Feathering the empty nest

[kmja]

I'm crying at work over her post

 

[Candycrush]

She’s done a blog post on her pregnancy hasn’t she? So I don’t really get the idea behind not discussing the baby at all once it’s here, as if it doesn’t exist. That isn’t going to help bereaved parents in any way is it?! I think discussing her experience of motherhood with baby #2 would make more sense. Im hopeful she will still want to open up with the new baby, but she seems quite set on coming off all social media for several months

She's done a pregnancy blog but I thought she might do an even more updated one with a photo of the baby. Kind of like a nice way to wrap up the series. If she doesn't turn off her DMs she better get ready for a barrage of messages asking her for details.

 

[MrsJones83]

I cant imagine what must have been going through her head in the ambulance and going down to theatre for an emergency Caesarean. Im new to her blog and story.
Im so so pleased for her and I hope she can relax a little and start to enjoy her new arrival.

Terrifying at the best of times, but with what she’s been through already

 

[Cmayfield]

Her name is carol monks

Wow!!! Baby has all the hair.

 

[barrrlohflaughs]

I’m pretty sure she’s mentioned before that someone else was manning her DMs. I think this was around the time of her pregnancy announcement though. It must be difficult trying to support others while still grieving your own loss.

 

[bexgreen1983]

She’s exactly who I was thinking of

What about Lucie.... she wont like it either. With her tagging of brands left, right and centre

 

[Lynseyp]

The baby does have a name as someone asked Carol and she replied yes but gave no details

 

[Ihatepeonies]

Yes I wonder if she will change her mind. The % of bereaved parents is very small compared to the audience who are invested in her journey and who have supported her by buying, swiping, sponsoring etc. Of course nobody has a right to see the baby but it would be strange just not to show or mention him/her ever?

 

[bexgreen1983]

How has she managed to write a book during the first 6 months of her maternity leave? I don’t have time to read a book let alone write one!

I really like her so I’m not being snide. But it makes me feel like there must be something wrong with me (chronic laziness?!) when other people are so productive in comparison.

she might have written a lot of it during her pregnancy.

 

[MrsHater]

I’m starting to feel the same. I’ve loved her page as a bereaved parent, but she has allowed people to invest in her story through all the highs and the lows, even announcing her pregnancy means that it isn’t a safe space anymore (especially in the very raw period.)

I can understand completely not sharing images of baby or at least not their face because a lot of people don’t want to share their children on a platform where they have so many followers. But no name, a fingers crossed to announce they’re here safely? That doesn’t sit right with me when you’ve allowed people in then you’re going to slam the door on them.

I completely agree; it does feel like a door being slammed in people’s faces. It’s actually quite selfish.

 

[bexgreen1983]

I don’t “so badly” need to know the name or see a pic. Stop trying to twist my words. I have my opinion and that is that.

‘I feel the least she could do for these people is to just post a photo of the baby and reveal the name’

These are your words....

 

[Leita]

I suppose for the Same reasons most of us have social media. To keep up with friends. Which I think is fair enough

Maybe.... but she’s posted 9 photos on her new account..... if I was taking a break which I have done. I’d find other ways to keep in touch. Each to their own

 

[LLJ]

She’s just made a very classy announcement bowing out of IG for the foreseeable future and I can’t say I blame her.

She said see you next year on her story!

 

[MrsHater]

LOL why the fuck has carol tagged seasalt clothing in her besotted granny post?! Pleeeease nobody wondered where your dress was from carol I promise

Cringe

 

[Leita]

I hope she doesn’t come back and show a bunch of strangers her baby. She doesn’t owe her followers anything. Zilch. Let her be. Who actually cares what her little treasure is called? I’d find it utterly bizarre if people were hounding me to know my baby’s name and see photos. I guess she’s Uber content as well as filled with anxiety and is trying her best to navigate her way through all of this.

It would be refreshing if she didn’t return. Would show she set out to enable a conversation about baby loss and get people talking about something that wasn’t spoken about so much.

I think she will come back to promote her latest book. I do wonder if her account will be less about her life now and still more about Teddy. But either way it’s her choice.

 

[aliceband]

Well, isn’t it a bit ironic that her book is named after asking her deceased sons name, but she has said she won’t reveal what her (hopefully) rainbow babys name is

Haha I never thought about that. The name will get out one way or another, could you really be arsed keeping a name a secret forever

 

[Wifo1976]

try this lovely lady she is a friend of mine she had just started up

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These are lovely

 

[aliceband]

And just like that....! Yet ANOTHER bump pic for all those who have lost and find bump pics painful to see, on all its ill-fitting-tits-hanging-over-the-top-dungaree glory.

She’s deleted it

 

[quietlyobserving]

<silence>
I really hope this means baby is here safely!!

She has been online though just not posting, she liked a post on insta on cornishwife.cornishlife that she shared 1 day ago.
I wonder if baby isn’t due for another few days yet. Xx

 

[xoxo GG]

I can’t see that comment/her reply anymore. Is it my phone or has it gone?!

No I can’t find it either, bit weird after we’ve discussed it. I know she’s been on here before as she was on her other thread (apologies for derailing the rave about thread!)