Guy problems.

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This advice is super helpful thank you.
I'm 27 but after only one long term relationship of 10 years I have 0 experience with guys, so I have 0 experience in anyone other than my ex really. I'll try not to put anything on him - at all and just enjoy his company too. I do enjoy talking to him and having a laugh after all.
Oh i get you!
I think guys like this only bring heart break/self doubt when they're unclear and don't know what they want. I doubted myself so much until i realised that i *deserve* to be with someone who appreciates me and is sure of his feelings towards me 😊
 
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Oh i get you!
I think guys like this only bring heart break/self doubt when they're unclear and don't know what they want. I doubted myself so much until i realised that i *deserve* to be with someone who appreciates me and is sure of his feelings towards me 😊
Oh 100%. I'm sat here scoffing Maltesers and feeling sorry for myself atm. 😅
Too right! That's so true, I just need to apply that to myself and one day find that person. 🥰
 
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If you like him, and you are attracted to him and you feel like there’s a bit of chemistry there then just ask him out for a drink or whatever. If he says yes then take it from there. If he says no then you know he’s just flirting or whatever for a bit or attention.
 
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If you like him, and you are attracted to him and you feel like there’s a bit of chemistry there then just ask him out for a drink or whatever. If he says yes then take it from there. If he says no then you know he’s just flirting or whatever for a bit or attention.
I'm too shy for that, like it would be the quickest surefire way to find out but I gotta work with this guy afterwards and I don't want to be the one to make things awkward.
 
I'm too shy for that, like it would be the quickest surefire way to find out but I gotta work with this guy afterwards and I don't want to be the one to make things awkward.
Girl. You are 27 right? Come on. You can’t expect to just sit there, waiting to see if a guy likes you and for him to do all the work. If you feel that there’s something there - then for goodness sake just ask him for a drink. No pressure, no drama. “Hey, do you fancy grabbing a drink one night after work?” - it’s as easy as that.
 
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Girl. You are 27 right? Come on. You can’t expect to just sit there, waiting to see if a guy likes you and for him to do all the work. If you feel that there’s something there - then for goodness sake just ask him for a drink. No pressure, no drama. “Hey, do you fancy grabbing a drink one night after work?” - it’s as easy as that.
Everywhere is shut though pub and bar wize at the moment and is way to cold to be standing outside for long periods. Its minus 2 at the moment.
 
Everywhere is shut though pub and bar wize at the moment and is way to cold to be standing outside for long periods. Its minus 2 at the moment.
I got the impression the OP perhaps wasn’t in the UK...? Or am I way off here?!!!! 🤣
 
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Just wanted to say that this is what I've learned from experience

1. Don't ever put yourself down or make yourself look pathetic like speaking ill of yourself. The way you treat yourself is how to show others how far they can treat you.

2. REMEMBER who you are. Remember the things you love about yourself and hold yourself to a high standard. Don't let anyone get a reaction out of you that you'll regret later. Also don't bend too much or be too eager to mould yourself to suit someone else.

3. Don't put up with abuse or bull because if you do, they just feel that if they got away with it once they can do so again and then the cycle of disrespect begins.

4. Make sure you have a life and interests outside your significant other. It's healthy and also makes you appear more self reliant and independent and therefore more desirable.

5. Seeing yourself from a 3rd person perspective helps when making tough relationship decisions, or just deciding how to react in general. If you were someone else, you think reacting in a certain way makes you a good person/sensible/mature? Or would you cringe at such a course of action? Helps make decisions.
 
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