The problem is everybody says this same thing about “it’s safe if done properly” but nobody is out there giving training on what is “properly”. Nobody gives parents a manual, so you can bet there is going to be people who don’t have common sense and will do it unsafely. I don’t think it’s fair to say it’s as “safe” As putting baby to cot in the traditional way. I’ve never heard a Health visitor Or professional praising it or saying they do it themselves. It’s associated with certain cultures (90% of Asian countries do it) but what is lesser talked about is the child mortality figures of those countries. there is of course a risk. A baby’s cot is specifically designed to be safe for the size of a small baby (unlike a double bed, for example). Aside from the risk of rolling on them, baby could fall out of bed, or fall between a wall or dressing table. Also there’s been instances of baby rolling down under the sheets and suffocating, so simply rolling over is not the only risk.Personally we (Partner and I) never did it because we didn’t see the point, we just put him back in his cot after feeding / changing, we went back to our bed And everybody was happy. Our £100 cot was worth it for a good nights sleep. Your sleep is so important too, why sacrifice never getting into a deep sleep To co-sleep when baby could simply sleep in their cot. also I didn’t like us being tied to a whatever time our son went to bed - to me it’s more natural for a baby’s bedtime to be 7-8pm, whereas I don’t know many adults that go to bed at this time. While he’s asleep that time alone with my partner is an essential to our relationship, so we watch a movie or just spend time together. Some people sleep deeply naturally btw, not just from alcohol etc. Those I know who’ve co-slept have inevitably found it caused problems with their relationship, As naturally I don’t think many men are ok with it (even if they don’t speak up) and the only other people I know that have done it are single mothers who did it moreso for the company in bed than for benefits for the child. Not sure that’s a good enough reason when balanced with the risk
All my own opinion btw, not telling anybody how to live their life. Just because I don’t understand why you’d do something doesn’t mean it’s not ok