So, question for our tattler parents of neurodivergent kids, how do you feel about the topic that Asshat (and Cillame) brought up in the last few minutes of the vlog which was talking about grieving the things that your child might not, probably won't, or definitely won't do in life?
Asshat mentioned how P got very emotional and was crying at Becca's wedding during the father-daughter dance because that's something that Abbie will never do. Asshat blathers on talking about grieving those moments is normal and you shouldn't feel guilty for it. He says it's something that's going to continue happening and that you get used to it in some ways and you learn to deal with it and don't get into a deep depression over it.
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Princess Cillame has had multiple meltdowns on the vlog over Abbie not reaching certain milestones or not doing or having certain things that Cillame dreams that Abbie should do or have and the fact that she likely never will. One example is Abbie's Birthday gifts, P was most definitely in a deep depression in that vlog. You'd think there'd been a death in the family. Bawling her eyes out about how they'll never buy Abbie her first car, how she can't get Abbie all these stereotypical 'typical teenage girl' gifts that P had in mind. Saying she'd been super stressed out for days and the birthday gift shopping totally drained her. Tonight, Asshat was trying to make it sound like they are the most accepting of Abbie that they've ever been, they don't get nearly as upset or depressed as they used to and so on when that is NOT the truth.
So, the second half of my question is how much do you grieve for the things your kid(s) don't do and won't do... all of that... and what is your opinion on how A&P handle it (versus the bullshit Asshat was spewing tonight)..??
Not a parent, but one thing I've noted when they talked about this before (Ass once "interviewed" Lauren Brazee about it) is they make the assumption that their children would have done these things
anyway. Whereas there are many, many people in the world who are neurotypical but never get married, don't have children, didn't go to prom, still collect stuffed animals, never graduate from high school, or don't go to college, the list goes on and on. Plenty of people live an "atypical" life by choice. Additionally, any children have the ability and desire, but not the opportunity to do certain things, due to social or economic constraints. (For example, some kids may not be able to afford things on account of having a deadbeat father who avoided child support all their lives, right Ace?)
A&P never went to college...do they expect their parents to sit there weeping over their "missed milestones"? No, because they consider themselves "normal," and therefore whatever they do is fine. Do they cry about, or campaign for, or contribute funds for kids who can't afford college? No...in fact they intentionally withheld money from Asshole's own child, and blabbed to the whole Internet about their plans to bilk the taxpayers of North Carolina out of money by tricking App State into granting Golden Boy in-state tuition, all while publicly shitting all over people who accept any kind of "assistance."
What they're crying over is the fact that THEY are not getting what THEY want, and this is one situation they cannot manipulate their way out of. They had fantasies of a beautiful Southern belle Florida beach bum daughter...who would be pretty, popular, cool. Just like they had fantasies of a perfect jock son who'd be quarterback of the high school football team (Thunderfoot Jr.) and get voted Homecoming King before heading off to college and living the ideal fratboy life. They were able to manipulate, guilt, berate, humiliate, and even use their minimal Internet "clout" to make that happen with Isaiah (his own, theater-geek wishes and van life dreams be damned).
They cannot do that with Abbie, no matter how hard they try. They have already adjusted their dreams downwards (Maybe she can walk on the beach with her therapy dog? Be the first special needs model for Salt Life? Live in a carriage house in Riverside? Put a lid on a coffee cup like a real live barista?
Anything???) and she has "failed" (by their standards) to clear even those lower bars. Denial could not "fix" her. Special diets could not "fix" her. The lawsuits could not "fix" her. ABA could not "fix" her. Homeschool is not "fixing" her. No amount of bullying anybody, including Abbie herself, has so far been successful in turning Abbie into a Real Girl.
That is what they cry about. It has nothing to do with opportunities she's lost. Where is their crying over the opportunities they have kept her from in the here and now, instead of in their fantasy world? The sensory toys she is not given, the caretakers she has lost, the schools she was pulled from, the time they wasted on hockey games and tricycles instead of self-care and communication? Where is Assa's crying over the fact that, after 17 years,
his daughter still has no way to say "no" and
that is entirely his doing? Get bent, shitbrains. You're crying for yourselves, not for her.
Hope you guys are enjoying your day as well. 
Bad Piggy! 
but you guys see where this is going.
