So, I'm agender but there's something that really ducks me off when people say "we are finding out our babys gentials" like ok great good for you, loads of people don't find out what they're having before it's born - but it's the smugness of it especially the whole genitals bit, I think saying "finding out the genitals" is such a bloody crass way of saying "we don't mind what the bab comes out with"
Also, there's nothing wrong with wanting/not wanting to find out, I think massive gender reveals are tacky af but ngl if i was pregnant I'd end up freaking out over not knowing.