can get through it everyone x

 

[Moongirl69]

Sunday was ok but I avoided any social media. I'm a mum but I told my kids I didn't want a fuss so we just treated it like any other day. Hope you all managed to get through

 

[If i told you …]

Just a little thought for those of us who have lost our mums

 

[Dwightschrute]

Me too. My mum died just after Christmas. Sending love to you

Love to you too 🤍 it really is the worst x

 

[Dwightschrute]

How is everyone doing today? 🤍