whats_her_face
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Look, I get it. I get why she is going batshit on the internet, why she is tweeting all of her thoughts a millisecond after they enter her head and why she is trying to wreck Ioan’s life.
My ex husband did actually have an affair and although I filed for divorce it still stung when he moved on very quickly. I hated him with a vengeance, why did he get to move on and find love again when he’d been so cruel to me? Why was I left with the pain from betrayal and divorce when he seemed to face no ramifications? I shut up though, at least on social media. I vented to my friends and my family ONLY. Looking at my social media you’d not be able to see the immense pain I’d been in because I knew once it was out there that I couldn’t take it back. So I’d write out what I wanted to say in my notes when I was consumed with anger, leave it for a few hours and inevitably, once I’d calmed down, I’d delete it and be so grateful I hadn’t aired my dirty laundry in public. Because one thing my ex husband couldn’t take from me, because it was mine to give away, was my dignity. I could have blown up like Alice, or sit back and change my behaviour patterns, let the anger ebb and flow without acting on it every time and walk out of a divorce with my head held high. My ex husband can’t say the same, he’s a cheater and continued to rub his new relationship in my face since he left, but that’s on him and people do notice he’s acted like a twat.
I shut down communication with him on all non-essential subjects and only discuss the divorce, I blocked him on all social media and most importantly, I didn’t go looking at his social media after I’d blocked him (from a burner or what not). I knew he was happy, I knew he was serious with another woman shortly after I left, and yes it made me feel like shit that I’d been replaced so quickly but I decided it was none of my business anymore. Do you know what happened? I began to heal, I noticed the less I engaged with him and gave him reason to say “she’s crazy, look at how she’s acting” (because I did go crazy for a few months after he cheated, understandably), I found so much peace in being the bigger person! I healed myself by being responsible for my own actions and it’s a life lesson I’ll take with me forever. You can’t control what happens to you, you can’t control that life will be unfair towards you at times, but you can control your reactions, remove yourself from the drama and focus on your new life, because your life isn’t with them any more so why give them any of your precious time on this earth?
Ioan is moving on, and people telling Alice that his new relationship won’t last are actually doing her more harm, because it may very well last. She is probably waiting for the day it crashes and burns because she will be able to say HA I TOLD YOU SO, and if it doesn’t come she’s going to have another massive shock of hurt coming her way. She is showing him that he was totally right to leave by throwing a barrage of abuse at him and his new girlfriend. I feel for her, I really do, but she is only making it worse for herself. I wish she’d call a therapist instead of writing it out on Twitter, she’s leaving a legacy of possibly litigious quotes for loan to use against her in a divorce settlement.
As a little side note, I also come from a family where I was in the position Alice’s daughters are in, thankfully it didn’t play out on social media, but everything she’s saying was said to me, as the daughter. That stays with you for life, and if Ioan does one thing to ensure he is a good dad it’ll be getting those girls into therapy right now. Don’t wait for it to crop up in later life, they will absolutely need a safe space to talk about how their parents actions make them feel.
Anyway, that’s my 2p on this subject!
My ex husband did actually have an affair and although I filed for divorce it still stung when he moved on very quickly. I hated him with a vengeance, why did he get to move on and find love again when he’d been so cruel to me? Why was I left with the pain from betrayal and divorce when he seemed to face no ramifications? I shut up though, at least on social media. I vented to my friends and my family ONLY. Looking at my social media you’d not be able to see the immense pain I’d been in because I knew once it was out there that I couldn’t take it back. So I’d write out what I wanted to say in my notes when I was consumed with anger, leave it for a few hours and inevitably, once I’d calmed down, I’d delete it and be so grateful I hadn’t aired my dirty laundry in public. Because one thing my ex husband couldn’t take from me, because it was mine to give away, was my dignity. I could have blown up like Alice, or sit back and change my behaviour patterns, let the anger ebb and flow without acting on it every time and walk out of a divorce with my head held high. My ex husband can’t say the same, he’s a cheater and continued to rub his new relationship in my face since he left, but that’s on him and people do notice he’s acted like a twat.
I shut down communication with him on all non-essential subjects and only discuss the divorce, I blocked him on all social media and most importantly, I didn’t go looking at his social media after I’d blocked him (from a burner or what not). I knew he was happy, I knew he was serious with another woman shortly after I left, and yes it made me feel like shit that I’d been replaced so quickly but I decided it was none of my business anymore. Do you know what happened? I began to heal, I noticed the less I engaged with him and gave him reason to say “she’s crazy, look at how she’s acting” (because I did go crazy for a few months after he cheated, understandably), I found so much peace in being the bigger person! I healed myself by being responsible for my own actions and it’s a life lesson I’ll take with me forever. You can’t control what happens to you, you can’t control that life will be unfair towards you at times, but you can control your reactions, remove yourself from the drama and focus on your new life, because your life isn’t with them any more so why give them any of your precious time on this earth?
Ioan is moving on, and people telling Alice that his new relationship won’t last are actually doing her more harm, because it may very well last. She is probably waiting for the day it crashes and burns because she will be able to say HA I TOLD YOU SO, and if it doesn’t come she’s going to have another massive shock of hurt coming her way. She is showing him that he was totally right to leave by throwing a barrage of abuse at him and his new girlfriend. I feel for her, I really do, but she is only making it worse for herself. I wish she’d call a therapist instead of writing it out on Twitter, she’s leaving a legacy of possibly litigious quotes for loan to use against her in a divorce settlement.
As a little side note, I also come from a family where I was in the position Alice’s daughters are in, thankfully it didn’t play out on social media, but everything she’s saying was said to me, as the daughter. That stays with you for life, and if Ioan does one thing to ensure he is a good dad it’ll be getting those girls into therapy right now. Don’t wait for it to crop up in later life, they will absolutely need a safe space to talk about how their parents actions make them feel.
Anyway, that’s my 2p on this subject!
IG's lawyers must be having an absolute field day.
