Was just seeking some advice please.
I was with ex partner, the father of my son for 10 years. We broke up coming up to 3 years ago after I left the relationship due to emotional abuse. My son is 9 however is very stubborn and very headstrong. Since the breakup, my sons dad has mostly seen him every weekend, due to my sons schooling and his dad's location, he only sees him on weekdays during the school holidays. His dad doesn't work and I work full time. My ex and myself had an argument in November, and at the time, he messaged my son via his xbox arguing with him and called him an arselicker because my son then told me about this conversation. Since then, my son has refused to go to his dad's. He has not spent time with him since November. I have tried so hard to speak to my son, stating how important it is to have a relationship with both parents, how much his dad loves him and have sat him down and calmly spoken to him about his reasons for not wanting to see his dad. His dad is now blaming me, saying that I'm stopping their relationship, that it's all my fault and our last conversation was ended with him calling me a fat s**g and how I'm a terrible parent. I'm lost as to what to do in this situation. When he was going to his dad's before, all was good, they had a good relationship, my son was happy to go there but now it seems he doesn't care about his dad at all. His dad has threatened suicide on many occasions and hounds me via email telling me of his plans as 'I've taken everything away from him', which then makes me feel guilty but I can't force my child to go there against his wishes.
I was with ex partner, the father of my son for 10 years. We broke up coming up to 3 years ago after I left the relationship due to emotional abuse. My son is 9 however is very stubborn and very headstrong. Since the breakup, my sons dad has mostly seen him every weekend, due to my sons schooling and his dad's location, he only sees him on weekdays during the school holidays. His dad doesn't work and I work full time. My ex and myself had an argument in November, and at the time, he messaged my son via his xbox arguing with him and called him an arselicker because my son then told me about this conversation. Since then, my son has refused to go to his dad's. He has not spent time with him since November. I have tried so hard to speak to my son, stating how important it is to have a relationship with both parents, how much his dad loves him and have sat him down and calmly spoken to him about his reasons for not wanting to see his dad. His dad is now blaming me, saying that I'm stopping their relationship, that it's all my fault and our last conversation was ended with him calling me a fat s**g and how I'm a terrible parent. I'm lost as to what to do in this situation. When he was going to his dad's before, all was good, they had a good relationship, my son was happy to go there but now it seems he doesn't care about his dad at all. His dad has threatened suicide on many occasions and hounds me via email telling me of his plans as 'I've taken everything away from him', which then makes me feel guilty but I can't force my child to go there against his wishes.