Dude. He’s a waster. What on Earth do you see in him? He’s in his mid 30s, lives at home with his mum, spends his time in the gym and posting lame videos of him self on tick tick, has a strop like a little witch and ignores you for days on end.....! Come on. He’s got nothing going for him and he’s going to do nothing but mess with your head and cause you grief. He’s bad news. Walk away!!!
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So he’s never learnt how to deal with conflict - major red flag tbh - and he doesn’t intend to move out? Seems like it’s going nowhere tbh
But he did....
And trust me, you don't know anything 100% about him after two 'dates' and a bit of a fumble.
Run for the hills...
Seriously, I don’t doubt for one minute that he has a bad temper, with him doing steroids in the past, it doesn’t surprise me at all and I’d be very worried about that and what that could develop into if things ever progressed with you both...
as others have said, he also sounds like a massive loser, posting videos on tik tok and having strops like a baby because a woman dared to disagree and argue with him? He sounds VILE.
honestly he sounds like an overgrown cat who has been spoilt by mummy and is very used to getting his own way!
please walk away, in fact, run away, as quickly as possible.
Seriously, I don’t doubt for one minute that he has a bad temper, with him doing steroids in the past, it doesn’t surprise me at all and I’d be very worried about that and what that could develop into if things ever progressed with you both...
as others have said, he also sounds like a massive loser, posting videos on tik tok and having strops like a baby because a woman dared to disagree and argue with him? He sounds VILE.
honestly he sounds like an overgrown cat who has been spoilt by mummy and is very used to getting his own way!
please walk away, in fact, run away, as quickly as possible.
OP you're better off staying totally single until you meet someone who is decent partner material, don't be settling for these absolute losers you are taking up with. Your just going to be going nowhere with them and your self esteem will be non existent in the end. You said before you have a little boy, I'd just be concentrating on him and the Spring/Summer coming up, lockdown being lifted etc.
If this one pops up again, just fob him off or block him.
If this one pops up again, just fob him off or block him.
When you have been in abusive or toxic relationships previously, it can be hard to recognise a healthy relationship, or to recognise warning signs. It sounds to me like you can see those warning signs (or you wouldn't have made this post in the first place), but you don't quite have the confidence to trust yourself. I remember reading your last posts, and the emotional abuse/gaslighting that your ex used. You might find it helpful to do some research on healthy relationships/warning signs, just to give you a bit more confidence to follow your gut.
The "Freedom Project" is a good online resource which you might find helpful. It is aimed at victims of physical, but also emotional, abuse.
For what it's worth, everything you have described screams out warning signs to me. He warns you he has a bad temper, so that when you see it, he can say "I told you so", "you knew I was like this when we got together" et. His behaviour also screams warnings of steroid use. Just because they were a health risk to him doesn't mean he doesn't use them. They are addictive. Alcoholics return to alcohol repeatedly, knowing it could kill them.
I would step away from this one, quickly.
The "Freedom Project" is a good online resource which you might find helpful. It is aimed at victims of physical, but also emotional, abuse.
For what it's worth, everything you have described screams out warning signs to me. He warns you he has a bad temper, so that when you see it, he can say "I told you so", "you knew I was like this when we got together" et. His behaviour also screams warnings of steroid use. Just because they were a health risk to him doesn't mean he doesn't use them. They are addictive. Alcoholics return to alcohol repeatedly, knowing it could kill them.
I would step away from this one, quickly.
I don’t have anything really to add but 400 women????! 
how’s he had the time?!
how’s he had the time?!Haha god 400 women.... what a load of rubbish. Where’s he shagging them? In the box room he sleeps in at his mums house?!!!!!I don’t have anything really to add but 400 women????!
In between taking his tik tok photos and checking how many likes he’s got
OP- get rid. He sounds awful, I’d be running a mile. Also if he’s slept with that many people I’d be conscious of his sexual health too.
He mentioned something once about being involved in swinging at one point
I've blocked him. This site gives me so much help when it comes to men lol.In between taking his tik tok photos and checking how many likes he’s got
OP- get rid. He sounds awful, I’d be running a mile. Also if he’s slept with that many people I’d be conscious of his sexual health too.
Thank you so much for your reply. I've now blocked him. After everything I've been through with my 2 exes, I think it was just nice to have some male attention but I just know there's so many bad points about this one so he's in the bin. I'm going to focus on myself and my son and if one day, I meet someone nice, fair enough, if not then that's OK to.