Intimacy advice

[kittypaws]

It sounds to me like he’s just not confident in the bedroom. There’s this awful stereotype that all men are obsessed with sex and if a man doesn’t want it all the time then it’s a huge red flag.

Men can suffer with insecurity and confidence too! It doesn’t mean the relationship needs to end, he might just feel a bit shy and not great at showing emotions.

I would write a list of all the positive things about your marriage and all the things he DOES do for you. Everyone has their own love language and it’s really important to focus on those little things your partner does to show you he loves you, because some men just find it hard to express their feelings.

As for the bedroom, maybe just try and initiate it yourself and see how he reacts.

 

[BettyCrockerr]

She’s spoken to him; told him how she feels, asked & asked and has tried to get to the bottom of it. He won’t budge. Actions speak louder than words. She’s done as much as she can. It’s time to stop flogging a dead horse and get out.

 

[dancingqueen5678]

She’s spoken to him; told him how she feels, asked & asked and has tried to get to the bottom of it. He won’t budge. Actions speak louder than words. She’s done as much as she can. It’s time to stop flogging a dead horse and get out.

I agree.

I get that the grass isn't always greener but this isn't about handbags and shoes here. The grass can very well be greener if you're lonely while in a relationship, or if you feel like you're being disrespected or if you're constantly fighting to save something but the other person isn't giving anything.
I am all for fighting for marriages but at what cost? The expense of yourself? If you know something is off but someone is insisting it's fine then what else are you suppose to do? At what point do you admit defeat?

OP I think you need to consider all options and think about what would really make you happy. Make a list of your needs in life and in this relationship. Then make the decision based off that. Realistically there's two options, communicate those needs to him and see how you can both fix it or leave. What you decide might become clearer once you've figured out what it is you really need