Height difference in a relationship? Deal breaker?

[Spinidge]

Discriminating against men because of height (or rather lack of it ) makes me uncomfortable.

Why is it ok for us to do this still? We wouldn’t openly have the same discussion about weight, colour or many other appearance issues. It’s not as if they can control their height.

So are we not allowed to have a 'type' now?? Would me saying I would prefer to date men who look like Michael Fassbender be discriminatory to men who don't look like Michael Fassbender?? I'm not sure they would be that bothered??

Physical attraction is just a preference, however in reality you have relationships based on a lot more than looks alone, but in my experience you do need to be attracted mentally and physically as well as feeling comfortable with someone.

 

[Minniemousesshoes]

Discriminating against men because of height (or rather lack of it ) makes me uncomfortable.

Why is it ok for us to do this still? We wouldn’t openly have the same discussion about weight, colour or many other appearance issues. It’s not as if they can control their height.

But I’m only 5’ 2, freckly and ordinary looking so I haven’t got a lot physically to be superior about.

 

[lipsticktaser]

My sister is taller than her boyfriend, it doesn’t bother them.
I’m 6ft and would struggle to go out with anyone shorter. For me it’s not about how we look, couldn’t give a shit.
but compared to other girls growing up I always felt big, broad and manly compared to their petite frames. I wouldn’t want to feel that way in a relationship.

 

[Orange Creme]

My friend is taller than her husband and she always makes fun of him which I think is mean lol

 

[lipsticktaser]

Genitals are in the middle so that height differences don’t matter

I once had sex with a short guy. I’m really tall. Nothing sexier that his toes hitting your shin mid shag, let me tell you

 

[MaxieMoo]

having a type is fine. And not wanting to be with someone short is fine.

My question is about how it’s ok to discuss height as a negative thing so often. ( not just here, I’m sorry this is just the thread that got me due to a few things on insta recently). Would we have had a similar thread on another characteristic such as weight / colour/ size of nose?

I agree with what you are saying. As a woman who is very tall I accept there will be men that wouldn't want to date me because of that. I'm ok with that. My husband is just a little bit taller than me and isn't fussed when I wear heels etc. Over the years I have had many people say to me "ooh aren't you tall?". It's interesting as no one would EVER say to someone "ooh aren't you fat?". Just to balance it up I've also had many lovely comments about my height / legs etc. Being a tall woman is way easier now than when I was younger . I personally feel there are way more worrying things influencing vulnerable people on instagram so don't tend to worry too much about height discrimination.

 

[lipsticktaser]

Discriminating against men because of height (or rather lack of it ) makes me uncomfortable.

Why is it ok for us to do this still? We wouldn’t openly have the same discussion about weight, colour or many other appearance issues. It’s not as if they can control their height.

But I’m only 5’ 2, freckly and ordinary looking so I haven’t got a lot physically to be superior about.

I think it comes down to type though doesn't it. I don't like big muscles or skinny men. I don't usually like blond hair (can sway for a tall scandi hunk). I think height comes into it too.
Some guys don't like tall girls. I've had it a lot.

Thats one of the good things about online dating, you can get to know someone first. Usually it's like, too tall, to fat, hairs not right, don't like this, that, or the next thing.

Online lets the personality come through. Then the rest really does become secondary

 

[KateESJ]

I think if you like him and he likes you it would be a shame to dismiss even trying a relationship just because he’s a little shorter.
I know it’s not the ‘norm’, but if he’s a nice guy I would at least meet him.

 

[Deepsigh2018]

I think you should meet up with him and see how things go face to face. I know in theory I think why should height matter but in reality I think I would feel the same as you a bit apprehensive. If you get on then great

 

[lizziew92]

I would say meet up with him and see how it goes with your personalities. I am 5’7 and was with a guy for some time who was around 5’4. It never bothered me as we had a great time, nobody ever commented on it and and wasn’t anything to do with the height difference why we’re no longer together, we just drifted apart.

Definitely don’t let it put you off meeting up!

 

[DCICassieStuart]

Discriminating against men because of height (or rather lack of it ) makes me uncomfortable.

Why is it ok for us to do this still? We wouldn’t openly have the same discussion about weight, colour or many other appearance issues. It’s not as if they can control their height.

I must admit to fancying the arse off 5'6" John Bercow

 

[Mumdrum]

I need some friendly and non judgemental advice please.

I have recently been chatting to a guy for around a month now, we speak ever day and have a few phone calls. We seem to get on great and the conversation just flows nicely; he isn't sex mad and hasn't sent the usual pictures men seem to do this day and age.

There is just one thing thats bugging me at the moment, and that's the fact he is 3 inches smaller then me in height. I have 5ft 8 and quite stocky and I'm worried we will odd together when we meet.

I have never actually dated a guy shorter then me, although I was seeing a guy a while back who was around the same height and every one made comments.

Suppose my question is has anyone been in this situation or has dated a shorter guy?

I'm taller than my husband, I don't care what people think, we've been married for 16 happy years. I don't wear heels like I used to do, but I would for a night out. If hes a good guy dony let height stop you xx

 

[Secretadmirer]

I wouldn't judge him based on a silly online comment. At the moment he's a single man and people comment things online all the time that mean nothing! If you get on well then just go for it.. you've got nothing to lose. You might click and get on really well, he might be lovely, if not, you hopefully had a nice evening out anyway.

 

[Scvee13]

I'm short at 5 foot 1 so I wouldn't date someone shorter than me personally. My brothers wife is taller than him, I think it looks odd especially when she's in heels but it works for them, they've been married 9 years. There are plenty of celeb couples with the woman taller than their other half.
Why not meet and see what you think in person?

 

[MaxieMoo]

Years ago I had a brief relationship with a guy that was a good few inches shorter than me. Mega chemistry between us and height didn't really come into it. I'd say meet up and see how you get on face to face. I think if you like him enough it really won't matter.

 

[Dizzy]

My OH is about 2 inches taller than me (I’m 5’7”) and he's the shortest guy I’ve had a relationship with. On paper I probably wouldn’t go for him but he is the love of my life and I’ve never found anyone as attractive as him, both when we met and now! Thankfully he’s stocky and I’m quite slim so I don’t feel too manly but I do totally ‘get’ how a height difference would bother some. As the others have said, meet up and see - certainly don’t disregard without getting together IRL.

 

[it’s not been changed?!]

Omg! yes, let us know how this goes!
I’m 5’9” and matched with a guy on hinge who reckons he’s 5’11”... I think he’s telling fibs. We were messaging and he gave me his number on wed night, but I’ve not whatsapped him yet because the height thing is putting me off. Also, have I left it too long to even message him anyway?!
I have my height on my bio on hinge and bumble and either shorter men don’t take the time to read it or just don’t care

 

[Spinidge]

I'm 5'9 and when I used to go out gallivanting and got chatting to a nice guy I would secretly be praying that when we both stood up, he would be taller than me! However I've always been in relationships where my bf has been either the same height or a tiny bit taller than me and it's been no issue. I understand your concern but you wouldn't want to miss out on a potential match made in heaven either!! Go and have fun, see what he's like then report back!!

 

[JulieScoobyDoo]

Genitals are in the middle so that height differences don’t matter

 

[it’s not been changed?!]

I need some friendly and non judgemental advice please.

I have recently been chatting to a guy for around a month now, we speak ever day and have a few phone calls. We seem to get on great and the conversation just flows nicely; he isn't sex mad and hasn't sent the usual pictures men seem to do this day and age.

There is just one thing thats bugging me at the moment, and that's the fact he is 3 inches smaller then me in height. I have 5ft 8 and quite stocky and I'm worried we will odd together when we meet.

I have never actually dated a guy shorter then me, although I was seeing a guy a while back who was around the same height and every one made comments.

Suppose my question is has anyone been in this situation or has dated a shorter guy?

Have you met him yet?