Funerals

[Jusa]

I've tried to,but I've lost my paperwork and the council were no help so that plot will remain unused.


There's only me and my oh, so noone would miss us if we went, my oh wants his ashes put in a firework!!

I'm going to be a firework as well!

I had an ex partner that I was with for about 9 years who knew I wanted my ashes put into fireworks. He died 3 years after we split up, but we'd remained friends, and I also remained close to his mum. Anyway, he was cremated, and his brother told me that he wanted his ashes put into fireworks, and how like him it was to want to do this! I asked his brother how much it was to do it, and what company they were using, and his brother was like, you're taking a big interest in this!

I then told him that it had always been me that wanted to be a firework, and that he'd never mentioned it. What amused me was that in life we'd worked together a !ot, and he always used to nick my ideas, and present them as his own without crediting me for them, and then he continued it after death

 

[ChloChlo]

Also, I have to say I remember when choosing my mums plot in the Woodlands site there was a pamphlet for alternative funeral arrangements which seemed to be geared towards those of a "hippy nature". One of the services offered were "Graveside dancers". Is this a thing??

 

[Allthevest20]

If anyone is interested in watching a cremation, there's a video here:



WARNING: You DO see the body in the cremator and the remains getting ready to be be put through the pulveriser (this is what they call it)
It's not gory or squeamish, but obviously it's not something that everyone will want to watch, so I'm posting a warning for obvious reasons.

I was tentative but I watched it. I know we got the right ashes back as when I was sorting them for scattering there was a gold crown (tooth lol) sitting on the top and that made me a bit wiggly tbh! I know our local crematorium does these tours (well not at the moment of course) but not sure I'd look through the peep hole! Lol

 

[265]

I want to be cremated.I don’t think anyone has been buried in my family for Donkeys years. My grandparents were cremated and they still have headstones we can visit.

Isn’t there a James Bond film where he gets locked in a coffin and put into a cremator? Obviously he escapes, but for some reason I just thought of that?

One of the films I saw recently, at the beginning of the film he gets his own funeral, the coffin gets dumped overboard, ends up in a Submarine.

 

[Keikochan]

My husband and I decided we should be cremated and our ashes turned into seeds for a tree. Our ashes are to be mixed together so whoever goes first just needs to wait for the other
I'm not sure if we can pick which type of tree. Cherry Blossom would be nice.

 

[FlipFlop0706]

Cremated. Mainly for practicality really!! I’d hate someone to have to keep coming to tidy up my grave, I can’t bear graves that look like they have been forgotten about.

 

[ClockworkDolly]

I can't stand the idea of cremation but I don't want to be stuck in a traditional graveyard that my children feel they have to visit. So instead I want a willow coffin and to be buried in a woodland

I have always liked this idea too. But, I do want to be near my parents and it is on the edge of woodland, so I would get the next best thing.

My husband and I decided we should be cremated and our ashes turned into seeds for a tree. Our ashes are to be mixed together so whoever goes first just needs to wait for the other
I'm not sure if we can pick which type of tree. Cherry Blossom would be nice.

You can choose what type of tree if you make a Will.

I was tentative but I watched it. I know we got the right ashes back as when I was sorting them for scattering there was a gold crown (tooth lol) sitting on the top and that made me a bit wiggly tbh! I know our local crematorium does these tours (well not at the moment of course) but not sure I'd look through the peep hole! Lol

Gosh. Even though I was unsure if I would watch this the whole way through, it was very interesting to see actually.

It won’t change my mind about my own arrangements though.

 

[Hinchhater1442]

I want to be cremated and put in a firework!

 

[derbyshiregirl]

I want to be buried.
I know people say if they are buried alive accidentally they’d suffocate and it would be awful, but surely that’s better and less painful than being burned alive? Hate the thought of being reduced to ash and just becoming nothing xx

 

[Dragon100]

There's only me and my oh, so noone would miss us if we went, my oh wants his ashes put in a firework!!

My Dad scattered 1/2 of my Mum's ashes on the beach by the campsite they used for caravan holidays for at least 25 years, the rest went up the chimney of a steam train!!

 

[Maid22]

I want to be buried.
I know people say if they are buried alive accidentally they’d suffocate and it would be awful, but surely that’s better and less painful than being burned alive? Hate the thought of being reduced to ash and just becoming nothing xx

I think I would rather be burned alive, would be alot quicker than laying in a coffin grasping for breath.

 

[Lhm87]

My family don’t have funerals. We’ll all donate our Bodies to medical science if we can, if not, it will be a direct cremation. A direct cremation is where the funeral director takes the body from home or the hospital, gets it cremated in private without a service they then return the ashes to the family.

 

[Maid22]

My family don’t have funerals. We’ll all donate our Bodies to medical science if we can, if not, it will be a direct cremation. A direct cremation is where the funeral director takes the body from home or the hospital, gets it cremated in private without a service they then return the ashes to the family.

I've never heard of that, may I ask what what religion you are?

 

[Definitelyme]

I’ve been talking about it this with my husband this week after an unexpected death in the family and a lot of confusion about what to do.

I want cremated and scattered in one of my favourite local places. Some nice pieces of classical music and more upbeat hymns at my (church) funeral. People can wear whatever they like. My biggest stipulation was to have no sausages or sausage rolls at the wake as I despise them and will not have them blighting the last moments people are dedicating to me

 

[FakeSmile]

My family don’t have funerals. We’ll all donate our Bodies to medical science if we can, if not, it will be a direct cremation. A direct cremation is where the funeral director takes the body from home or the hospital, gets it cremated in private without a service they then return the ashes to the family.

I don’t want to be intrusive I just find it really interesting, is there a reason why you’d do it that way? Religion?

 

[Lhm87]

I've never heard of that, may I ask what what religion you are?

I don’t want to be intrusive I just find it really interesting, is there a reason why you’d do it that way? Religion?

Of course, it’s not intrusive at all. We’re not religious at all, If anything quite the opposite! We just feel funerals/services are unnecessary. My personal views are they’re unnecessarily expensive and a day people dread, so why do it. The stress on a family after a death is hard enough, never mind arranging a funeral and trying to find the money to pay for it. Also if there are any family tensions etc, this could make family members anxious at an already difficult time.
I’m also a very big advocate for medical science so If my body can be used in any way to advance the field, be my guest! I don’t believe in burning/burying a body that can help someone else.
I’m 33 and never attended a funeral/service of any kind. My Nan passed a few years ago and unfortunately couldn’t be used for science so we just had a direct cremation.

 

[FakeSmile]

Of course, it’s not intrusive at all. We’re not religious at all, If anything quite the opposite! We just feel funerals/services are unnecessary. My personal views are they’re unnecessarily expensive and a day people dread, so why do it. The stress on a family after a death is hard enough, never mind arranging a funeral and trying to find the money to pay for it. Also if there are any family tensions etc, this could make family members anxious at an already difficult time.
I’m also a very big advocate for medical science so If my body can be used in any way to advance the field, be my guest! I don’t believe in burning/burying a body that can help someone else.
I’m 33 and never attended a funeral/service of any kind. My Nan passed a few years ago and unfortunately couldn’t be used for science so we just had a direct cremation.

That’s really interesting, thank you for sharing! I didn’t really know it was something that people actually do, it’s eye opening! I guess you don’t feel like you’ve missed out on anything/saying goodbye because you’ve not experienced it any other way?

I really hate funerals. I know that no one ‘loves’ them but just the thought of one (even when no one I know has died) makes me feel really anxious. If I could avoid going to one I probably would.

 

[GiftedNotFree]

I hate funerals. I dread them and feel sick for at least a day before I have to go to one. For my personally, I’d like to donate all organs (if possible) or be used for medical science. I live near a medical school and you can arrange to go there so I will most likely look into that.

If neither of those were possible, I’d definitely like to be cremated. The thought of being buried makes me feel suffocated. Also I hate seeing graves that look neglected— it’s so sad.

 

[Lhm87]

That’s really interesting, thank you for sharing! I didn’t really know it was something that people actually do, it’s eye opening! I guess you don’t feel like you’ve missed out on anything/saying goodbye because you’ve not experienced it any other way?

I really hate funerals. I know that no one ‘loves’ them but just the thought of one (even when no one I know has died) makes me feel really anxious. If I could avoid going to one I probably would.

I definitely don’t feel like I’m missing out by not having a funeral for loved ones, as we all have the same view. I don’t really feel like you can say goodbye to someone who is already gone, but I do understand why people do have funerals/services. It’s just the ‘done’ thing so I’m definitely the odd one out!
To be honest I don’t know of anyone else outside of my family who doesn’t have funerals. My friends things we’re bizarre! I suspect even those who donate to medical science, have a service/get together of some kind but not us. My family grieves, we just do it alone and privately.

 

[Oohthedrama]

I’d probably burn if I set foot in a church at this point so there’s that sorted.

light me up and chuck the ashes into a ditch somewhere
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