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My Nana was very clear that she wanted to be cremated. I will always remember her saying ‘I want to go up in flames!’
Because she didn’t want ‘the worms to get me’! She was also very clear about what music she wanted at her funeral, and when it should be played. But she never left any instructions as what she wanted done with her ashes...
We ended up getting a plot at the crematorium, for both her and eventually my Grandpa. They were both put in urns, and the urns buried in the plot... so she’s kinda near the worms.. sorry Nana!
I think now, I would like to be cremated and my ashes spread. Somewhere beautiful, I imagine at a beach somewhere.
I definitely think I will be like my Nana, and have a list of songs I wanted played. I don’t want any old music played!
Because she didn’t want ‘the worms to get me’! She was also very clear about what music she wanted at her funeral, and when it should be played. But she never left any instructions as what she wanted done with her ashes...We ended up getting a plot at the crematorium, for both her and eventually my Grandpa. They were both put in urns, and the urns buried in the plot... so she’s kinda near the worms.. sorry Nana!
I think now, I would like to be cremated and my ashes spread. Somewhere beautiful, I imagine at a beach somewhere.
I definitely think I will be like my Nana, and have a list of songs I wanted played. I don’t want any old music played!
Sell the plot, they actually go up in value believe it or not x
Burial for me.
I cannot bear the thought of being reduced to ash so quickly, as though I never existed.
I want to be up near my parents and other family members.
I've tried to,but I've lost my paperwork and the council were no help so that plot will remain unused.
There's only me and my oh, so noone would miss us if we went, my oh wants his ashes put in a firework!!
Apparently you can do that!!!!Now, that would make being cremated worthwhile!
My Dad bought a plot when Mum died. He specifically told me it was just for them, that I was not going in there too. I hadn't even thought about it. Then my brother died suddenly and a plot behind them was available. The chap previously buried there had wanted to be placed in another cemetery but there wasn't a space for him, but somehow once he'd been buried one was found so his wife had him moved. I managed to get my brother in that plot so he is back to back with his parents. Unfortunately I cannot put a headstone on as his ex won't allow it even thought I said I'd pay for it and she can choose the wording. She has the deeds to the plot. It was a long time ago and I've given up trying.
I've set out what I want to happen with me including music (May change over the years haha) but my Mum point blank refused to talk about her funeral (terminal diagnosis) but I did tell her i would cremate her and turn her into jewellery which she said was a nice thing.... So I did! I just did what I thought she would have wanted and everyone said her funeral was "lovely". I'd want the same humanist service. No black. And something uplifting music wise at the end (had Bob Marley for hers which made alot of people smile.... not the grandparents mind but she would've laughed too). I've scattered some ashes in meaningful places and some are buried. I want to go into the rest and then be buried together in the memorial garden where her plaque etc are. With the cats too
We have the same issue in our family. My brothers widow won’t allow him to have a headstone. She passes the buck onto their children, saying it is for them to decide.
Funnily enough, it didn’t take her too long to decide to become involved with another man a year after his death.
I can't stand the idea of cremation but I don't want to be stuck in a traditional graveyard that my children feel they have to visit. So instead I want a willow coffin and to be buried in a woodland
Bloody councils
. I’d keep on at them, it may sound insensitive but burial plots are like gold dust, a lot of undertakers buy them to sell on xOh I'd sell it in a heartbeat if I could, not worried about the money, just want rid.Bloody councils
I want to be buried, I hate the thought of cremation, I didn’t know it was a thing until my Nan died and my mum told me she was being cremated, I remember being horrified and it’s always kind of stayed with me
I'm terrified of being buried alive (although highly unlikely) so I'd like to be burnt to a crisp and my ashes scattered in our local park.
If anyone is interested in watching a cremation, there's a video here:
WARNING: You DO see the body in the cremator and the remains getting ready to be be put through the pulveriser (this is what they call it)
It's not gory or squeamish, but obviously it's not something that everyone will want to watch, so I'm posting a warning for obvious reasons.
WARNING: You DO see the body in the cremator and the remains getting ready to be be put through the pulveriser (this is what they call it)
It's not gory or squeamish, but obviously it's not something that everyone will want to watch, so I'm posting a warning for obvious reasons.
I want to be cremated.I don’t think anyone has been buried in my family for Donkeys years. My grandparents were cremated and they still have headstones we can visit.
Isn’t there a James Bond film where he gets locked in a coffin and put into a cremator? Obviously he escapes, but for some reason I just thought of that?
Isn’t there a James Bond film where he gets locked in a coffin and put into a cremator? Obviously he escapes, but for some reason I just thought of that?
I'm not entirely sure. My mind always changes. However I think ultimately the choice will always lay with the family regardless as my mum told me on her deathbed she wanted beastie boys played at her funeral. Her family, despite admitting she had also shared this wish to, didnt think it was a good choice so played all the songs that had a few lines of sad lyric about death in a song as opposed to anything she liked, which goes to show no matter what you want. The living are gonna decide!
If it wasnt for the family circus surrounding it my mum had a beautiful funeral. She had an eco burial, our family didnt like the thought of a traditional graveyard (especially the ones in her locality) nor were keen on the idea of cremation. So we decided on one of the burial Woodlands.
She had a wicker casket. Lots of natural flower arrangements but a opted for a traditional send off. She has a wooden carving as a headstone. It is a beautiful place that gets a carpet of bluebells in the spring. Lots of wildlife.
If it wasnt for the family circus surrounding it my mum had a beautiful funeral. She had an eco burial, our family didnt like the thought of a traditional graveyard (especially the ones in her locality) nor were keen on the idea of cremation. So we decided on one of the burial Woodlands.
She had a wicker casket. Lots of natural flower arrangements but a opted for a traditional send off. She has a wooden carving as a headstone. It is a beautiful place that gets a carpet of bluebells in the spring. Lots of wildlife.