Yes - this is one of life’s biggest learnings.noun
- a person whose friendship cannot be relied on in times of difficulty.
Do you have any? If so, do you keep them at arm's length or still confide in them in the hope that they might prove their value?
There is always the possibility that she didn't see your "Happy Xmas" message. I would reach out - just once - to ask if she is okay; if she doesn't respond to that then move on.I have one of these friends, we used to be super close but since I moved to the other end of England in 2019 we’ve drifted apart ever since. I think I’ve been pretty good at keeping in touch with her but feel like I’m the one always starting conversations on text with her and she sometimes won’t reply for weeks. Last time I saw her in person the conversation felt a bit uneasy and like i was treading on eggshells! I’ve not messaged her again since I got no reply to a happy xmas message.
I’m meant to be her bridesmaid in August but we haven’t spoken for 3 months now! Not sure if I should just ask her if there’s something going on, or take the hint that our friendship has grown apart and it’s up to her if she wants to tell me I’m no longer part of her wedding plans?
I would leave it. These people know what they are doingThere is always the possibility that she didn't see your "Happy Xmas" message. I would reach out - just once - to ask if she is okay; if she doesn't respond to that then move on.
I can sometimes be really bad at replying and then if too long has passed, I find it even more difficult to reply as I feel bad for not replying straight away and leave it and leave it as don’t know what reason to give why I’ve left it so long, then feel really guilty and beat myself up for not texting and build it up into this massive thing! And then the other person texts again and it’s so much easier to reply. It’s not that I don’t want to talk, I just find it difficult sometimes if I’m in a bad headspace and my friends know this of me now so will keep trying.I have one of these friends, we used to be super close but since I moved to the other end of England in 2019 we’ve drifted apart ever since. I think I’ve been pretty good at keeping in touch with her but feel like I’m the one always starting conversations on text with her and she sometimes won’t reply for weeks. Last time I saw her in person the conversation felt a bit uneasy and like i was treading on eggshells! I’ve not messaged her again since I got no reply to a happy xmas message.
I’m meant to be her bridesmaid in August but we haven’t spoken for 3 months now! Not sure if I should just ask her if there’s something going on, or take the hint that our friendship has grown apart and it’s up to her if she wants to tell me I’m no longer part of her wedding plans?
I'd leave it, surely if your supposed to be the bridesmaid then she should be contacting you regarding arrangements as its her wedding not yours.Or to say that she's changed her mind for whatever reason. Its not for you to be chasing her up. Fuck that. Its sounds like she's moved on. Sorry but you'll meet better people.I have one of these friends, we used to be super close but since I moved to the other end of England in 2019 we’ve drifted apart ever since. I think I’ve been pretty good at keeping in touch with her but feel like I’m the one always starting conversations on text with her and she sometimes won’t reply for weeks. Last time I saw her in person the conversation felt a bit uneasy and like i was treading on eggshells! I’ve not messaged her again since I got no reply to a happy xmas message.
I’m meant to be her bridesmaid in August but we haven’t spoken for 3 months now! Not sure if I should just ask her if there’s something going on, or take the hint that our friendship has grown apart and it’s up to her if she wants to tell me I’m no longer part of her wedding plans?
Angry face at the friend at the end. I’ve had so many people like this in my life. Always want to offload but ‘have to dash’ on the rare occasion you wouldn’t mind venting.It is hard to let go, especially when they've been in your life for decades, but I have decided to do that with a couple recently and feel lighter for it.
One used me for advice and to do things for her; she never offered to reciprocate in any way - and if I did suggest catching up for a coffee it would always have to be at my house; strangely, I never went to hers in the 20 years we were "friends"!
Another is just very depressing and calls me to complain about everything and then finishes off by saying how it feels good to get that off her chest! Never asks how I am or offers anything from her side; it's just all one way.
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