I’ve never understood why people get het up on it. I call my parents by their first name but when calling them or referring to them I call them . “Mum” or “Dad”. The way I see it is that I wouldn’t want to be referred to as by my role e.g. wife or sister. But each to their own
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I’ve never understood why Grace F was obsessed with Gossip Girl, it’s something that was done way before her time. But I understand what you mean, it doesn’t come across as authentic as you can’t work out what is the real person or snippets of characters from tv / pop culture etc. Of course we are shaped by the times but to base your whole personality on it is bizarre.