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Blimey, I am a social worker too (child protection and court) and there’s no way this would meet threshold for play therapy in the area of the UK I work in. It would not even meet threshold for early help and would be an outreach worker providing support to a family from a community setting if anything at all. I definitely don’t think Isla needs a psychologist or the family would meet threshold for any other services.
Same, where I work. Wouldn't be a family who would qualify for any support. Postcode lottery!
 
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I actually feel quite sorry for K. Yes he may have made mistakes and I cant imagine how hard that must have been for the family but he clearly works his a off for them! All whilst she gives up work to sit and moan around the house. But is more then happy to swan off to all those gifted trips and days out
 
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This is incredibly ignorant.
how so? In an incredibly difficult time for any, never mind those who have previously battled demons. We don’t know what stage in his recovery he is at, how he’s handling it, what his temptations were previously. I just said if it was my partner I don’t think I’d let him go out and do a food shop either. Everybody is happy to judge Lil for going out and doing a food shop but there could be so many reasons why she’s decided to do so.
 
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The government have changed the guidelines now and pregnant women are no longer classed as vulnerable (they have the same risk as a woman who isn’t pregnant) unless they have a pre existing heart condition
The government changes the guidelines like the weather, I don’t think they can be fully trusted. I just think there’s a world pandemic going on, anyone can catch the virus so I don’t think anyone pregnant should be doing a full shop at Tesco if they have someone else to do it

The government don’t know much though. I wouldn’t trust borris 😂😂😂 keep in and protect your baby!


Completely the right thing to do! Good luck xx
Me neither, stay the hell in 😂
 
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'Let' him go out is abit wild lol. Where do you draw the line if thats the level of thinking? Believe me, if someone wants to drink, they will. Same with any addiction. You cant babysit someone.
 
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No one can trust babbling borris the baboon. It’s not worth the risk personally.

I know someone called me out before a while ago for saying no wonder he had a drink problem when he’s living with Lil which Was taken out of content... what I meant is I can’t see her being overly supportive and therefore when times are tough, she would rather plaster everything on insta, cook pasta,
want want want and lunchtime baths even more than ever.

But I think saying he can’t be trusted to do the food shop is a bit of an odd one?!
He’s done so well and one thing I will say is I think he’s an amazing dad and would clearly do anything for his girls and lil.
Alcoholics aren’t always alcoholics and you can’t babysit him and not let him near alcohol
 
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Christ, you put a comment and don’t explain what you mean properly and everybody is singing the same lines from the same hymn sheet. I said I wouldn’t let my partner go out and do it. Especially not in a global pandemic where life as we know it has changed completely, his whole stance on recovery will have changed and other outlets he may have originally depended on may not be there anymore.

I never said he wasn’t a good dad. Or that he will always be an alcoholic. But as it stands he’s in an undoubtedly fragile process of recovery. Like I said, we have no idea on the ins and outs of it so maybe I should have never said it. But we also don’t know why Lil went out and did the shop, be it her choice or a necessity for them.
 
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Shes said not long ago how proud she was of him, and how well he was doing. You can sense theyre in a better place, from whats shared anyway. And I think they had therapy as well?

But yeah, generally, if youre in a relationship and questioning if you should 'let' someone out to do something; thats major red flags. I'd imagine they've rebuilt trust and that isnt an issue (him going out and about). Afterall, he could drink at any point. At work, after work etc. That goes for many issues though, and vices, even cheating. Its all trust innit.
 
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Shes said not long ago how proud she was of him, and how well he was doing. You can sense theyre in a better place, from whats shared anyway. And I think they had therapy as well?

But yeah, generally, if youre in a relationship and questioning if you should 'let' someone out to do something; thats major red flags. I'd imagine they've rebuilt trust and that isnt an issue (him going out and about). Afterall, he could drink at any point. At work, after work etc. That goes for many issues though, and vices, even cheating. Its all trust innit.
I guess so. We’ll never know, we don’t know the ins and outs 🤷🏻‍♀️
 
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Do we honestly think he was an ‘addict addict’ or that lil just didn’t liking him drinking and nagged him into thinking he had a problem

Ignore me just seen the above. But still, I imagine her bullying him into believing he had an issue because she didn’t like it.
 
I, like many others, just assumed it was alcohol. But after a boredom scroll I don’t think it is.
I do wish him and them as a family well regardless of how my opinions on Lil waxes or wanes
Sniff then, or gambling maybe.
 
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I, like many others, just assumed it was alcohol. But after a boredom scroll I don’t think it is.
I do wish him and them as a family well regardless of how my opinions on Lil waxes or wanes
ahh that’s interesting, when they went away for a cousins wedding last year she said she was so proud of Kieran as it was his first sober holiday and wedding
 
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From what I recall, it was how he acted after drinking that bothered her. Maybe he was a horrible drunk? Doesn’t mean he was dependant on it everyday it just made him not very nice to be around when he did drink 🤔 and that’s why he decided to just not drink again.
ETA but that’s an assumption I made from what she shared about it in the past. She never actually went into detail
 
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