I hate the martyr mum shit too. I’m en route to LA right now - mine is work - however leave my kids and husband in the same situation as EL’s. And the questions of what happens if the kids get sick, or he gets sick, or the kids ‘just need mum’. Well, my husband is a capable adult who can deal with one of our children being unwell, can soldier on if he gets sick, and my kids are resilient enough to get through most things, and aware enough that their dad can do ALL the things I do both logistically and emotionally. Being a mum is definitely a blessing, but those buggers are bloody expensive and if mum has to work away sometimes to find the seemingly endless extracurriculars and ski trips and new shoes that HAVE to be bought and the 15 different sets of Peter Alexander pyjamas etc etc, then that’s just the way life has to go. Snarking on EL is fantastic coz fuck she does a lot wrong, but the general vibe of fathers being incapable of caring for their own children in the absence of their mums is rubbish.
