Guy problems.

[Pinkblush]

I figured it was just his way of showing his interest and pushing the boundaries a bit. I left out that us having any sort of relationship would be difficult due to us working together. I could be wrong though, I tend to overthink to the extreme.



Yeah, I'll give it a try if I've got the guts. I'm just afraid of rejection.
I'm the type to like someone for a long time before agreeing to anything, I like things to sort of grow before we jump straight into dating. If he does just like a flirt I'm not up for that, I don't have the energy to put into someone I like who isn't interested in taking it further.

I quite like the chase and being chased to be honest, but since it's been a while I'm getting fed up now.

Rejection is not nice to experience but at least it stops the guessing game of 'does he or doesn't he' like me
Good luck

 

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May be he is just being friendly and you are reading too much into it?

 

[mochibean]

If a man genuinely likes you and wants to pursue something ‘proper’, you’ll know about it. Sounds to me like he just likes the attention and maybe just wants to hook up. I go by the rule ‘if he likes you, you’ll know; if he doesn’t, you’ll be confused’

That's why I was so happy a couple of weeks ago because I felt like I knew but now nah. I'm disappointed tbh, from what we spoke about before I thought he was better than that smh.

 

[mochibean]

If you like him, and you are attracted to him and you feel like there’s a bit of chemistry there then just ask him out for a drink or whatever. If he says yes then take it from there. If he says no then you know he’s just flirting or whatever for a bit or attention.

I'm too shy for that, like it would be the quickest surefire way to find out but I gotta work with this guy afterwards and I don't want to be the one to make things awkward.

 

[mochibean]

If he was really interested he would have asked you out by now. If its a work situation I was just stick to that full stop.x

Yeah definitely. I actually can't be bothered with having it on my mind anyway, especially whilst at work.
I'll not stop finding him hot af, but I'll get over it.

 

[mochibean]

May be he is just being friendly and you are reading too much into it?

Idk, I don't look at people I'm friendly with like that.

Like it's possible, but personally I'd not treat an acquaintance in that way unless I was interested in them. Or be making flirty jokes/sexual jokes if I was just trying to be friendly, it's be overstepping a mark for me.

It's just annoying for me tbh.

Sounds like he likes the attention. Just ask him.

I quite like it too tbh. I'm just kinda shy so I didn't wanna say anything but I feel like since it's been a while now one of us needs to say something.

 

[Raininvain]

Girl. You are 27 right? Come on. You can’t expect to just sit there, waiting to see if a guy likes you and for him to do all the work. If you feel that there’s something there - then for goodness sake just ask him for a drink. No pressure, no drama. “Hey, do you fancy grabbing a drink one night after work?” - it’s as easy as that.

Everywhere is shut though pub and bar wize at the moment and is way to cold to be standing outside for long periods. Its minus 2 at the moment.

 

[mochibean]

So I am really into this guy, and 2 weeks ago he gave me the signals he likes me back. Making jokes looking at me and smiling when we make eye contact, just being all around sweet. Having awkward conversations and just enjoying each others company. Since though he's a bit hot and cold. One day he seems totally interested, the next not at all. It's getting frustrating.

Should I just ask him straight up wtf is going on because we're too old for games. I'm 27 he's 30. I can't be bothered to play silly games and for nothing to happen.
This has been going on since just before Christmas. Just him showing interest in me, and then kinda not, but then 2 weeks ago I was so sure. SO SURE.

Today though, we spoke a bit but I didn't get anything back from him really. I can't get him out my head, I really like him.
Idk if he's just shy, he's outgoing but maybe he's shy with relationships. Unsure what he wants, he keeps saying he wants to settle down? How can you ever if you don't give anyone a chance. Or he just doesn't like me anymore.

Idk I'm confused and a bit hurt. I really like him.