I just want to put a trigger warning at the beginning of my post as I know some of you have said your struggling.
Im trying to make sense of it in my head. I was trained as a paediatric nurse, newborn to 16, 18 in some cases. The focus was never explicitly on preterm neonates, most cpr training in uni was from newborn etc.
Neonates is a speciality all of its own.
I have assumed that at first she started working in the special care rooms, and worked her way up to working more full time in the high dependency, which honestly can and should take a few months, as your learning new skills everyday as you go. That’s how it was for me. And so as her confidence and knowledge grows she is more aware of what can go wrong for preterm babies and treatments. It’s very different even to paediatrics (I have worked both)
As mentioned previously, babies forgot to breathe regularly, and small nudges etc a lot of the time we’re enough intervention. The elation when babies reached milestones, e.g coming off ventilators was shared by all of the staff. And in turn can lead to an amazing feeling that you are making a difference and you have a big purpose in life. Your working with mothers who are at their most vulnerable, and you do form special bonds (assisting them to hold their babies for the first time etc) especially because of the length of time babies are admitted. The other side of that, which I only ever experienced once, was horrendous. The baby was christened before the machine was turned off, and all of us had silent tears rolling down our faces while we went about our work. And this was a baby we had been around for a couple of hours at most. Both experiences, although very different are very emotive.
Who knows whether it was something in her personal life, or something at work that triggered her to act the way she did (I’m trying to remain open minded)
It’s well known that children deteriorate quickly, and can also recover quickly, but for me the maths with it all just isn’t mathing. I understand that for some the coincidence of her being there isn’t enough. But having been in that environment, I just can’t get my head around the fact that people didn’t realise she was the common denominator. Maybe it’s because crashes were so uncommon where I worked they would have stuck out like a sore thumb, even more so if it was the same person around the baby at the time.
I just don’t understand how anyone can harm a defenceless baby, if she is innocent and incompetent, why would you carry on knowing you are doing more damage?
I also for some reason can get out of my head that she knew what she was writing when she wrote the note, and it was written purposefully. Maybe im just reading about it all too much at this point.
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