M33L4
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Leaving her was the smartest move he made and he has been smart with how he has dealt with her since.
I still reckon after the whole making him come home from Australia was the start of the end. I think he thought about it many times before but this was the ultimate in humiliation and tarnished his credibility. We’ve never heard a single bad thing about him on set etc.
I think he sought a therapist, one with dv/da experience and he’s played it by the book since.
What’s the best way to deal with someone who is determined to destroy your very being (and soul)? Starve them of oxygen. Grey rock.
Her love bombing, gaslighting, and manipulation couldn’t penetrate his stoicism.
He has receipts, he was polite in his responses, the very fact he uses polite and kind language back “please use the wizard app” gives her absolutely nothing to argue about. He keeps his language emotionless and business-like. He doesn’t get into calling her names, or talking about her publicly.
She can’t get any reaction from him so she goes after his mum, as seen in the emails.
That doesn’t work, he continues to keep it business like, blocks her and goes through the wizard app. She starts to alienate the children more forcefully than she had been. The starting private school, knowing he can’t afford it. She manipulated that whole situation to make him the villain.
Then comes the Bianca reveal.
Now we’ve argued about it, a lot!
We now know that she intended to release that information and change the narrative to suit her, he cut her off.
She discovered he was planning on making a movie with Bianca, again, he controls the narrative. He takes away her power.
I hope that one day he does talk about it, respectfully of course, it would help so many victims/survivors to see someone use such a technique and well.
He’s been throwing sand over her “burn the world down” and with way more restraint than a lot of us could manage.
I can’t say I’d have been so respectful back if it were me.
I still reckon after the whole making him come home from Australia was the start of the end. I think he thought about it many times before but this was the ultimate in humiliation and tarnished his credibility. We’ve never heard a single bad thing about him on set etc.
I think he sought a therapist, one with dv/da experience and he’s played it by the book since.
What’s the best way to deal with someone who is determined to destroy your very being (and soul)? Starve them of oxygen. Grey rock.
Her love bombing, gaslighting, and manipulation couldn’t penetrate his stoicism.
He has receipts, he was polite in his responses, the very fact he uses polite and kind language back “please use the wizard app” gives her absolutely nothing to argue about. He keeps his language emotionless and business-like. He doesn’t get into calling her names, or talking about her publicly.
She can’t get any reaction from him so she goes after his mum, as seen in the emails.
That doesn’t work, he continues to keep it business like, blocks her and goes through the wizard app. She starts to alienate the children more forcefully than she had been. The starting private school, knowing he can’t afford it. She manipulated that whole situation to make him the villain.
Then comes the Bianca reveal.
Now we’ve argued about it, a lot!
We now know that she intended to release that information and change the narrative to suit her, he cut her off.
She discovered he was planning on making a movie with Bianca, again, he controls the narrative. He takes away her power.
I hope that one day he does talk about it, respectfully of course, it would help so many victims/survivors to see someone use such a technique and well.
He’s been throwing sand over her “burn the world down” and with way more restraint than a lot of us could manage.
I can’t say I’d have been so respectful back if it were me.
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