How much do you eat?

[Clairer86]

Thankyou for the kind words in relation to my comment, i didnt know if it was appropriate for me to mention the things i did. But once again, tattle proves me right about humans (even though we are all haters and bullies!! ha ha).
Ive been thinking, and the other thing i struggle with is my sense of self. That is pretty common with BPD. But ive always been seen as petite and slim, and for a long time i thought that was the only thing i had going for me. Its so sad that i place so much on my physical self but i do. Anyway, my mum has always been extremely slim and being a size 6 or 8 was normal in our house and anything bigger than that was big. Now im just under 10 stone, and i honestly struggle with just being average when for so long i had my body (i hope that makes sense) being nice and slim. The irony being im so much more healthy now than i ever was being smaller! My partner tells me i look better now, people compliment me and tell me im still slim yet i still feel that im big! The really sad thing is when im being logical i know i cant be large- i can still just about fit into some of my size 8 jeans although im more of a 10 now, ive had 2 kids, and im 34. Its just my mind and my own thoughts can be so skewed and frankly dangerous for me. But im getting there! xxx

 

[Penelope Strawberry]

Thankyou for the kind words in relation to my comment, i didnt know if it was appropriate for me to mention the things i did. But once again, tattle proves me right about humans (even though we are all haters and bullies!! ha ha).
Ive been thinking, and the other thing i struggle with is my sense of self. That is pretty common with BPD. But ive always been seen as petite and slim, and for a long time i thought that was the only thing i had going for me. Its so sad that i place so much on my physical self but i do.

This thread just keeps on getting deeper and deeper, thought we'd be talking about beans on toast.

My mum has BPD and is hypercritical of her appearance. She is beautiful and has always been slim and petite but I wouldn't be surprised if she has body dysmorphia. I think because she doesn't have a firm sense of self, how she physically appears to the world is of extreme importance to her.

So glad to hear that you're on Mirtazapine and are getting help; I can only imagine what it must feel like and how lost you must feel sometimes.

 

[Kim Mild]

Breakfast- porridge or granola
Dinner - sandwiches/ jacket potato/beans on toast with crisps and a couple of biscuits
Tea- varies between meat and 2 veg / pasta / curry / freezer stuff & chips.

I can go for ages between dinner and tea but I can't go very long between breakfast and dinner ( which i need to have had before 1 ) because I feel too hungry and get lightheadedness and it takes hours to pull myself back around.
People tend not to understand .this

 

[Nolongerjustalurker]

I had an eating disorder from 17/18 until I was about 24. I know the calories of literally every food and I’ve been using my fitness pal to log my meals for 8 years. When I met my partner is probably when I stopped focusing on eating tiny amounts and ate what he ate. This was great for a few years as I gained a healthy amount of weight and started exercising regularly. However now I’m nearly 30 my metabolism has definitely slowed down (cry) and I’ve gained more weight than I would like. I think that after the years of under eating. when I gained that freedom to eat what I wanted, I never learned to eat intuitively so now I’m prone to bingeing which feels just as disordered as my university days. Sometimes I feel like I’ll never have a normal relationship with food!

 

[Rippedjeanmaybe]

I have coeliac disease and because it was undiagnosed for many years, I struggled to eat without feeling bloated and obviously I didn’t know what was making me bloated.

breakfast- usually a homemade smoothie or if we are going out I have hash browns from McDonald’s!

Dinner- if we are out it’s either a GF subway or McDonald’s fries. If I’m at home then it tends to be Birdseye waffles or occasionally pasta with a tin of tomatoes.

tea- usually something homemade and healthy, chicken & veg soup, spag Bol with added veg, homemade curry, jackets and beans ect...

Snacks- I don’t snack in the day generally, but after tea at night we will sometimes have microwave sweet popcorn or share some chocolate.

My portion sizes are normal I would say, I’m not a big eater and I don’t have a huge plate full. This becomes so evident whenever I have a roast at the in laws, my partner, his sister and his dad have mounds and mounds of food whereas his mum and me have a “normal” sized portion.

 

[SunshineDreamer]

I eat a fair amount. Since having my children I’ve done my best to always have a hot breakfast. I never used to but I feel like it really sets us up for the day. For lunch we usually have salad, pasta or on occasion a nice sandwich etc. Dinner we will go for anything, we just try to go for moderation.

I do tend to snack a bit during the day but it usually tends to be on fruit and vegetables as I’m not a big chocolate/sweet fan. I try my best to eat as clean/healthy as possible but I also don’t restrict myself of anything.

I should say though I’ve always struggled with gaining weight, no matter how hard I try.

 

[Clairer86]

This thread just keeps on getting deeper and deeper, thought we'd be talking about beans on toast.

My mum has BPD and is hypercritical of her appearance. She is beautiful and has always been slim and petite but I wouldn't be surprised if she has body dysmorphia. I think because she doesn't have a firm sense of self, how she physically appears to the world is of extreme importance to her.

So glad to hear that you're on Mirtazapine and are getting help; I can only imagine what it must feel like and how lost you must feel sometimes.

Your mum sounds like i am. BPD is such a horrible disorder to have, it literally impacts on every aspect of your life. I hope your mum is getting the right treatment. It took years for me to get the doctors to take me seriously- my doctor just used to give me anti-depressants and make me get on with it. It took until i ended up in hospital with a suicide attempt for them to finally see what i had known for years. But now im on escitalpram and mirtazipine, and apart from the weight gain (which to a normal and logical person would be the last of my worries) they seem to be helping.
As for beans on toast, as long as they have grated cheese on then thats ok for me! xx

 

[ChloChlo]

I have lost alot of weight because of not eating.

As a former drug addict, we often replace our addictions. You often see former alcoholics and drug addicts turning to food usually, but for me it has specifically been Monster energy drinks. I prioritise these over food and can go through 3-4 a day. I'm rarely hungry until the evening when I switch over to drinking cordial. Recently I did research to discover this is a common problem as Monsters contain Carbs, etc and I'm solely running off them. On the days where I drink 3+ Monsters I sometimes will not eat at all despite cooking meals for partner and children. I am trying to cut down but find it harder giving up Monsters than Drugs as they are legal and sold in shops.

Breakfast - nothing. I have to start my day with opening a monster, I feel physically sick until I feel the first guzzle of fizz (I hear this alot from alcoholics too)
Lunch - nothing.
May start "picking" around late afternoon, crisps, slices of cheese...
Dinner - around 6pm. Depending on Monster consumption I may not eat it, just pick at it.
Then I have a bunch of snacks at night.

I'm so aware this is unhealthy. As Monster consumption has gotten worse, I've probably lost 2 and a half stone. I wanted to lose weight just not like this. Has anyone else been or are going through anything else similar?

 

[Debarkle]

I try and be stricter during the week and rarely drink alcohol Sunday-Thursday. I also exercise quite a lot 5k 4x week, dvd and rowing x2 and a couple of hours of dog walking each day.

Typical weekday:
B - slice of wholemeal toast, half an avocado, tomato and two poached eggs (literally my favourite food - I have this everyday!)

L - tin soup/jacket potato with beans or tuna or tuna/leftover roast chicken and salad/ leftovers from dinner

D - we meal plan and my boyfriend and I take turns to cook. This week we are having: sweet and sour quorn w rice, fajitas, veggie paella, sausage and mash.

snacks are banana, satsumas, Greek yoghurt, small bits of cheese, cereal bars. Covid has meant we are in the habit of having a chocolate bar each evening when watching telly!

at the weekends I have the same breakfast at brunch time but with a bagel. Dinners are usually more time and calorie heavy - nice curries, homemade pies and much bigger portions and proper puddings. We usually have a takeaway less than once a month.

I also love MFP - my boyfriend is a big cyclist so our positions are usually too big when he serves up.

 

[Clairer86]

I have lost alot of weight because of not eating.

As a former drug addict, we often replace our addictions. You often see former alcoholics and drug addicts turning to food usually, but for me it has specifically been Monster energy drinks. I prioritise these over food and can go through 3-4 a day. I'm rarely hungry until the evening when I switch over to drinking cordial. Recently I did research to discover this is a common problem as Monsters contain Carbs, etc and I'm solely running off them. On the days where I drink 3+ Monsters I sometimes will not eat at all despite cooking meals for partner and children. I am trying to cut down but find it harder giving up Monsters than Drugs as they are legal and sold in shops.

Breakfast - nothing. I have to start my day with opening a monster, I feel physically sick until I feel the first guzzle of fizz (I hear this alot from alcoholics too)
Lunch - nothing.
May start "picking" around late afternoon, crisps, slices of cheese...
Dinner - around 6pm. Depending on Monster consumption I may not eat it, just pick at it.
Then I have a bunch of snacks at night.

I'm so aware this is unhealthy. As Monster consumption has gotten worse, I've probably lost 2 and a half stone. I wanted to lose weight just not like this. Has anyone else been or are going through anything else similar?

I posted a couple of comments about my experiences. I have BPD, Body Dysmorphia, and im also a recovering drug user. I understand what you are saying about addictions and i think we do just replace our addictions. x

 

[charlie6578]

I know my diet isn’t the best I go through periods of being relatively healthy before restricting myself and then binging as a result When I’m having a period of “normal” eating this is how my day would go. I also have an unhealthy obsession with Pepsi Max it’s sickening the amount I go through

morning 9:30 - espresso

lunch time around 1 - wrap with salad and some sort of protein (I’m veggie so usually a meat replacement), if I’m still hungry I’d have carrot sticks & dip or maybe a packet of crisps

dinner 5:30/6 - I usually make curries/ veg spaghetti bolognese/ baked potato etc. Anything easy but filling.

evening - quite often have a snack about 7 if I’m hungry can be anything I fancy (slice of cake, fruit, crisps , chocolate)

 

[Phil Anne Throw Pee]

I eat very healthily, the trouble is, my portions are too large. I have recently gotten into a routine where I eat more for breakfast and then have less at lunch and a smaller evening meal and try and do 10k steps a day. Yesterday I had:

Breakfast - 2 pieces of rye toast with peanut butter, a bowl of strawberries, blueberries and raspberries and greek yoghurt and a large filtered coffee.
Lunch - a small bowl of vegetable soup
Dinner - Lamb chop with roasted carrot, onion, pepper, mushroom, parsnip and steamed spinach and gravy
No booze.

The latter is my downfall. Lockdown was hard (the 1st one) and I drank more out of boredom, sometimes up to 6 bottles of wine a week. Trying to be better and abstain now and not drink Sun-Weds as a minimum.

My husband is also an excellent cook and tends to divvy out very large portions (hurr), which doesn't help.

I've got tons of lard to lose still.

 

[Mulholland Drive]

I much prefer ordering my supermarket food via the internet. That way I am not tempting into buying things I really don't want.

These distraction buys are quite hard to ignore when you visit a supermarket because as soon as you step inside you're more or less assailed with a variety of foodie aromas, not least that of bread and fruit. And as you push your trolley around you're bound to come across the usual BOGOF deals for cakes, chocolates and sweets etc. And I just can't say no!

So now I do my shop online whenever I can get a slot.

 

[JOHN1967]

Because I calorie count nearly everything, I can be the most boring person to shop with when visiting a supermarket.

I am forever looking at the nutrition details on the sides of canned and packaged food, and working out in my head if that will fit in with today's calorie intake. And if I'm not counting the calories on tins, I'm weighing everything prior to cooking.

No wonder I can never hold down a relationship for very long

My father is like you, always calculating calories, measuring food etc.

My uncles his two brothers eat what they like, when they like and lead more sedentary lives than my father.

My poor dad, he has had prostate cancer, had stents fitted, and suffers from cholesterol and BP. His brothers are perfectly healthy. Chances are I am going to suffer.

 

[Hodgies]

I eat WAY too much. My problem is I love food, I'm greedy and like large portions and I have major issues with certain foods that I will binge on. Also a total emotional eater, I eat whether I'm sad/happy/bored etc. Altogether it means I've had issues with my weight for years.

I love a big breakfast, usually I have toast though with either pate, jam or peanut butter. Nothing I like more than a McDonald's or a breakfast roll.

Lunch could be anything from a sandwich to soup, a ready meal, leftovers etc. Usually with fruit and a packet of crisps.

Dinner again quite varied, I make roasts, fajitas, curry, freezer dinner, pasta dishes etc. All with loads of veg etc.

I prefer big meals to lots of snacking but do like something sweet with a cuppa later on in the evening. I calorie count most of the time so I'm generally aware of how many I'm having in a day but I can go over so easily.

 

[ClockworkDolly]

I always have breakfast, unless I have a migraine. Breakfast is either porridge, shreddies, or Greek yoghurt, muesli and some peaches from a can, juice added too.

Lunch can be anything from an omelette to bread and cheese.

Dinner - risotto, cottage pie, spaghetti bolognese, macaroni cheese, casserole, fish, homemade soup, paella, homemade steak & kidney pie, homemade chips (with the skins left on) - any of these combinations, or none. It really depends on what I feel like eating.

But, I do graze in between meals, a habit I find hard to break.

I bought a Nutri Bullet which arrived yesterday, so I have only tried it the once. But, I am hoping it will wean me off sweet snacks, of which I eat far too many. Bought a smoothie recipe book to go with it. Looking forward to trying out some smoothies.

 

[IAmNeverSatisfied]

I usually skip breakfast (it’s bad I know, just have no time most days and I feel like I get hungrier if I eat it?)
Then a coffee at 11am, sometimes a little pastry too.
1:30 pm I’ll either have some pasta or a wrap for lunch, sometimes something a bit less conventional like ice cream lol.
6pm I usually have dinner
7 or 8 I usually have a snack but not every night.
And at 8 or 9 I have a cup of tea (with three Sugars so I try to have less sugar in the day, and have no sugar in my coffees)

 

[mcfeez]

My routine is pretty similar most days. I WFH all the time now since Covid so its to be able to cook at lunch time if I fancy it.

I usually have a coffee first thing and then breakfast around 10 after morning meetings - usually porridge or a bagel. The very odd day I wont have breakfast, like if I ate a really big dinner the night before.
Lunch is a mixture - veggie curry, salad, sandwiches.
Dinner can be lots of different things - love stir fries, fish and new potatoes, bolognese.
We also have takeaway once a week.

My snacking varies a lot. If I'm super busy and occupied with work I wont really snack at all.
I'm not sure if I eat a lot or not relative to other people. My mum for example says I eat a lot as I always have my three meals and she usually only has 2 max but she snacks a lot, like big snacks. When I eat out I usually never finish my meal which people always comment on.

 

[265]

I don't exactly over eat, I just eat whenever it's possible, because of the job I do and the unpredictable time I get home from work I don't eat at a set time which is mainly why I'm a tad on the porky side.

I don't have breakfast, I'm on the road about 9:30 and depending where the job takes me I do try and aim for coffee at some point. Some times I can grab coffee before 11AM which means I might grab a muffin from Macdonalds. I might grab a sandwich or a basic hamburger depending where I am and when I get home I have my main meal of the day. Problem is I sometimes get home after 10PM so it's just scrambled eggs on toast. Weekends I do eat a lot better, snack about 1PM, evening meal about 6PM on a Saturday. Sunday, roast about 1:30PM, tea about 6:30PM.

 

[bunnyboo]

Notes:
1. I'm working from home now, not moving around much so I don't usually feel very hungry.
2. Currently I'm intermittent fasting. I follow the 8/16 rule, so no eating before midday or after 7pm. This doesn't always go to plan lol, but I do my best!
3. I'm a vegetarian, hence the lack of meat haha

Breakfast: A cup of black tea.
Lunch (my big meal): Avocado toast with poached eggs, pasta with pesto, some hack-job bowl of ramen etc. If I'm slammed with work, I'll order some sushi or poké bowl on deliveroo.
Dinner: Sometimes lol. If I feel hungry, I'll have something like tea and toast or a bowl of rice krispies.

I have a terrible sweet tooth, so I do catch myself eating chocolate more than I probably should be! I'm also a diet coke fiend, I have 4 - 5 cans a day.

On the weekends I live on take-out food.. usually pizza or sushi lol. All the carbs. I was drinking 2 - 3 pink gin/fanta lemon concoctions on Saturday nights, but that's only because there was a cannabis shortage. My guy is back selling weed, so no more alcohol (which means no more hungover Sundays!)