Hi all,
Long post here sorry but would be grateful for some advice.
I posted a few months back about being involved with a man for 12 years who was in a relationship. I ended it after coming here for advice. I'm in a much better place now after all of that but I feel like my view of men is a little bit tarnished now and don't know if I'm thinking in the right way.
A few weeks after that ended, an old friend with benefits of mine contacted me via Facebook. Ended up swapping numbers. Spoke for a while, we went on a date which was actually lovely. It was nice to spend time with a man where it wasn't about sex and just being in eachothers company. Nothing happened other than conversation and a nice time. We spoke constantly every day and then I got to a stage where I was feeling insecure and this then ended the conversation. Before that, he sent me some lovely messages, saying how he's always known he's had some sort of feelings for me and if there was ever a chance to be in a relationship with me, he would. After my little insecure moment, he refused to speak to me for a number of weeks. 2 weeks ago, he got back in touch saying he missed me, we met up again and sexual things happened, no sex though. He said he had a lovely night and was happy that he'd opened up and told me he missed me. We went 2 days or so without really speaking, his dog passed away and I know he was upset so I messaged him twice just saying I hope he's OK and he's left me on read. A bit of background about him, he's extremely intimidating to look at (very large muscly guy), he tells me he has a really bad temper but I've never seen that side of him, he's been single for years and has told me that he's slept with over 400 women (I asked). He can be very opinionated & sarcastic. He's also said that he can have really strong feelings for a girl but if there's an argument of some sort, he will completely cut them off. I asked why he does this and that in all relationships there will be an argument or indifference and that there's a possibility he could grow old alone if this is the case but in my opinion, he always likes to be right. He's also very vain, puts up videos of himself on tik tok and is so focused on how many likes he gets which I think is a bit sad. He lives with his mum and claims this is because of her illness and that he needs to be there for her which in a way is lovely, he's 33 and says he doesn't really intend on moving out. I'm seeing red flags but there's just something about him. I've made many mistakes when it comes to men, staying in an abusive relationship for to long, staying involved with a man for 12 years who was in a relationship and now this. Please give me all of the advice ladies and tell me how all of this sounds to a person on the outside. I don't know if I'm expecting to much.
Long post here sorry but would be grateful for some advice.
I posted a few months back about being involved with a man for 12 years who was in a relationship. I ended it after coming here for advice. I'm in a much better place now after all of that but I feel like my view of men is a little bit tarnished now and don't know if I'm thinking in the right way.
A few weeks after that ended, an old friend with benefits of mine contacted me via Facebook. Ended up swapping numbers. Spoke for a while, we went on a date which was actually lovely. It was nice to spend time with a man where it wasn't about sex and just being in eachothers company. Nothing happened other than conversation and a nice time. We spoke constantly every day and then I got to a stage where I was feeling insecure and this then ended the conversation. Before that, he sent me some lovely messages, saying how he's always known he's had some sort of feelings for me and if there was ever a chance to be in a relationship with me, he would. After my little insecure moment, he refused to speak to me for a number of weeks. 2 weeks ago, he got back in touch saying he missed me, we met up again and sexual things happened, no sex though. He said he had a lovely night and was happy that he'd opened up and told me he missed me. We went 2 days or so without really speaking, his dog passed away and I know he was upset so I messaged him twice just saying I hope he's OK and he's left me on read. A bit of background about him, he's extremely intimidating to look at (very large muscly guy), he tells me he has a really bad temper but I've never seen that side of him, he's been single for years and has told me that he's slept with over 400 women (I asked). He can be very opinionated & sarcastic. He's also said that he can have really strong feelings for a girl but if there's an argument of some sort, he will completely cut them off. I asked why he does this and that in all relationships there will be an argument or indifference and that there's a possibility he could grow old alone if this is the case but in my opinion, he always likes to be right. He's also very vain, puts up videos of himself on tik tok and is so focused on how many likes he gets which I think is a bit sad. He lives with his mum and claims this is because of her illness and that he needs to be there for her which in a way is lovely, he's 33 and says he doesn't really intend on moving out. I'm seeing red flags but there's just something about him. I've made many mistakes when it comes to men, staying in an abusive relationship for to long, staying involved with a man for 12 years who was in a relationship and now this. Please give me all of the advice ladies and tell me how all of this sounds to a person on the outside. I don't know if I'm expecting to much.
