Paid for outright, not really. On finance perhaps.Ah ok. I think they’re fairly normal cars tbf.
Paid for outright, not really. On finance perhaps.Ah ok. I think they’re fairly normal cars tbf.
When I was working in the UK, I had a client who had 800 acres of land, he drove about in a beat up pick up truck.I know a few relativity rich people and one couple are so lovely, you know they are rich as she always wears a twin set and pearls but they are very kind people.
Others are very normal, people to me you wouldn’t second glance at on the street. The general give away to me is the car. Whereas I know people not so well off who are so try hard with designer labels etc.
I don’t think there is a set behaviour or look rich people have.
I disagree. Anyone flaunting money is distasteful I don’t care where they’re from or who they’re are. Have the big house and kids in private schools, that’s not showing off. I am all for people having nice things, that’s not flaunting. It pisses me off that people like Stacy Solomon who’s obviously earned a few quid pretends she dressed her kids in Primark and Matalan to ‘stay relatable’.This “money shouts wealth whispers” crap is just snobbery. So it’s ok for a middle class hedge fund manager to have a huge house, designer items, travel all the time, children in private school etc and they’re classy because they don’t tell you about it (but you know, don’t you?)
But a working class estuary or northerner into some money flaunting it is distasteful to you
we know why it’s distasteful. Because the working class person should know their place.
And the worst thing is, it’s not even rich people saying this most of the time. It’s OTHER WORKING CLASS people.
But these are a very small number of people who have found fame through “flaunting it” aren’t they? They’re not representative of people generallyI disagree. Anyone flaunting money is distasteful I don’t care where they’re from or who they’re are. Have the big house and kids in private schools, that’s not showing off. I am all for people having nice things, that’s not flaunting. It pisses me off that people like Stacy Solomon who’s obviously earned a few quid pretends she dressed her kids in Primark and Matalan.
But it’s the ‘treated myself today’ standing with a million designer shopping bags there’s no need for as it’s simply about being ostentatious and bragging. Not ‘i’ve achieved my dream, always wanted to to this’ But some comment like ‘oops’ as if spending £5k by accident is just normal to them. People with tons of cash don’t do that, they just quietly go and buy the stuff they want.
I totally get what you mean and I do agree with the class snobbery, but I also do think that at least in the UK, there is generally an unspoken rule of HOW you flaunt your wealth, and how that is acceptable, regardless of class, and that’s what people are picking up on.This “money shouts wealth whispers” crap is just snobbery. So it’s ok for a middle class hedge fund manager to have a huge house, designer items, travel all the time, children in private school etc and they’re classy because they don’t tell you about it (but you know, don’t you?)
But a working class estuary or northerner into some money flaunting it is distasteful to you
we know why it’s distasteful. Because the working class person should know their place.
And the worst thing is, it’s not even rich people saying this most of the time. It’s OTHER WORKING CLASS people.
No but it's another crappy side of social media that people are trying to emulate the influencers and it filters down. Before we'd have no idea if someone got a new car, TV, handbag. Now it seems an awful lot of people feel compelled to make and then any large, expensive purchase for all to see (and I believe some purchases are explicitly so they can be posted) And some will say 'we've finally done it, saved so hard' and that's great.... but lots post stupid things like 'Dear me, love me xx' like it's nothing. My friend's 19 year old posted a picture the other day 'Love it when it all comes at once' with about 8-9 delivery bags from various fast fashion websites. She's not 'rich' at all, but there's absolutely no point to that post other than trying to signal 'I can afford all this stuff'. She is doing that because to her that's important, material things mean you've 'made it' and that's sad. We've got a debt culture partially because people want nice things but also because they want to be seen to have nice things. If I had my way, all branding would be removed from kids clothes particularly. ETA; I know a girl, considers herself 'rich', who posts everything she buys her kids, always turns the price label around so it can be seen. Packs her kids off for a school trip with designer luggage. Calling that distatful isn't trying to please anyone, it simply is due to her motives.But these are a very small number of people who have found fame through “flaunting it” aren’t they? They’re not representative of people generally
I agree with you. It’s sad but this is the culture that social media has created. Before people were only able to show off to their friends and probably a lot of people actually didn’t because they were conscious of how a face to face brag would come across. Now social media means showing off to people you don’t even know. I think I fell victim to this, not excessively, but if I got a nice handbag I would post it and then I started to really question why I was doing that. I’ve never been one to show off and I always feel a bit bad if I have something that I know my friends couldn’t afford, but social media started to feel like a competition to me and I am deeply insecure (just being honest) so I suppose I felt like I wanted people to think of me as doing well.No but it's another crappy side of social media that people are trying to emulate the influencers and it filters down. Before we'd have no idea if someone got a new car, TV, handbag. Now it seems an awful lot of people feel compelled to make and then any large, expensive purchase for all to see (and I believe some purchases are explicitly so they can be posted) And some will say 'we've finally done it, saved so hard' and that's great.... but lots post stupid things like 'Dear me, love me xx' like it's nothing. My friend's 19 year old posted a picture the other day 'Love it when it all comes at once' with about 8-9 delivery bags from various fast fashion websites. She's not 'rich' at all, but there's absolutely no point to that post other than trying to signal 'I can afford all this stuff'. She is doing that because to her that's important, material things mean you've 'made it' and that's sad. We've got a debt culture partially because people want nice things but also because they want to be seen to have nice things. If I had my way, all branding would be removed from kids clothes particularly. ETA; I know a girl, considers herself 'rich', who posts everything she buys her kids, always turns the price label around so it can be seen. Packs her kids off for a school trip with designer luggage. Calling that distatful isn't trying to please anyone, it simply is due to her motives.
So I don't have anything against people having something nice or being proud of what they've achieved and I don't feel I'm being snobby and saying 'We don't show off like that Dahhllinngggg, we're better than that' or 'please the upper classes'. It seems like a really British thing to hate success, that isn't it either - I'm saying don't be an hole by bragging, don't see these things as worth bragging about. Material items are nice but they don't mean tit, they don't always indicate success, something has probably been sacrificed to achieve it etc.
And, to the original point, it so happens in my experience, those bragging and flaunting are not truly wealthy and those who are truly wealthy aren't bragging.
That’s interesting. I do largely agree, especially with the misconception of extremely rich people being spoilt - as a teen I babysat for a very rich family and they were some of the loveliest, most patient and polite children I’ve ever met.Money is not really something we talk about. There is always a perception of you come from money that you are entitled and spoilt. Yes, we had a lovely childhood and I’m giving my children (I hope) a lovely childhood but money doesn’t make that. Yes it makes it easier but my children are just as happy running around the park with their friends as they are when we go to Mustique.