confusedlady
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have been a yoyo dieter for years and did join SW and WW at different points of my late teens and early 20s, i am almost 30 now and have been recovering from disordered eating for about 3 years and i just wanted to throw some tips that really helped me (these may not work for everyone and i'd love to see other tips so i can continue my journey!):
- joining therapy!
- this is incredibly privileged as i pay for my therapy and i have no children and don't pay an extortionate amount to live because of where i live. i tried a few therapists through the NHS and CBT really did not gel with me, i needed to address the roots of my issues.
- i didn't join therapy initially for food related issues but once i was there it just came about that a lot of my emotional eating stemmed from not knowing how to cope with emotions (even positive ones!), i still sometimes emotionally eat now as i know ultimately it's just food and if i'm having a really hard time i deserve to cope and get through it in whatever way i can.
- not engaging in diet talk with others
- in the midst of my disordered eating i needed to distance myself from diet talk wherever possible and working in an office it's literally impossible to do that, if someone talked about their diet and mentioned a meal i would focus on that meal and create a conversation around it.
"oh for my diet i made sweet potato brownies"
"oh i didn't know you liked to bake?" - this was a super good way to distance myself from the diet itself but let the other person indulge a bit in what they want to talk about
- in the midst of my disordered eating i needed to distance myself from diet talk wherever possible and working in an office it's literally impossible to do that, if someone talked about their diet and mentioned a meal i would focus on that meal and create a conversation around it.
- intuitive eating
- this will not work for everyone but it worked very well for me. i read the book and the very basic principle is initially you just let your body have whatever it wants and my god was i ravenous. i think for about a year i just consumed and consumed and consumed and granted i gained quite a bit of weight, but then my brain just settled and all i wanted was a big load of veggies
- once you stop depriving yourself of food and labelling food as good and bad you can start understand what food actually makes you feel - if i eat pizza 2 days in a row i feel really low energy and sluggish, so i try to increase my veggies the next day! it helps because i am listening to what my body wants and i want my body to have energy and i want to feel upbeat, so i'll learn what works for me and what doesn't
- exercise!
- one of the things that frustrates me about weight loss accounts is the ENTIRE focus is on weight loss and that means it's just about calories and a lot of the time there isn't a mention on exercise, i've never been an active person even from when i was a child and then i decided one day to go for a run and something just clicked? i kept running and like oh my god the mental clarity it gave me!
- the benefits of exercise tend to boil down to what it can do to your weight but my weight hasn't really shifted but i feel a gazillion times better when i am consistently moving my body in a way that is fun for me
- my weight and what i eat do not affect my moral compass
- understanding that whatever diet i've done and whatever i put into my body and whatever shape my body is does not affect who i am as a person is huge to me. in life your body will change because of literally everything and anything, and that does not mean you're a better or worse person because of it
- when i used to binge i felt so shameful and guilty and sad and now if i slip up and binge i just look after myself, i deserve to heal and just because i ate 3 meals does not make me a bad person and does not change me inside