Kate Lawler #2

[Howdy]

Yeah she’s a very odd character isn’t she. She’s always putting on this performance. The over the top shouty ladette voice, the irritating and juvenile “brillllllllliant!” Thing she always does, the constant trying to be a bit laddy talking about shit/boobs etc, calling her boobs Grant & Phil etc - it’s all just a stupid childish performance and a very dated one at that. She makes herself look & sound really stupid I think and really immature. She’s a 40 year old woman - she needs to just drop the 1990s ladette act and just be normal.

It is rather cringe-inducing, like when she said "get in my son" to the man in the ice cream van when he said he accepted cards for payment. Maybe just me but as you say it's all a bit ladette and try hard.

 

[MakeDamnSure]

The thing is the nights are hard but they are also some of the most precious moments you have with your baby too. My first is a Christmas baby and I remember on New Year’s Eve, feeding him and looking out the window with fireworks going off outside and just whispering happy new year to him. That’s one of my favourite memories and I’m sad for Kate that she will be missing out on moments like this.

 

[BettyCrockerr]

I just find it ridiculous that 2 adults at home all day cannot cope with one baby and get a stranger in to look after her several times a week. I'm going to have to unfollow the pair of them.

Yeah i agree. I just cannot understand the mentality of it. It’s actually kind of embarrassing for them I think. Imagine it, the “doula”’(babysitter) comes over, there’s the two of them in the house, they pass the baby over and then the two of them do what exactly?!!! Sit on their arses on Instagram while a STRANGER is in the next room with the baby?!! Sorry but it’s an absolute joke. An absolute fucking joke.

 

[Cookiemonster83]

I don't think she has PND. I think she just had a massive dose of reality and a "oh shit" moment that this was her new way of life. The fact that they are smug and "bye huns" in bed at 11 ready for a night's sleep because they have a glorified babysitter is just disgusting. Boj wanted a child until he realised that you actually had to raise them and Kate didn't want them full stop. Neither want to change. They are too selfish to change. I don't get why they don't take it in turns to let the other rest. That's what millions of other couples do. Sadly when Noa gets older they won't be able to throw money at every problem that arises. I hope they feel deep regret later in life at the loss of raising their daughter just cos they wanted to go put fake tan on, play footie and have an early night. Absolutely terrible parenting. Kate is not maternal. There's no real affection. And Boj is just an egotistical prat and both suffer with extreme narcissism. My heart breaks for Noa being brought up by a babysitter and these 2 imbeciles.

 

[Firefliesaremagic]

Martin Bojtos is such a hypocrite. He’s happy for his daughter to be splashed all over social media, including when she is at her most vulnerable in hospital, but he wishes to keep his own surname private. Noa can’t consent to any of the things that are shared about her. He does not deserve to be a parent. And neither does Kate for allowing this to happen to her daughter.

 

[Basicbasic]

Everyone else is awake WITH their little ones, not because of. Imagine paying someone to have your child so you can sleep and just lying in bed til really late then getting up at babies feed time anyway. Put your phone down and keep it dark

She's not up to feed her newborn. She's up to express because she expresses for HERSELF. It makes her feel good/ better/ thinner. Sorry she's acting very very odd. There is no love for that baby at all.

 

[Pixipoppy]

How dare you accuse me of shaming anyone! You are not aware of my family circumstances so lay off!

And you’re not aware of anyone else’s? Don’t generalise your family dynamics and make out anyone who does have family support is incapable.

“why should she help out” Oh I don’t know, maybe because that’s what some family members do for each other? I’m sorry yours didn’t but that doesn’t mean it’s ok to be bitter.

 

[Mrsh2019]

I missed what happened with the women who messaged her but reading between this lines this has made me dislike her in a whole different light.

Unfortunately for the woman who commented on her Instagram pic, it’s now all over the Daily Mail, with her user name and Kates response again showing her user name. So while Kate has taken the story down, it’s too late.... it’s still out there for this woman to get even more abuse.

 

[Firefliesaremagic]

Bodge wants a blue tick on Instagram for being a nobody on an MTV show?!
This just shows how over inflated his ego is. What a dick.

 

[Treesy19]

If he’s got time and energy to play football and run round a pitch he’s got time and energy to share the load and tend to his baby. And we know he’s got time as he’s said already about his job situation. These two wanted the trophy of a child but don’t want the work of having to raise her. How on earth you could lie in bed storying and laughing to the internet when your tiny newborn is several floors down with a stranger is beyond me!

 

[Ihateusernames2701]

She spelt statutory wrong I'm currently on statutory mat pay and its just over £150 a week. So wouldn't even cover two nights of a night nanny... and no I can't afford one nor would I want to. Because spending time with my tiny baby is a privilege and my husband feels the same so does his share.

 

[Basicbasic]

Good grief the golf stories. Two 40 something adults trying hard to look young and trendy, and free from responsibilities. This has clearly come from management - go and film some stories just the 2 of you, let's try and make you and boj happen.

All the while, everyone is thinking wtf are you up to you lazy, entitled, spoilt, selfish gets. No matter what she posts, it always come across crystal clear that she wants to be anywhere except near her newborn. Very odd behaviour.

 

[Curveball]

I do feel for her as I struggled massively in the newborn days too, everyone told me newborns are easy! All they do is sleep and eat! Not the case at all my first had reflux so it was a constant stream of milky vomit all over the house, crying all day and being awake all night. I wouldn’t have dared post all of that on social media though. My second was a dream baby and it made life a lot easier!
Wait until Noa does get into some sort of night time sleep routine then suddenly decides that 4.30am is an acceptable time to wake up for the day for weeks on end those days are even worse than night feeds

Some of the darkest times were waiting for CBeebies to start at 6am! Then feeling like you'd done a whole day by 10am!

 

[BettyCrockerr]

Wishing she could be happier Poor kate

She’s got her priorities all wrong though

Fuck Instagram
Fuck hair masks
Fuck fucking dicking about doing whatever

If you are tired go to sleep. Sleep. No on your phone. Not on Instagram. Go to sleep.

 

[Lampy]

Sorry, but a night nanny 3 nights a week?!? For 10hrs a night! Surely no one with any sort of experience is working nightshifts in London for anything less than £15p/h, so how exactly is her stat maternity pay of £150 a week covering AT LEAST £450 A WEEK for someone else to look after her kid?! A kid that by her own admission wakes twice in the night, to feed, settles in between, and has 2 able bodied parents who currently aren't working! How relatable

 

[Poptart]

How about instead of lying in bed looking at photos of your baby and waking up in the night to pump you actually have her in the room with you and look after her yourself? It's madness. I just don't get it.

 

[Sw4]

I don’t think having a doula or night nanny or whatever is the worst thing in the world, I mean I personally wouldn’t do it but each to their own and if it helps you cope then fine. The concept of a nanny or hired help is not new.

However the way they are acting is just so tone deaf and quite upsetting. They hired help so they could get some sleep but still go to bed late. She is happy to wake up in the dead of night to pump, but not feed her own daughter. They are happy to leave her during the day to play fucking crazy golf, good grief. And yet they still moan about how difficult parenthood is. Most people who work and don’t even have a baby are up before 6.45am! What the hell were they expecting, a doll?

 

[lalalanded]

If you have a doula three nights a week why are you so exhausted that you need to rest during the day? Surely the baby is sleeping during the day as well? I just don't understand why she had a baby, she clearly wants none of the responsibility that goes along with it.

 

[DrMeredithGrey]

Being a new mum can be really shit for some people.
It just can be.
I didn’t feel a real connection to my children until I ditched breast feeding, which only took 2 weeks both times, so whilst a lot of people find the night feeds to be a great time for bonding, the same can’t be said for everyone.
I also had my sister come sit at our house for a few hours a couple of times when the children were days old, so my partner and I could get some sleep. Not the same as having a night nanny I know, but I felt very comfortable with it and was able to get some decent sleep, I didn’t feel concerned about spending a few hours on a different floor of the house from my newborn at all, which is obviously very different to how some of you feel.
My point is, no one size fits all when it comes to motherhood. Whilst some may feel that Kate is lacking, maybe she’s doing all she can to keep her head above water?
It seems to me that she could really do with some support - maybe she needs to talk to her doctor or health visitor.
I know lots of people have it harder and just ‘get on with it’ but the whole stiff upper lip, ‘I did this under these conditions I don’t see why they can’t do it under theirs’ narrative can be really harmful.

to balance things out, the voice she talks to her dogs with and the whole hot and bothered bullshit makes me want to rip my ears off

 

[Yellowsandwich]

I hope she is ok. I like her, I think she’s just been struggling to adjust to becoming a mum. It must be such a shock to the system after so long of being your own person.

I know this isn’t a rave thread and everyone is entitled to their opinion, but I find it mad that she went years not being commented on and as soon as she became a mum everyone seems to have a critical opinion of her. I hope she doesn’t read this forum.