Katherine Ryan

[weeweegie]

That is the letter I foresee being her downfall. She was always so open minded and accepting but a few things she has said lately has been a little Terf ish. Which was water off a ducks back to me as not my circus, not my monkeys. But if she is to continue selling herself as a feminist, it may be more Terf sided than the other.

Yes cos god forbid she stands up for women’s rights. The shame! 🫠

 

[emeraldopal]

I know it's parasocial and probably a bit creepy/weird to say this but I have started to become genuinely a bit concerned about her. She seems quite lost atm. I've listened to her podcast since it first began, in lockdown 2020, and she seems different now - she seems cowed somehow. It's as though he has gradually exerted some kind of hypnotic hold over her?! At first I actually liked him but now I find him quite sinister - he's obviously pretty far to the right politically and socially, and I think in his case it's encompassed some viewpoints that are veering towards misogynistic.
I think she absolutely adores Bobby to an unhealthy degree and I think she has a lot of insecurity over the relationship - she makes so many allusions to how he's better looking than her, in what I know is supposed to be self-deprecating humour, but I think there's a ring of truth in the sense that it's how she genuinely feels. I think there's a chance that what she perceives to be communication and compromise on both their parts is actually something akin to the brainwashing the likes of Andrew Tate partake in. This is a silly example, but the story of how Bobby told her a bird lit their balcony on fire with a lit cigarette and it wasn't him smoking that caused it...if that was a joke, she played it so dry that I couldn't tell...Another less silly example is how he apparently didn't do any of the night stuff with Fred, ever, because he 'needs more sleep' despite Katherine working what seem to be pretty crazy hours. I'm not saying he isn't working being at home with the kids, but it's mad to me that he never did any of the nights?

I just get the vibe that she's lost some of her sense of self since being with him.

Of course this could all be utter guff - I hope it is! Parasocial relationships and thinking you know someone from listening to a weekly podcast Hopefully she's genuinely as happy and healthy and empowered as she insists she is

 

[Nadia Vulvokov]

What's the worst thing he's done?

He almost set the house on fire with a lit cigarette, he denied it and Katherine covered for him by saying on her podcast it was a bird dropping a still lit stub (I mean, really?!)
He undermines her parenting of her eldest daughter too and when she was telling her birth story with Fenna on the podcast he kept cutting in with remarks about what he'd seen (I'm assuming he meant the actual giving birth) and she sounded so upset by it. And now apparently he's setting fire to and disappearing her belongings.
As someone who's trained in DV awareness & support I'd be telling her to run and never look back! He's slowly getting worse. Used to be such a big fan of hers and related to her a lot. Had to stop listening to her podcast a few months ago as she's so far removed from who she used to be. It's quite sad.

 

[femmegirly]

I came off social media (so havent see her posts for a good while). Watched her Missus stand up special, and couldn’t believe the difference in her. Immediately reactivated insta and shocked to see the kids faces all over it uncensored.

I was ready for some jokes at mens expense - what she is known for and why I enjoy her stand-up, and it was just her bragging about her new man, who is not that hot btw. He looks like a balloon with a thin wispy moustache drawn on. He looks like the kind of guy who peaked in high school but still thinks he’s it when in actual fact, he’s just another unemployed dude leaching off his girlfriend.

KR’s special was overly self-deprecating making jokes about her boobs, and how her man is better looking than her etc. She comes across as having much lower self esteem now. Disappointing as she’s always been so confident in herself and didn’t need a man in her life to make her complete.

She was saying that retrospectively she was miserable single (dating too many crap men). It smacked to me of when formerly fat celebs who claimed to be happy with their bodies and encouraging body positivity in their audience, then lose all the weight and proclaim to the same audience that they actually hated being fat and they are so much happier thinner while they flog their fitness dvds.

After watching that special, I would no longer describe her as a feminist. She is also very tight with Jimmy Carr whose stand up is just constant misogyny - sexist, rape, pedophilia jokes. His stand up is nothing like his work on 8 out of 10 cats or Big Fat Quiz. Her now agreeing with Andrew Tate comes as no shock. She isn’t a feminist. Not anymore at least. She’s turned into a pickme. Something that she used to laugh at. But maybe she’s always been one? She worked at Hooters after all.

Bobby dumped her as a teen and she obviously never got over it. He’s back with her for the money and lifestyle and she seems just so pathetically grateful. She spent the entire special trying to convince everyone how happy she is, but it sounded more like she was trying to convince herself.

Violet used to come first. Now it’s clear that Bobby has pushed her into second, third or fourth position.

And I don’t for a second believe that Violet says any of these snappy put-downs. Those segments have major ‘that happened’ energy.

 

[maytoseptember]

The absolute state of him!!!!!

He looks like he’s just joined a cult and she looks like… a Christmas milkmaid? Terrible outfits either way.

 

[femmegirly]

I just feel bad for her. She’s brainwashed and trapped. I had 2 kids very close together with my ex who made me feel like shit every day but I stayed with him out of fear of having to do everything on my own. It doesn’t matter if you have loads of money and consider yourself a feminist. Women are unfortunately programmed to do the perceived ‘right’ thing for their kids which is find and stick with a ‘secure’ unit even if that unit isn’t healthy or good for them. You’ve got to remember that Katherine is geographically isolated from her entire family which will make it even harder.

There are reasons why her and Bobby split the first time. She’s maybe already realised that she’s made a mistake but she’s thinking she’s made her bed, and finally after years of struggling as a single mum, she has her ‘unit’.

It’s fucking sad and I want to shake her, but I relate.
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I feel sorry for her that she moved across the Atlantic and made it, went home famous and ended up with the same loser she wanted at school. Like, have a bit more ambition, Katherine.

Bobby wouldn’t have dated her again, had she not got famous. I refuse to believe otherwise.

 

[sippingdattea]

I thought it was odd she was arranging a play date for Bobby and Geoff Norcott like she’s not busy enough with a newborn and going back to work. It just seemed a bit desperate. She obviously wants Bobby to have his own pals but it’s cringe how she’s stepping in. It’s very mum like behaviour

Very telling that of all the male comedians she chooses to befriend Bobby, she picks a notorious right winger. I’m sorry, I know some people find it admirable that she is with someone whose political beliefs don’t necessarily align with hers, but I find it hard to believe that someone who was genuinely progressive and committed to activism would be able to stomach sleeping next to someone whose ideals oppose theirs, let alone raise a family with them. I foresee Katherine becoming more and more conservative the longer she is with Bobby.

 

[Natterbox80]

In the most recent podcast she details that her nanny took a week off and they needed a new nanny to tide them over.. Why the hell can't BK just do it!? I am baffled by this, they must have come to an agreement that he is a stay-at-home person, not a stay-at-home dad lol.

 

[Flowerpotgirl]

It's pretty fucking clear.

Thank you for implying I am stupid. I was asking a question.

 

[emeraldopal]

I mean I still don't quite understand why a family with a stay at home parent needs a nanny, but I suppose all that golf isn't going to play itself

 

[Smell_my_cheese]

I have always been a big fan of KR but since she started sharing more of her home life and family I’ve found myself disliking a lot of her views which seem to directly conflict with how she wants to be perceived.

Sometimes I think these famous people would be better off retaining a mystique about them and staying off social media, because once you realise they’re a nob they must lose a lot of fans!

 

[Libertine1975]

If any of your real life friends told you their husband burnt their property I think most people would tell their friend to leave him. I find this really concerning that he burnt her stuff.

 

[Freedomofspeech89]

So let me get this straight. She’s driving to Birmingham for work and having to take all 3 kids with her. All the while her husband and father to her kids is out playing golf! She must have the patience of a saint because I’d be spitting feathers!

 

[coolcapitalist]

Literally my pet hate, I had perfect pregnancy and got all woo woo and was soooo positive about birth then had DREADFUL experience that’s left me with permanent injuries and PTSD. Some twat I worked with told me she had her perfect easy water birth because she prepared a lot for it with hypnobirthing LOL F OFF

 

[Libertine1975]

Isn't it time for a new thread? Have we got any thread titles?

If not how about Katherine Ryan 2 The Audacity of Bobby

 

[femmegirly]

Sorry but it's different. There's no point in showing off a baby sucking on a bottle because with breastfeeding it's about the personal connection. There's no personal connection with an interchangable piece of rubber is there. It's also really amazing and emotional being able to feed your baby from your own body.

Showing breastfeeding gives breastfeeding mums a bad name?! What in the 1950s misogynistic body shaming is this? Breasts are for breastfeeding not sure what your problem is.

It’s hella misogynistic to say that there’s no personal connection between mother and baby with bottle-feeding too. Not everyone can. I breastfed for 9 months because I could, and I hated it. Stop pitting women against one another ffs.

 

[Nearlyvegan]

I have a soon to be 18 year old daughter and I am with Katherine here.

 

[juy7nhio]

More closeup pumping stories. Probably done to get a reaction. I’ve fallen for it!
Is it just being used to show that’s the general vibe of her day to day life?

Omg I hate all the showy-off breastfeeding on Instagram. I formula feed my little one, do I post endless videos and close-ups and different angles of her sucking her bottle? Of course I fucking don't! It's just sanctimonious moralising and showing off and I'm sick of it. It actually gives breastfeeding mums a bad name.

 

[emeraldopal]

It's so strange to me that in one breath she's discussing how important it is to protect your children online, then in the next breath broadcasting tales of Violet's transgressions - and those of her schoolmates?!! How is that not going to cause a ton of drama for Violet?! KR did an Instagram story last night too with BK seemingly mocking Violet wearing short shorts. I just don't get how she thinks it's acceptable to use her for content, and to mock a 13 year old girl publically in the way she does - she probably sees it as just gentle ribbing and "Violet gave her permission" but even though Violet is ok with it now (in all her 13 year old wisdom...) I can't help finding it v v ill-judged for so many reasons

 

[Tiger tat]

I feel sorry for her that she moved across the Atlantic and made it, went home famous and ended up with the same loser she wanted at school. Like, have a bit more ambition, Katherine.

I remember in Glitter Room there was that line where she mocked the girls in Sarnia for being ‘ordinary’ (‘you’re not normal; you’re ordinary. It’s different ’) and now… she’s with Bobby