yes, I watched one family member say goodbye to another in an A&E cubicle, they hadn’t spoken for years. I know some who missed out on saying goodbye and I know they regret it, You might not be close to these family members but it’s really not worth the time you’re putting into being upset or angry with them. Let it go, contact them to make peace for the sake of everyone in the family and let it go.Anyone been through any thing similar?!
We don't speak to my Father in law, and haven't done so for nearly 5 years. It happened just after my Mother in law died. He sends our children money for birthdays, Easter and Xmas. We do the same back and write thank you cards too. My husband said that his dad had never been a true father to him and as far as he's concerned he's lost his dad as well as his mum (she passed in 2014). 2 of our children don't remember him and often ask when they receive a card from him "who is Grampy?". Its very sad as he misses out on so much. If he ever shows up at our house i will gladly invite him in, my husband has no intention of ever seeing his father. To make matters worse my hubby is an only child, if it wasn't for my family he wouldn't have anyone.
Thank you, it’s hard not wanting to write everything on here. I’m still so upset by it all but I guess I will have to just get on with it.Now you've explained more then I definitely wouldn't apologise. The person who threatened your father needs to apologise.
so it’s your SIL that’s the problem here? She’s the one not responding to your messages and making it awkward about seeing her children? And where is your partner in all of this? Does he want to sort things out with her and to move on from it??After some advice! (Sorry it’s a long one)
My partner fell out with his sister/mum last year - long story short my sister in law didn’t have a relationship with her Nan (from dads side) and unfortunately she passed away last year and my sister in law kicked off because she didn’t find out about her passing until the next morning (she passed away during the night), they gave her a space for the funeral instead of the nans close friend going and she didn’t turn up until it had finished so missed it. Also my MIL chose to not message my partner to say she’s sorry to hear about his nan or ask if he’s okay because she didn’t want to upset my SIL by asking/consoling him.
My MIL didn’t bother getting him anything for his birthday which due to covid was the day of the funeral and the reason was because he’s difficult to buy for.
Since this they’ve not spoken and we had a strong relationship with our niece and nephews and since covid we’ve hardly seen them over the last year. We spoilt them for Christmas, Easter etc because we love to and they are our only niece/nephews we have.
They were due to stay when the rules relaxed over Christmas, they could stay but we were td weren’t allowed to leave the house with them (we wanted to take them to the park) and then this got cancelled when the rules quickly changed again.
Anyway now the rules are relaxing next Monday, I messaged my SIL to ask if the kids wanted to stay over (they have done many occasions previously) and she never replied.
I’ve been speaking normally with both my MIL & SIL throughout the whole thing and not getting involved in the situation. It’s just upsetting that the kids are now being involved and it’s ruining our relationship with them as we can never see them. I generally don’t know what to do, I’ve offered to pick them up and drop them back the next day so there’s no awkwardness but she doesn’t even reply.
I don’t know what else to do, we just want to spend time with a our niece and nephews instead they think we don’t care, when that’s not the case.
She’s organised a belated 1st birthday party for the youngest boy who’s birthday was in December (we went over and did the right thing in December and dropped his presents off and saw him at the door), and I again gave her another two dates for them to stay if they are free and she replied asking if we are coming to the party which we’ve said we aren’t because we don’t want any arguments to be started and also a few family members aren’t going because they are busy and my FIL isn’t invited nor this family even though he tries to make an effort to.
So now it’s turned into well if we aren’t coming to the party then we can’t see the kids, I’m just going around in circles and feel like giving up now it’s the same every time I ask.
so it’s your SIL that’s the problem here? She’s the one not responding to your messages and making it awkward about seeing her children? And where is your partner in all of this? Does he want to sort things out with her and to move on from it??
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