thatsmygrift
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I think you’re right. In her book, her Dad basically had no rules at all, and while she makes it sound like her mum tried to course correct, she was still running round pubs with fake IDs and turning up to school hungover - and no one seems to have cared?I am not a risk taker either and all my choices as a young teenager, an adult, and now as a Mum come back to the thought of "If I was hurt or died and my parents came to learn about my choice, would they forgive me immediately/easily?", such as drinking, drugs, distracted driving, speeding etc... which now has extended to "If my child (their grandchild) was harmed or seriously injured, would my parents easily forgive me?".
I imagine myself calling my parents to say "we've been hurt" and never wanting to have to admit or explain that I made an active choice that resulted in unnecessary harm, particularly of their grandchild.
I grew up in quite a strict-ish home though and I don't think Ellidy did, so I wonder if she simply doesn't have this concept of family disappointment. Like any choice she makes would be forgiven, no matter how irresponsible...
Seems like Chumpy never cared that she never held a job for too long or didn’t seem to have much direction.
She has a huge support system, but on the flip side she’s never had to have a steady income or parent on her own for more than a day or so. People are always there on standby to swoop in and help.