Going Solo

[Woolmercardington]

Yes, I do loads of stuff on my own. It always used to wind me up a bit if I went to a new a hobby class and people were there paired up, as usually the point to these things is to meet other people. Then if one friend stops going, so does the other one.

I honestly have no time for people who refuse to do anything on their own or think people that do are "sad".

I do understand their is a difference between choosing to do stuff on your own and having no choice and it's the latter that can make people feel self-conscious. But I honestly think more people should venture out on their tod.

 

[LittleMy]

I’ve went to the cinema on my own loads. Used to do it a lot when I had the Unlimited Card. Family and friends used to take the piss out of me for it but I don’t know why because you’re literally just sitting in silence watching a film.

I don’t think I could go out drinking by myself or anything like that. I’m too introverted and would feel awkward. The idea of travelling alone scares me too much.

 

[XXSJPXX]

You guys have inspired me to start doing more things on my own from now on and to stop being such a baby
There have been so many gigs and films I have wanted to see in the past but had no one to go with so I just wouldn't go but after lockdown I'm going to start doing more things on my own

 

[yankydoo]

Things I do and enjoy alone are gym, shopping, sitting in a cafes and running errands.

I wouldn't go out in the evening alone or to a restaurant at home but would on holiday (feels different for some reason!).

I was meant to do my first solo trip last year but couldn't due to obvious reasons. I have flown alone which I much prefer!

 

[lime]

I love going to the cinema on my own. Haven't been since November 2019 and can't wait for the theatres to re-open. It's pure escapism. I don't get why society ever told us it's sad to go by yourself. Coffee shops and cafes doesn't bother me. I'm usually enjoying my sandwich/coffee and a book. Three years ago I wanted to go to a concert that no one was interested in so I went by myself. I personally wouldn't go to a restaurant or bar alone as to me the whole point of me going is that it's a social thing to do but I know people who have done those things alone. Years ago I had such bad anxiety I could barely walk in a public place alone so I really relish my independence.

 

[under the ivy]

I travelled around Germany on my own - it was the best! I spoke to loads of people and didn’t feel phased at all. I’m definitely going to travel on my own more when things get better / saved money.

Always wanted to go to the cinema on my own though. I love shopping by myself and walking around museums etc.

 

[Kezza_69]

Ive always done workout/fitness classes alone, that way, I'm going, if you book to go with someone, if they bail, you tend not to go yourself.
Im happy to stop for a solo coffee and have always preferred to shop alone for the reasons others have quoted.
Ive seen lots of people eating out alone, I've never felt sorry for them, just think maybe theyre working away from home maybe?
Ill definitely give the cinema a go once I can after reading here!!

 

[LittleMy]

I prefer shopping alone, other people stress me out especially the kids. When I used to go the gym (many moons ago now ) I preferred to go alone. Liked going to fitness classes with a friend though for the motivation.

 

[Gossipingginger]

I really need to start doing things on my own. This pandemic has opened my eyes up to that. I’m single and all my friends are with someone and have kids. I often feel like I’m waiting for things to happen and then sometimes they don’t happen as well which is annoying. I really need to push myself but it’s nerve racking but on the other hand I know it is me stopping myself at the same time. I need to stop being a baby and just do it

 

[rivermonster]

Years ago my flatmate only ate "proper English" food so I often went to Chinese and Indian restaurants alone. When we went to live in Spain I did not know a soul so found a local gym and just turned up as my neighbour told me English women went there and I made all my friends there. Did the same back in UK but covid has put a stop to that. We usually live in Asia in winter and I go for massages and exercise classes on my own plus going to markets etc on the bus.
I hate shopping with other people, they mess about going from shop to shop and buy nothing - I just make up my mind and buy it if I like it without wasting the day - I will go to the pub out of the way.

 

[Fofoca]

I’m not a social person so often do things by myself. I enjoy my own company and I live alone so I’m accustomed to being by myself (a blessing over the last year!)

In response to your examples:

Eat out - all the time. I’ve not gone to a Michelin starred place alone but casual and semi nice places are fine.
Cinema - I don’t go a lot but if I do I’ve gone alone. As other have said, not like I need to talk to anyone.
Hobby class - yes and it’s re nice. Although I’m not social I’m not shy about striking up a conversation with strangers. And usually I’m listening or doing something so a buddy isn’t needed.
Theme park - I haven’t been to a theme park in about 20 years and can’t imagine going to one now but I would go alone.
Night out - I’m not a night out type person (are we taking about clubbing?) so have not done this alone before.
Holiday - all the time. I don’t like to compromise (I’m selfish what can I say!) so holidaying alone is heaven to me. Go where I want when I want. Eat what I want. Take naps if I’m feeling lazy. Japan was the best place to be alone. Safe and didn’t have to worry about getting into tiny ramen places! Even somewhere like LA was fun as it gives you opportunity to talk to other people/people approach you more.

I’ve always been a loner but I’m confident and as I said, not shy in the slightest. I think that makes it easier for me to do stuff by myself. I never think, “are people looking at me because I’m by myself? Do I look like a loser?”.

Sometimes I get stuck talking to strangers when I want to be left alone - that’s the only downfall - people are always trying to adopt you!