Loneliness

[4tuhju]

Yeah it’s rit! I’m just not sure how you make and maintain friendships these days ... I had a great group of friends at work but I’ve switched jobs and we kinda lost touch! I’m sure things will get better though!

My advice would be reach out to those friends that you miss, and dont be too hard on yourself for not maintaining a lot of friendships. Sometimes friends are only supposed to be there temporarily, but sometimes you meet an absolute gem of a person where you have a great friendship but life just gets in the way and you drift apart. It's just a weird life thing, I'm sure the people who you actually miss would love to hear from you. Send them a meme that reminds you of them or a joke you had or just send a msg saying hey (right now with everything going on it's a good excuse to reach out to people and check in, it doesnt have to be awkward or weird I've reached out to a few people I've lost touch with just to say hi hope you're ok and weve picked up the thread like we just spoke yesterday.
Or if you want to make some new friends, think of something you're passionate about if it's to do with your career or even a hobby and find an online community and make friends on there to build up your confidence

 

[orangelolly]

My husband and I moved 250 miles. We knew no one but each other. I started volunteering and have made so many friends I'll now walk to the local shop and pretty much be guaranteed to see one person I know. It is a case of putting yourself out there a bit I'm afraid. Before I always felt I was fairly anti social but that's because I was in my own comfort zone in my original hometown. Since moving I've actually discovered I really like getting to know new people.

 

[Sunflower91]

If it makes you feel any better, I have no friends either and lockdown has made me sad about that. I’ve moved back home with my parents but need to go back to my flat in London at some point and I feel really sad about it ... I’m going back to nothing

Fellow Londoner here
I used to feel the same-most of my friends and family are in the north and I barely see them. I know lockdown makes this more difficult but I found Meetup to be really useful, made a few friends that have the same interests and also I spend a lot of time with my work friends. That being said I always feel sad when I come back to London.

 

[lipsticktaser]

Just want to echo the reaching out to old friends. I did and it's paid dividends. I don't have a group of friends and only really see people 1-2-1. I feel like I'm really missing out on that comradery. I've decided to join a local smaller gym instead of the large chain one I was in. It's a bit more money but I figure it will give me that sense of community and help me lose the poundage. Obviously post pandemic.

It's not just you, I know so many people in the same boat. And remember people are only putting the best foot forward on SM.
I've stayed in friendships that made me feel tit because I thought it was better than being lonely. I'm 32 and I've never been on a girly holiday, a hen night away or anything like that. Even just big birthday drinks out. I had a 30th people dropped like flies to the point it was just family. It was humiliating.

Life is so busy it's easy to let relationships fall by the wayside to career etc. But now you've noticed it think of the positive. You're 23. You get to move on with your life post covid freely. Go join and do what you want. Friendship groups can also be suffocating with the politics and the incubation of bad behaviour. Think of it as time to get to know what you like and who you want in your life. Some friends are there for a year, some forever. And remember your best mates may change with every decade of your life as you grow.

I'm a SAHM so that comes with its own set of complications to meeting people. But I also know I really lack confidence so don't put myself out there because I hate rejection. Maybe be a bit reflective and see if there is anything stopping you.

 

[CLittleworld]

Hi I am a single mum been single a long time I have a big family and friendship group but everyone is married etc so I often spend weeks on end only seeing my daughter and when she’s with her dad just me and that cat ! I started an insta page about a few things I love and made lots of friends I now talk too daily

 

[mine to cherryreg]

Hi I am a single mum been single a long time I have a big family and friendship group but everyone is married etc so I often spend weeks on end only seeing my daughter and when she’s with her dad just me and that cat ! I started an insta page about a few things I love and made lots of friends I now talk too daily

What is the page about? How did you gain followers on the page that are in the same boat? Sounds like good idea x